Ungalikhetha njani igama lomntwana ngaphandle kokuxabana nezihlobo, yinto ezibuzwayo zizibini ezininzi xa zilindele umntwana. Amagama ngaphambili ayekhethwa ngokwesiko, ngoko ke ayenganyulwanga ngokwenyani, kodwa ayenzelwe kwanangaphambi kokumitha. Amakhwenkwe namantombazana esizukulwana esitsha amkele amagama ootatomkhulu noomakhulu nootamkhulu, ngokungenakuphikiswa, nokuba bayathandwa ngabazali babo.
Into esoloko isenziwa nanamhlanje kwizindlu ezininzi, nangona ingekho kangako njengesibophelelo. Kule mihla, ukuba igama lesizalwane likhethelwe abantwana, lihlala lirhafu. Nangona kunjalo, kusekho iimeko apho usapho lufuna ukungenelela egameni leentsana ezizayo kunye nabazali, kunokuba nzima. Ke, Ukuba ukule ndawo, sikushiya neengcebiso ukukunceda ukhethe igama lomntwana.
Ukukhetha igama lomntwana, umba wabini
Kuhle kakhulu ukuba uthathele ingqalelo uluvo losapho, kuba ngaloo ndlela baziva bebandakanyeka ngakumbi. Kodwa oko kuhlala kufanele kube phantsi kwesigqibo sobuqu, kwaye kunganyanzelekanga. Indlela apho usapho, ngaphaya kwabazali, lubandakanyeka izigqibo ezichaphazela ubomi bomntwana, hayi Kuya kufuneka uthethelele iminqweno yabantu ababaluleke kakhulu kule meko.
Ngamanye amagama, ayifani nokubuza ootatomkhulu malunga nezinto abazithandayo okanye oomalume ukuze babenokhetho oluninzi kunokuba bakhethe into abayifunayo ukuze bangabakhubekisi. Ukuba uyayivumela, ekugqibeleni uya kuzisola nokuba uyalithanda igama elikhethiweyo. Ngenxa yokuba awuyi kuyeka ukukhumbula ukuba ukwenze oko phantsi koxinzelelo. Khetha Igama lomntwana sesinye sezigqibo ezibophelelayo ukuthathwa xa ulindele usana.
Kuba igama elimiselwe umntu ongekafiki emhlabeni, liya kuhamba naye ubomi bakhe bonke. Ke ngoko, isigqibo kufuneka siqwalaselwe ngokupheleleyo, ngaphandle koxinzelelo lwangaphandle. Cinga lonto igama Luphawu lomntu kwaye umntwana wakho uya kuyinxiba. Eyona ndlela yokuthatha isigqibo ikwindlela ezolileyo, ngoncedo lomnye umzali kwaye kuthathelwa ingqalelo ukhetho lwabo bobabini.
Ungayigatya njani ingcebiso yosapho?
Ootatomkhulu noomakhulu okanye oomalume banokufuna ukukhuthaza okanye ukukucebisa xa ukhetha igama lomntwana wakho. Njengoko kunokwenzeka ukuba awazi kakuhle ukuba ungayala njani ngaphandle kokukhubekiswa. Ukuba uziva unyanzelekile, zama ukuyinxiba ngasese ngokungathi kuyothusa wonke umntu. Bavumele bakunike ukhetho lwabo, baxelele ukuba uza kuthatha ingqalelo kwaye xa ixesha lifikile, uya kubaxelela ukuba ngubani igama elikhethiweyo.
Njani kwaye nini ukuxelela kuya kuxhomekeka kuwe. Ukuba unoxinzelelo kakhulu kwaye ufuna ukuwususa lo mbandela ebomini bakho ukonwabela ukukhulelwa kwakho ngoxolo lwengqondo, ungade ulinde nokuba umntwana azalwe kwaye abhaliswe. Ngale ndlela akukho mntu unokuthetha nantoni na kuba izokuhamba kakhulu, nokuba akayithandi imbono. Ukuba ukhetha, ungayenza ngendlela emnandi.
Bhala igama kwindawo ekhethekileyo, ezinye izikipa, ipeyinti enkulu, kwaye ungade ubhalele nelungu ngalinye losapho ileta. Ngale ndlela, nokuba abalithandi igama kakhulu okanye ayisiyiyo leyo bebengayikhetha, baya kuziva bonelisekile kuba ukuba neenkcukacha zokuyenza ikhetheke kangaka kuyakubenza batshintshe ingqondo. Khumbula ukuba Abantu abaninzi bazakuthatha inxaxheba kubomi bosana ukuba bayamthanda kwaye baya kufuna ukumkhathalela.
Kwaye leyo yinto entle enefuthe elihle kubomi nakwimeko yengqondo yabantwana. Kodwa kusoloko kuthando, uthando kunye nokuqonda. Kungenxa yokuba xa into iye yanyanzeleka, inokona elona xesha likhethekileyo, njengokufika kobomi bomntwana. Yonwabele le nkqubo yokukhetha igama lomntwana ngasese kwaye uya kuhlala uyikhumbula njengenye yezona zihlandlo ezikhethekileyo zokukhulelwa kwakho.