Kukoyikeka kwabantu abaninzi kunye nesizathu sokuba amawaka ezibini ezitshatileyo anquma ukungabi nabantwana okanye ahlehlise ukukhulelwa: ukungabikho kokulala. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba uphile ungalali? Yonke into iya kubonisa ukuba ewe, emva kokuba yonke impucuko iqhubeka ikhula nangona iyaziwa ukuba iintsana ezisandul 'ukuzalwa azilali okanye, ukuba zilala, zithatha ixesha elifutshane. Kodwa, kubonakala ngathi kwaye nangona izibikezelo, ezinye izibini ezininzi zikhuthazwa ukuba ziqalise i-adventure yokukhulelwa. Kwaye ewe, kunokwenzeka ukuba emva kokubeleka, uya kuzibuza ngokuphindaphindiweyo "kutheni usana lwam lungalali? ».
Yaye kuthekani ukuba akukho zimpendulo zipheleleyo? Mhlawumbi akufuneki sithethe ngesizathu esicacileyo sokuba kutheni iintsana ezisandul’ ukuzalwa zilala kancinci okanye zingalali kwaphela. Kukho amawaka eethiyori, ukusuka kwiingcali zenzululwazi, oogqirha, iingcali zokunakekelwa kwabantwana, amagcisa okukhulisa abantwana, iingcali zengqondo, njl. Kodwa ndicinga ukuba eyona nto indivalele kakhulu—inabantwana ababini abathe ngethamsanqa balala kamnandi phantse kwasekuqaleni-leyo endayiva kwiminyaka emininzi eyadlulayo: umntwana uyabuqhela ubomi. Ewe ewe ... kwaye oko kuthatha ixesha.
izinto eziphathekayo
Kwaye kancinci ndicinga ukuba kunje: ukushiya isibeleko esifudumeleyo, esithambileyo, esinothando kwaye udlulele kwisiphithiphithi sehlabathi eliqhelekileyo kubandakanya ukuziqhelanisa. Abantwana baphuma kwindawo emnyama, benyanyekelwa kwaye basondele kumthombo wabo kuphela wokhuseleko kunye nokudibanisa ukujongana nendalo entsha kunye neyokulinga, egcwele izandi kunye neentlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuvuselela. Ngubani onokulala ngoxolo phambi kwale nyaniso intsha...
Emva koko kukho izinto ezininzi eziphilayo, kuyinyaniso ukuba kukho iintsana ezizalwa zinenkqubo yokwetyisa engekavuthwa kwaye zinegesi kunye nezinye izifo zesisu ezibachaphazelayo. Esinye isizathu sokuba usana alulali kungenxa yokuba kufuneka aziqhelanise neeshedyuli ezingaphandle kwesibeleko, aziqhelanise nokulala ebusuku nokungalali emini. Olu tshintsho kumjikelezo wokulala alufezeki ukusuka kwelinye ukuya kwelinye, kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi kufuna inkqubo yokulungelelanisa.
Ngokuqhubekayo nezizathu zonyango, ukutya kwakhona kuthatha indawo esembindini. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba a wondleke kakuhle sana Ungalala ngcono. Nangona akukabikho ziqinisekiso kwaye umntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa unokungalali, ngokutya okulinganayo kunye nokuqhelekileyo amathuba okuba umntwana angaphumli anqongophele. I abasanda kuzalwa abasoloko beyazi indlela yokuncanca kakuhle ukuze basele ubisi oluncinci ngexesha lokuncancisa. Xa kunjalo banokulala kancinci. Ukuba usana olusandul’ ukuzalwa alulali, qiniseka ukuba londlekile, ukuba ukondla kuzolile yaye aluminxi ukuze lumlalise emva kokuba lutyile.
Iphupha elitsha lokuzalwa
Ngaphandle kwezinto eziphilayo, esinye sezizathu zokuba kutheni Iintsana ezisanda kuzalwa azilali iphendula kwimiba ye-psychoemotional. Kwaye oku kunxulunyaniswa ngokusondeleyo kwimeko eqhelekileyo kamama. Nangona kungenakwenzeka ukufikelela kwizigqibo ezipheleleyo, umama ozolileyo nogxininisekileyo uya kudlulisela ezi mvakalelo emntwaneni, into eya kuthi ithande imvisiswano.
Los abasanda kuzalwa babhala yonke into eyenzekayo ebangqongileyo, abawahluli umzimba wabo koomama babo yaye bawugqala njengowongezelelekileyo kubo. Ukuba umama akanamonde, unovalo, udakumbile okanye uchaphazeleke kakhulu, kusenokwenzeka ukuba akanakukwazi ukuqinisekisa ukuzola kunye nokuzola okufunwa ngumntwana. Kakade ke, xa ulala kancinci okanye ungalali kwaphela, kunzima kakhulu ukuba uzolile. Ngale ndlela, kulungile ukuba nenethiwekhi yenkxaso enokuthi isikhulule xa siziva ngathi siphezulu okanye sichithe kakhulu.
Ukongeza kubawo, kukho abahlobo, oomakhulu, oodade okanye abanye abantu abaya kukwazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukunyamekela umntwana okwethutyana ukuze umama ahlambe kwaye aphumle okwethutyana ukuze abuyise amandla kunye neemvakalelo. ibhalansi. Ukuba u usana olusandul’ ukuzalwa alulali, zama ukurekhoda indlela oziva ngayo ukuze ubone indlela oziva ngayo kwaye ulungelelanise yonke into enokuhlengahlengiswa ukuze ube nomoya ovumayo ngakumbi.