Ukuba nomntwana lelinye lawona mava amnandi kunye nakhokelela ekubeni umntu abe nawo. Nangona kunjalo, onke amava anecala lawo B kwaye, kule meko, liguqulela kwimisebenzi eyahlukeneyo ekufuneka siyithathile: kukungalali, ukutshintsha amanabukeni okanye fundisa umntwana ukuya ngasese.
¿Wazi njani ukuba nini ixesha elifanelekileyo lokubeka amanabukeni? Ngaba ukhona umzuzu ochanekileyo okanye ngaba kuyafuneka ukuba ulinde umntwana ukuba abonakalise utshintsho oluthile olunika irekhodi lokuba ukulungele ukwenza le nkqubo? Kuwo wonke lo myalezo, siya kuzama ukuphendula le mibuzo ukuze olu tshintsho lube lolwendalo kunye nolwemvelo.
Ingqalelo xa ubeka phantsi amanabukeni
Ndikhe ndabona abazali abaninzi bephantse banyanzela abantwana babo beka phantsi amanabukeni, ngokungathi ukuyenza ngaphambi kwexesha yayisisalathiso sokukhula okuthile. Amava abonisa ukuba akukho mthetho ungqongqo kwaye yiyo loo nto kungcono ukuba siphaphe kwaye siqwalasele inkqubo yokukhula yabantwana bethu.
¿Ufundisa njani kwiPotty Mntwana wam? Impendulo ilula: ukuyijonga. Ewe kunjalo, le mpendulo inokubonakala ilula kakhulu xa uqala nje. Inyani yile yokuba kunjalo abantwana ngokwabo ababonisa iimpawu zokuba bakulungele ukubeka phantsi amanabukeni.
Kungenxa yoko le nto, ngaphaya kwezinye izinto esinokuthi sizenze, into yokuqala kukujonga isimo sengqondo kunye nokuba kunokwenzeka utshintsho kwiindlela zokuziphatha zabantwana.
I-diaper eyomileyo, inkwenkwe ilungile
Esinye sezibonakaliso zokuqala ukuba umntwana ulungele ukuya kwigumbi lokuhlambela xa evuka nge-diaper eyomileyo kwaye uba manzi nje xa evukile ekuseni. Oku kubonisa ukuba Ungabamba i-pee ye ubusuku bonke kwaye iyafana nenyani yokuba inewotshi eyakhelweyo ngaphakathi kwaye ifikelele kwinqanaba elithile lokukhula. Ukugqiba inkqubo, nje abazali bayamsusa amanabukeni ngokukhawuleza xa evuka amse kwigumbi lokuhlambela ukuze emva koko ukwazi ukwenza iimfuno zakho apho.
Ngexesha lokuqala, kuya kufuneka uhlale nomntwana ethetha okanye emfundela ibali ukuze abandakanye umkhwa kodwa kuqhelekile ukuba oku kwenzeke ngokukhawuleza ukuba umntwana ukulungele. Enye indlela kukukhetha imbiza okanye ukumnika iadaptha yangasese ukuze umntwana azive ekhululekile kwaye onwabile.
Ngalo lonke ixesha ekwenza kwindlu yangasese okanye embizeni yakhe, kubalulekile ukumbhiyozela kwaye ambuyekeze ngokumanga nangokuwola ukuze azive ephinda ulandelelwano. Kwelinye icala, kuyacetyiswa ukuthi amabinzana afana "ungumntwana omkhulu kwaye ukhaliphile" kuba abantwana bayazithanda ezi ntlobo zamabinzana.
Ukubaluleka kwengxoxo
Ukuba usana lweminyaka emibini okanye ngaphezulu luqala susa ilweyile ngokwakho Isenokuba sisalathi sokuba umntwana ukulungele ukubeka phantsi amanabukeni. Kananjalo kunokwenzeka ukuba xa echama okanye epopola akakunyamezeli ukungaphatheki kakuhle kwaye ucela kutshintshwe kwangoko. Oku kukwabonisa ukuba kunjalo abantwana bakulungele ukuya kwindlu yangasese.
Umbuzo kwakhona: Ufundisa njani umntwana wam ukuba aye ngasese kwezi meko? Inkqubo ngokubanzi imfutshane kwaye ilula. Susa ii-diapers kwaye uza kubona ukuba malunga neveki aqala ukuzikhulula kwigumbi lokuhlambela okanye embizeni. Kungenzeka ukuba amaxesha ambalwa okuqala angenziwa ngaphezulu de ubandakanye umbono wokuba kufuneka u-odole kuqala.
Ingxoxo sisixhobo esikhulu kwezi meko. Xa ususa amanabukeni, Kuya kufuneka uchazele umntwana ukuba ukulungele ukuya kwigumbi langasese kwaye yiyo loo nto kufuneka wazise xa uziva uthanda. Kuyafana ukuba ingozi yenzekile. Kwezo meko, kunqande ukumcela umngeni kwaye endaweni yoko uqinise isicelo ukuze kwixesha elizayo xa ekhumbula ukubuza xa evakalelwa njalo. ¿Wazi njani ukuba umntwana ukulungele ukubeka phantsi amanabukeni? Ukuba iiveki ziyahamba kwaye umntwana uqhubeka nokwakha phezu kwayo, isenokungabi lixesha lokuqhubeka. Ngamanye amaxesha iinyanga ezimbalwa zanele ukuba ibe lixesha elifanelekileyo.
Khumbula ukubeka iimpahla ekulula ukuzisusa ukuze ziphumelele kwaye uphephe iimfuno ezinkulu ukwenzela ukuba olu tshintsho lungabi lusizi kodwa lutshintsho lwendalo.