Ngalo lonke ixesha umfazi owaziwayo emitha okanye engumama, abantu bayathetha ngayoNgokwenyani, hayi kuphela malunga neli candelo lobomi babo, kuba kubonakala ngathi sinomdla kakhulu kubomi babanye abantu kodwa sidume kancinci. Ndicinga ukuba kuya kuba nzima ukuba yimvumi, umsasazi, umdlali weqonga,… kwaye abanye bakukhangele kuwe; mhlawumbi kuyinyani ukuba "lixabiso lodumo" kwaye ithathwa njengendalo kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Njengoko uyazi, uSara Carbonero ebengumama okwesibini (malunga nenyanga edlulileyo) kwaye izolo iphephancwadi lefashoni libonise 'ukugxekwa' okufumanekileyo kuba uzimisele ukujoyina umsebenzi wakhe kungekudala. Koomama (hayi abadumileyo kuphela) kuya kuhlala kukho umntu osicazululayo ukuze abone ukuba sizenza njani izinto, nokuba sithini isimbo sethu sobumama. Into endiyifumanayo ilahlekile kuninzi lolu hlalutyo ziimfuno zomntwana.
Kutheni ewe: oomama bahluke kakhulu omnye komnye, nangona kunjalo ukuba ngumama akusisihloko sokuzilolonga okanye ilungelo, kodwa luxanduva olukhulu, kuba indima yethu kuphuhliso lwamantombazana namakhwenkwe ithatha isigqibo. Umzekelo, apha besithetha yokuphazamiseka kwibhondi xa kungekho kuqhotyoshelweyo ngenxa yokunqongophala kokuthetha ngokweemvakalelo okanye ukulahlwa (ngengqondo ebanzi yegama). Ngumcimbi omncinci owaziwayo kodwa unokuchaphazela kakubi ukukhula komntwana, kunye neziphumo zexesha elizayo.
Umama kunye nobudlelwane neentsana.
Intatheli eyaziwayo ithi inoncedo kunye nootatomkhulu noomakhulu ababamba isandla (sele siyazi ukuba 'ukukhulisa umntwana udinga isizwe sonke'). Kwelinye icala, kuba usapho luhlala ePortugal kufuneka bahambe iikhilomitha ezingamawaka ambalwa ukuya kusebenza, ayizukuba yeyokuqala kwaye ingeyiyo kuphela; kwaye iya kulungelelaniswa njengoko unqwenela kwaye kangangoko unako. Ndiyaqonda ukuba ukucinga ngendlela oza kuyomeleza ngayo ubudlelwane obudibeneyo nosana akuyomfuneko, kodwa bendifuna ukudlulisa ukuba kubaluleke ngakumbi kunokuba ucinga, kuba ngabantu abasesichengeni kwaye sele beqalisile ukwenza ubudlelwane kunye nonina, kwaye into abanethemba lokuqhubeka nayo
Apha besinokuthetha ngezihloko ezahlukeneyo kodwa ezinxulumene noko, ke (ukucinga ngazo zonke iintsana) ndiyakukukhumbula oko ixesha lokuxothwa (ixesha eligqiba ukukhula kwe-intrauterine ebantwini) kufuneka lihlale liqikelelwa kwiinyanga ezili-9. Abancinci bafuna (kwaye ewe, kunyanzelekile) ukuba baphathwe ngeengalo, nangona kungasoloko kufuneka ukuba ngumama, kodwa kuya kuba mnandi kakhulu ukuba oyena mntu ubalaseleyo kuye bekunguye.
Kwelinye icala, eli nqanaba le-puerperal abambalwa abalaziyo ngokweenkcukacha, kwaye ke alikhawulelwanga 'kwedwa' odumileyo, enyanisweni inokuhlala ukuya kwiminyaka emibini ubudala (iyaqikelelwa). Inentsingiselo ebalulekileyo ngaphaya kokubuyiselwa komzimba kukamama, ukudityaniswa emsebenzininjl. Kuba umama uthatha isigqibo sokuba umntwana 'avulele' umhlaba, kwaye akwazi ukufumana amava kwaye aphile yedwa, hayi ngonina.
Kuya kuba lula kakhulu ukuba ...
Uxolelwaniso esinalo yayiyenye (Oko kukuthi, uxolelwaniso lwenene), okanye ukuba uluntu alubonanga oomama abatsha abathatha iintsana zabo bayokusebenza njengabangaphandle (Uyamkhumbula uCarolina Bescansa?). Ukuba besihlala kuluntu olukhulu kuno usapho esiluqhelileyo, kwaye oomama khange bahambe kude kakhulu ukuya emsebenzini kuya kuba lula ngokulula, enyanisweni kukho iindawo apho ikhefu lokuya kubeleka lingenangxaki kuba ngobuninzi bendalo umntwana ukhulelwe, uyaphakama kwaye umntwana uthatha inxaxheba usapho kunye noluntu, ngaphandle kokuhlukaniswa nomama ixesha elide.
Ukubuyela kumxholo wesiqalo: Kuninzi endikwaziyo malunga nosapho lakwaCasillas Carbonero, kodwa into endiyaziyo kukuba ngokubanzi kufuneka sithethe kakhulu malunga nobuntwana, hayi malunga neewadi zokubeleka.. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ukuzalisekiswa kwabafazi kufanelekile ukuba kungangqubani nokuba ngumama (nangona ngamanye amaxesha kunjalo), kwaye kuyacaca ukuba ukuba wonke umntu unika uluvo lwakhe, umntu ngamnye uyakuthetha into ibenye. Kwenzeka ntoni ukuba i-biology yile nto iyiyo kwaye kukho iimfuno zeentsana ezingaphaya koluvo lomntu.
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