Kwiminyaka emibini ubudala, abantwana banokuqala ukuthatha uxanduva lokwenza oko iimfuno zakho ngokuzimeleyo kwaye uyeke ukusebenzisa i-diaper. Ukuba umntwana wakho ungomnye wabaqalayo, unokuqalisa ngokuzithandela, kodwa Kwenzeka ntoni xa ungafuni ukuya kwindlu yangasese?
Ukuze ukwazi ukulungisa Kuya kufuneka utyale umonde kolu hlobo lweqhinga kwaye kungokubonisa ukuba abantwana kufuneka bafunde ngokuzimela kwabo ukuya kwigumbi lokuhlambela. Sisakhono ekufuneka besenzile kwinqanaba elifanayo njengabanye ukwenzela ukuba kamva bangabinangxaki xa kufuneka beye esikolweni. Kodwa ungalahli ithemba, umntwana ngamnye uhamba ngesantya sakhe kwaye kuhlala kukho izicwangciso ezinokusebenza ngokumangalisayo.
Kutheni umntwana wam engafuni ukuya kwindlu yangasese?
Zininzi izizathu zokuba kutheni umntwana angala ukuya kwigumbi lokuhlambela. Esona sizathu siphambili kukuba ayilungiswanga kakuhle, kodwa kukho amaxesha apho ikho kwaye isabiza iindleko zokuyisebenzisa. Uloyiko alunasiseko, mhlawumbi ngenxa yokungazi, okanye kuba indlu yangasese ibonakala inochuku. Yindawo enokubonakala ngathi ingumngxuma omkhulu kwaye bacinga ukuba banokungena ngaphakathi.
Imvukelo ihamba nokukhanyela. Umntwana wakho unokuba kweli nqanaba apho athi 'hayi' kuyo yonke into. Kwezi meko kuyacetyiswa ukuba umntwana aguquke ngesantya sakhe kwaye isigaba sakho sokufunda siziqhelanisa ngaphandle koxinzelelo. Kodwa ukuba sele uluqalisile uqeqesho kwaye awufuni ukuluyeka, ungazama iindlela esizichaza kamva.
Esinye isizathu isenokubangelwa kukuqhinwa. Umntwana uqalile ukuchama ngokuchanekileyo, kodwa uyathandabuza ukuba nesisu. Ukuqunjelwa, uyalibazisa ukuya kwigumbi lokuhlambela kwaye wenze umjikelo okhohlakeleyo. Unokudala ukungavisisani phakathi kokufuna nokungakwazi kwaye yongeza ngakumbi ukuqhina ngokuqaqamba kwesisu.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ukhe wehlelwa ngumqobo kwaye andisafuni ukuya kwigumbi lokuhlambela xa yonke into yayiqale kakuhle. Isenokuba sisizathu esikhethekileyo okanye kukho umsitho omtsha ekhaya. Izizathu eziphambili ezibaqhubela ekwenzeni njalo zininzi. Okanye kuba usiqalile isikolo, ukuzalwa komntakwabo, utshintsho kwindlela yakhe yesiqhelo okanye ngenxa yokuba abazali bakhe bohlukene.
Iimpawu zokuba ukulungele ukuya kwindlu yangasese kunye nendlela yokunceda
Abantwana abaneminyaka yobudala ethile ukuba bafunde ukuya kwigumbi lokuhlambela, nangona ihlala icetyiswa emva kweminyaka emibini. Ukuba siyabona ukuba kukho imiqondiso efana nokuqala ukuchukumisa i-diaper engcolileyo okanye ukuyeka ukuchama kunye ne-diaper, emva koko banokuba sele bekulungele ngokulandela ezi patheni.
Eyona mfanelo kukujonga unyana wakho xa unokufuna loo mzuzu. Kulungile yenza inkqubo yesiqhelo: xa uphuma ebhedini, xa ugqiba ukutya okanye ngexesha elithile emva kwemini okanye ngaphambi kokulala.
Ukuba umbono kukusebenzisa indlu yangasese, unako Sebenzisa iiadaptha ukuze bangangeni ngaphakathi kwaye ndiziva ndikhuselekile. Ukuba kunzima kubo ukuba banyuke kuba iphakame kakhulu, inyathelo elincinci linokongezwa ukuze bakwazi ukunyuka bodwa. Ngexesha lokusetyenziswa kwaye ukuba yonke into ihambe kakuhle, angathatha inxaxheba ekugungxuleni nasekuyenzeni ibe sisihlandlo esimnandi. Baza kucinezela iqhosha, bamamele isandi kwaye baqwalasele ukuba yonke into iyanyamalala kwangoko kwaye icocekile.
Ukuba umntwana wakho unengxaki yokuqhinwa kwaye ngunobangela wokubuyela umva, kuyacetyiswa ukuba umncede ekuthabatheni ulwelo oluninzi okanye ukutya okuninzi lwefayibha. Phakathi kwazo iijusi zeziqhamo, iziqhamo eziqinileyo, imifuno kunye nezinye iipapa.
Kukho abantwana abathi barhoxe kwinkqubo yabo kuba ngexa elithile ifumene ingozi kwaye yabasinda. Kwezi meko kufuneka uphonononge ngobunono ukuba kwenzeke ububi kwaye kwixesha elizayo uya kwenza ngcono kakhulu.
Kukulungele oko ungaze umngxolise okanye wenze imidlalo yeqonga ngokungakwenzi ngokuchanekileyo. Inika ukubaluleka kakhulu kwingxaki kwaye iya kubanika amandla. Eyona nto inokwenzeka, banokuba nomdla wokuphinda bayenze, ngaphandle kweentloni nangaphandle kokuzisola.
Ukuba unomdla kuyo yonke into enxulumene nesi sihloko ungafunda ngakumbi kumanqaku ethu apho sichaza khona "ufundisa njani umntwana ukuba achame","izinto zokuthambisa zendalo zokuqhinwa ebantwaneni"Okanye"amaqhosha ama-8 okuba umntwana ashiye ilweyile ".