Ukuzifumanela ixesha sesinye sezifundo ezilindileyo kuninzi loomama. Xa unomntwana, izinto eziphambili, isingqi sobomi, iinkqubo, yonke into iyatshintsha. Umntu unokuziqhelanisa nayo yonke le nto, kuba akukho khetho, kuba usana lufuna yonke imizuzu yexesha kwaye ngaphandle kokuthandabuza luza kuqala kusapho lonke. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko ixesha liqhubeka kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukufumana ixesha lakho.
Kuba ukuba uyayiyeka, kuzo zonke iimeko kuyakufika ixesha apho uya kuvuma ukungabikho kwexesha ngalinye. Unokujonga esipilini kwaye ungazazi, kuba uzibeke ecaleni ngendlela yokuba ungasazazi nokuba unjani. Oku akuthethi ukuba kubi, kwaye akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokuzinikela ngokukodwa ekunyamekeleni abantwana.
Kuthetha nje ukuba ufuna ixesha, kuba ukubeleka Yindlela entle kodwa ende kwaye enzima. Kwaye ukuba uyazilibala, ngamanye amaxesha ungaphulukana nesalathiso sobomi bakho. Ufuna nje fumana imizuzu embalwa ngosuku ngalunye, ukufunda, ukulungisa iinwele okanye iinzipho zakho, ukudlala imidlalo okanye nantoni na oyithandayo kwaye ikuncede ube nolwalamano ngokwasemoyeni.
Ungalifumana njani ixesha lakho?
Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba ewe, kuya kuba kuhle kakhulu ukuba ube nexesha nokuba bekungokuqokelela iingcinga zakho. Abantu abanoncedo losapho banethamsanqa, kodwa bonke oomama abanaso isangqa sabantu abathembekileyo abanokubabela sona. Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba ukwenze umthambo omkhulu wokucinga, ubuchule kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ngumbutho.
Ukuze imini yonke, kunokwenzeka ukuba ufumane ixesha elikuvumela ukuba wenze ezo zinto zikuxhalabisayo kuphela. Kungenxa yokuba ekugqibeleni, ukunqongophala kombutho kunye nokuguquguquka, badibanisa nje izizathu. Ukuba ungumama kwaye kufuneka ufunde ukufumana ixesha lakho, ungaphoswa ngala macebiso alandelayo.
Ukuba bhetyebhetye kunye nocwangco
Ukuba bhetyebhetye yeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo yokufumana imizuzu embalwa ngokwakho. Akunamsebenzi ukuba ucwangcisa usuku lonke ukuze ube nemizuzu embalwa simahla, kuba kunokwenzeka into enokuthi ilahle umbutho wakho wonke ulungelelanise kwaye ichithe izicwangciso zakho. Ukuba bhetyebhetye sisitshixo, ukuba akunakuba kusasa, mhlawumbi unemizuzu eli-15 emva kokutya, okanye ngaphambi kokuba ulale, into ebalulekileyo kukwazi ukuba ulisebenzise njani ixesha.
Inkqubo yesiqhelo
Iindlela zibalulekile kuye wonke umntu, hayi abantwana kuphela. Kuyabanceda ukuba balindele, bazi ukuba yintoni eza kulandela kwaye ke bathintele uxinzelelo lwento engaziwayo. Kodwa iindlela zinceda nabantu abadala, ngakumbi ukuba sisiqhelo semveliso. Umzekelo, ukuba uyazi ukuba umntwana wakho ulala isiqingatha seyure, nikela ixesha lokwenza umsebenzi, akukho nto iyenye, lonke ixesha lelakho.
Zibekele usukelo
Ukuba unezinto ezininzi zokwenza okanye izinto ezininzi ongathanda ukuzenza, ngekhe ungazi ukuba ungaqala ngaphi. Intoni kukhokelela kwinkcitho exabiseke kakhulu yexesha. Ngokuchasene noko, ukucaca malunga nento ofuna ukuyenza, nokuba yeyokuzilolonga, ukulungisa iinwele zakho okanye ukufunda amaphepha ambalwa encwadi yakho, kuya kukunceda ufike kuyo kamsinya nje ukuba unemizuzu embalwa yasimahla.
Ukuba nexesha lakho kukunceda ube ngumama ongcono
Ungazilibali iimfuno zakho, kuba yonke into ekonwabisa iyanceda ukuba ube ngumama ongcono. Ukuzifumana wonwabile, usazi ukuba wenza izinto ozithandayo, ukongeza ekubeni ngumama kwaye uyakonwabela ukukhulisa abantwana bakho, kuya kukunceda uzive uphelele kwaye wanelisekile. Ukuba nabantwana akufuneki kuthethe ukulahleka komntu ngamnyeKuba, nokuba bakubiza njengomama ekhaya, usengumntu owahlukileyo. Ngegama kunye nexabiso elifanele ukuqondwa phambi kwakho naphambi kwabanye.