I-complexes emntwini kunzima ukuyilawula kwaye ayisoloko isenzeka xa umntu emdala. Abantwana abaninzi babonisa olu hlobo lokuziphatha kwasebancinane, ukungazithembi, ukuzithemba okuphantsi, ukujamelana neemeko ezinzima esikolweni nabanye abantwana, ziimeko ezinokwenza umntwana azicingele.
Oku kwenzeka kwiminyaka ethile xa abantwana beqala ukuzazi ngakumbi. Oku ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka kwiminyaka emithandathu, nangona kunjalo Khumbula ukuba umntwana ngamnye wahlukile. kwaye kufuneka usoloko uhlonipha izingqisho zento nganye, ngaphandle kokuzithelekisa. Kuba mhlawumbi ayinaxhala, mhlawumbi ifuna nje ixesha elingakumbi.
Unjani umntwana ozicingelayo
Ukuthathela ingqalelo iimfuno zabantwana kubalulekile ekukhuleni kwabo. Ngamanye amaxesha abazali abaqondi ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo, izibonelelo eziphelelwe lixesha ezifana nezo zisetyenziselwa ukwenza uluhlu lwabantwana ziyasetyenziswa ngaphandle kokucinga ngezidingo zabo. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, abantwana abaneengxaki zeemvakalelo badla ngokubizwa ngokuba ziintloni, ezingaqhelekanga, ezingahlalisaniyo kunye namanye amagama alishwa ngokulinganayo.
Ukuba ingxaki ifunyenwe kumntwana, kubalulekile ukufumana indlela yokuyicombulula ngokukhawuleza, kubandakanywa nokujika kwi-psychologist ukuba kuyimfuneko. Ukwenza unyango asiyonto imbi, yindlela yokunika abantwana izixhobo abazidingayo ukuze balawule iimvakalelo. Ke, Ukuba unomntwana ozivayo, kubalulekile ukufuna uncedo lwengcali komncinci. Ii-complexes ebantwaneni zihlala zenzeka ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo kwaye enye yeengxaki ezinkulu namhlanje ziinethiwekhi zentlalo. Ngokubanzi iziza zobuxoki apho inyani engaqhelekanga iboniswa. Loo nto yenza abafana bakholelwe ukuba ubomi bakhe okanye umntu wakhe linqanaba lesibini.
I-inferiority complex
Kwiminyaka ethile abantwana bafumanisa ukuba indlela yabo yokuphila. Umntu wakhe, usapho lwakhe okanye amasiko akhe awafani nawabanye abantwana. kunini baqalise ukuzithelekisa nabanye kwaye i-inferiority complex ibonakala. Ngamanye amaxesha kubangelwa yinto ebonakalayo, ngamanye amaxesha ibangelwa yinto enye anayo kwaye enye ingenayo. Mhlawumbi ngumxube wayo yonke into, oko kongezelelwa ukungazithembi okwenza umntwana angakwazi ukuzixabisa kakuhle.
Ukuba umntwana une-complex luphawu lokuba ufuna uncedo, kuba ukuba alulawulwa lunobunzima kwaye kukhokelela kwiingxaki ezinzulu. Ii-complexes zenyama zihamba kunye nokuphazamiseka kokuziphatha ekutyeni, phakathi kwabanye kwaye akuyona into engafanele ijongelwe phantsi, kuba ayizisombululi ngokwayo. Kwakhona kufuneka uqaphele kakhulu ukuziphatha komntwana kwiintanethi zentlalo, apho yonke into ibonakala iphelele kwaye yenza abantwana babe nembono engalunganga yokwenyani.
Kwelinye icala, abantwana banokuba nobunzima ngenxa yezinye izizathu, njengesikolo. Abanye abantwana baziva bephantsi kunabanye abenza bhetele, ingakumbi abo bazama ngamandla kodwa bangawufumani umphumo oyifunayo. Emva koko, kubalulekile ukusebenza ngempumelelo kuphononongo lomntwana, kuba kusenokwenzeka ukuba akayazi indlela yokufunda kakuhle. Oku, ngaphezu kokumenza azive ephantsi, kunokubangela ingxaki yokukhathazeka ukuba umntwana akayi kukwazi ukuyilawula.
Zonke ezi ngxaki zinokusonjululwa ngokubonisana nogqirha. Yiloo nto ke abalungiselelwa yona, ukuthintela iingxaki zabantwana ekubeni zingabi ziingxaki zabantu abadala. Gxininisa kubantwana bakho intlonipho kubanyangi, musa ukubenza bacinge ukuba ukuya kwisayikholojisti yinto embi okanye engaqhelekanga, kuba ngaloo ndlela baya kuthatha ingcamango njengento eqhelekileyo. Funa uncedo ukuba ucinga ukuba unomntwana ongazithembiyo, kuba akumnandanga ukuziva uphantsi kwaye umntwana wakho uya kubandezeleka ngenxa yokuziva ngolo hlobo. Ngoncedo oluncinane kunye nezixhobo eziyimfuneko, omncinci uya kufunda ukuzithanda nokuzixabisa ngendlela ekufanele ngayo.