Ukwamkela nokuthatha ukukhubazeka komntwana akukho lula, sisibetho esinzima esiya kukukhapha ubomi bakho bonke. Kodwa loo nto, ngenxa yomntwana wakho, kuya kufuneka uyamkele kwaye uyiqhelanise kangangoko kwaye ngokukhawuleza. Kuba le kuphela kwendlela yokubonelela ngobomi obubalaseleyo, kwaye ukuphucula amandla abo ukuya kuthi ga ngoku ukuze umntwana wakho aphile ubomi obupheleleyo.
Kuqhelekile ukuba uzifumane ulahlekile okanye ulahlekile ngaphambi kweendaba ezifanayo, akukho mzali uzimisele ukujongana nento enje. Nangona kunjalo, ukonwaba komntwana wakho akuxhomekekanga kwisiphene sakhe, endaweni yoko, angangoyena mntwana wonwabileyo emhlabeni nobunzima bakhe. Kodwa ukwenza oku, ufuna ukuba abazali bakhe bomelele kwaye bakulungele ukusebenza kunye kwimpilo-ntle yomntwana.
Ukuba ufuna uncedo ukoyisa le meko kwaye zilungiselele ngokwasemphefumlweni ukuthabatha ukukhubazeka, Ungathandabuzi fumana amaqela enkxaso. Zininzi iindlela zokufumana inkxaso kwezinye iintsapho ezihamba nemeko efana neyakho. Nokuba nguwe, ngokusebenzisa iiforamu ezikwi-Intanethi okanye ngokunxibelelana nabanye abazali babantwana abakhubazekileyo, oya kuthi ubazi, uya kuba nakho ukufumana inkxaso enkulu kunye nokuqonda okuya kukunceda uthathe ukukhubazeka komntwana.
Ezi zezinye zeengcebiso zokuthatha ukukhubazeka komntwana
Nje ukuba ufumane isifo, amathuba okuba onke ubomi bomntwana wakho buvela phambi kwamehlo akho njengoko ubuphuphile njalo nangaphambi kokuba kufike eli hlabathi. Ngesi sizathu, xa bekuxelela ukuba akukho nto izakuba njengokuba ubucinga, eyona nto inokwenzeka kukuba uyatshona kwaye awazi ukuba ungajongana njani nayo.
Ezi ngcebiso ziya kukunceda jonga imeko ngenye indlela.
Cinga ukuxilongwa
Bonke abazali abafumana iindaba zokukhubazeka komntwana, hamba kwinqanaba lokukhanyela. Into esengqiqweni ngokupheleleyo, kodwa kufuneka woyise ngokukhawuleza. Kungenzeka ukuba ukuxilongwa akucaci ngokupheleleyo, ukuba kukukrokra, ngakumbi kwimeko yokukhubazeka kwengqondo ehambelana ITI (Autism spectrum disorder) kuba kwiminyaka yokuqala kunzima kakhulu ukufumana isifo.
Kodwa kungekudala uza kucinga ukuba umntwana wakho ukhubazekile (okanye ubuchule obahlukeneyo) kwakamsinya unokufumana inkathalo oyifunayo ukuphucula imeko yakho, nokuba yeyiphi na.
Iinjongo zexesha elifutshane
Ukuqala kongenelelo kwangoko kunokuba nzima, eyona ixhaphakileyo yile thatha iinyanga ezimbalwa ukufumana iziphumo zokuqala. Ke kuya kufuneka uthathele ingqalelo iinjongo zakho zexesha elifutshane, nayiphi na inkqubela phambili iya kuba linyathelo elikhulu kwaye kufuneka uyibhiyozele njengoyena ndoqo woloyiso. Musa ukucinga malunga noko umntwana wakho aya kukwenza okanye angazukukwazi ukukuphumeza kwikamva, indlela yakhe inde kwaye nomsebenzi uhlala uhleli.
Yinyamekele impilo yakho
Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive utshonile, ukuba umhlaba wakho uphela uwe phambi kwayo yonke into ezayo. Kodwa kufuneka qaphela ukuba umntwana wakho uyafana, kunye okanye ngaphandle kokukhubazeka. Ufuna wena womelele, ufuna ukonwaba kwaye ufuna wena ukuba ube nakho ukujongana nobomi bakhe njengoko kufuneka enjenjalo. Kulumkele ukwahlukaniswa noluntu, into oomama nootata abaninzi abasokola kuyo ekuqaleni kwesifo.
Uyakumangaliswa kukwazi ukuba mangaphi amatyala abantwana abakhoyo kuyo yonke indawo, epakini, esikolweni, kwindawo ohlala kuyo nakwabahlobo bakho ubomi bonke. Fihla olu hlobo lweendaba ukunqanda ukubandezeleka, kuba ukuyicacisa akukho lula, yimpazamo ekungafanelekanga ukuba uyenzile. Kubalulekile ukuba imeko uyiqhelanise ngokukhawuleza, usapho lonke luyakwazi okwenzekayo kwaye wonke umntu uzabalazela ukugcina imeko yesiqhelo.
Abantwana kufuneka bonwabe, kufuneka bathandwe kwaye bakhuselwe ngaphandle kweziphiwo zabo. Ke ngoko, ngoSuku lwaMazwe ngaMazwe lwaBantu abaKhubazekileyo, sifuna ukukhumbula into ebalulekileyo, abantwana ngabantwana ngaphandle kokwahluka kwabo. Njengomama okanye utata, umzabalazo wokuphumeza ukubandakanywa kubomi bemihla ngemihla bomntwana, ukuze ukhule wonwabe nangona ujongene nobunzima.