I-Royal Academy yoLwimi lwaseSpain ichaza uvelwano njengemvakalelo yokuchongwa nomntu okanye ukukwazi ukuchonga umntu kunye nokwabelana ngeemvakalelo zabo. Le yenye yeemfuno zobukrelekrele bemvakalelo, inxulumene nokuqonda, inkxaso kunye nokumamela ngokukuko.
Kule nqaku sifuna ukuphonononga Ukubaluleka, ubungakanani, kunye neziphumo zovelwano ekukhuleni komntu. Ngokufutshane siza kunyanga uvelwano ebuntwaneni, apha Unamanqaku okungena kulo mbandela, kunye novelwano ekufundiseni, kunye neminye imibuzo ngokubanzi.
Uvelwano kunye nophuhliso lwabantu
Ukusuka kuphuhliso lwengqondo, umxholo we uvelwano njengolwakhiwo oluninzi, apho kuthathelwa ingqalelo icandelo lokuqonda. Oku kubandakanya ukuqonda nokuqonda iimvakalelo zabanye. kunye necandelo leemvakalelo, elibandakanya ukwabelana nothando okanye impendulo engathanga ngqo.
ukuba ukunxibelelana noontanga bethu kufuneka siyenze ngaphandle kokubangela ungquzulwano, ukusuka ekuhlonelweni kwamalungelo, kwiimvakalelo zabanye, iimvakalelo zabo, izimvo, kunye nokwazi ukumamela ngononophelo. Kungenxa yoko le nto uvelwano lubaluleke kakhulu kuba luchaphazela indlela yokuziphatha ekuhlaleni, enjengobudlelwane bosapho, amaqabane, ubuhlobo, ubundlongondlongo, isimilo sokungazingci, isimo sengqondo kubantu ongabaziyo.
Omnye wemisebenzi ezaliswayo ngovelwano kukukhuthaza, njengoko ikhulisa okanye iqinisa inkuthazo yokuphelisa isidingo somnye umntu. Uvelwano lukwenza kube lula ngathi ukuba sazi abanye, kwaye sifumane izizathu zokuba nomsindo, uvuyo okanye ukudimazeka. Alithandabuzeki elokuba obu buchule, kunye neemvakalelo, zikhula kuthi amandla okukhuthaza nokuzilawula, iziqu zethu kunye nabanye.
Luvela njani uvelwano ebuntwaneni
UHoffman yeyona theorist iphambili ekuphuhliseni uvelwano ebuntwaneni. Lo mbhali uyavuma imilinganiselo emibini yokufunda kuvelwano lwabantwana:
- ukwamkelwa kwamazwe angaphakathi abanye kunye
- impendulo engangqalanga echaphazelekayo.
UHoffman ucacisa ukuba indlela uvelwano oluqala kwaye lukhule ngayo ebantwaneni kukuchaphazela ukuqonda kunye nokudlulela ngaphaya kwenkqubo yenkqubo yolwazi. Ke ngoko, Ikhula ngokuhambelana namanqanaba ophuhliso lokuqonda ngokwasentlalweni. Uvelwano lwenzeka kwasekuzalweni. Kwenzeka ntoni ukuba kude kube ngunyaka wokuqala, umntwana engaboni ukuba abanye bahlukile kuye. Ke iintlungu ozibonayo kwabanye zididekile kunye neemvakalelo zakho ezingathandekiyo.
Kumanqanaba aphambili, sele sele efikile kwinqanaba lokugqibela lobuntwana, umntwana uthatha abanye njengezinto zomzimba ngaphandle kwesiqu sakhe, kunye namazwe angaphakathi azimeleyo kumbandela ngokwawo. Kwinqanaba eliqolileyo lovelwano, umntwana uya kuchaphazeleka ngakumbi yimeko ebalulekileyo yelinye ngaphandle kwemeko yangoku. Umntwana wahlula phakathi kokudlula kunye nokungapheliyo, obu buchule buya kubaluleka kuphuhliso lobomi bexesha elizayo.
Ukubaluleka kwesikolo esi-spatic
Ukuba sithetha ngovelwano ekufundiseni, kungenxa yokubaluleka kwalo kubomi bemihla ngemihla babantwana bethu, kunye neentsapho. Ukongeza, izifundo ezahlukeneyo ziyaqinisekisa esikolweni kunika izibonelelo ezinkulu kuphuhliso lwengqondo kunye nezifundo zabafundi, abafundi ababhinqileyo.
Ootitshala abanovelwano, abanokwazi ukubona ngaphaya kwamabanga, banako leer kubantwana nakwishumi elivisayo, baqonde kwaye uqonde indlela abaziva ngayo kwiimeko. Ezi ntlobo zootitshala zibalulekile kuqeqesho olusemgangathweni, kuba kunjalo izigqibo zokumisela impumelelo yomfundi.
Ootitshala abanovelwano babalulekile ukukhusela abantwana, babancede ekubandakanyeni noontanga babo kwaye baqonde iimfuno zabo. Ukwengeza kwi ukubakhuthaza ukuba bakhuthaze, kunye nokuphucula izakhono zabo zemfundo. Kwimeko yokufikisa, uvelwano lubonakaliswa ngokubona nokumamela, ngesimo sokubonakala nje. Lixesha lokuba unake into eyenziwa ngumntu ngamnye osemtsha, kwaye uvule inkxalabo yakhe.