Ayinakuphepheka siziva sinyanzelekile kwaye sivakalisa umsindo wethu ngomsindo. Esiphakathini sesaqhwithi silawula ukungxamiseka kwethu ngomsindo kwaye siyiguqulele kumsindo, imvakalelo enkulu nengalunganga Amaxesha amaninzi sifumene kubantwana bethu. Ezi ntlobo zokuhlaselwa sisenzo esibi kwaye kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba ungazilawula njani.
Mhlawumbi ingxaki Ayikuko ekuthetheleleni ukuba sigcine ukugxekwa okungqongqo kwesiqu sethu, kuba olu hlobo lokuziphatha luxhaswa luxinzelelo lwemihla esiphantsi kwalo kunye nokuba nexesha elidlulileyo kunye nobubi obuthile. Ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka singavumi kolu hlobo lwesenzo kwaye kufuneka sijonge isicombululo.
Kutheni le nto umsindo uvela kubazali?
Yinto engokwemvelo esiyibonakalisa ngokungazi, kodwa abanye bethu bayichaza ngendlela ebaluleke kakhulu nengakhathaliyo kunabanye. Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka uyazi ukuba ungaphantsi komsindo kubantu abadala inokuba yingozi kakhulu ebantwaneni.
Ixesha lethu elidlulileyo lingenakuguqulwa ngaphakathi kweentloko zethu kwaye alihlali libonwa. Uloyiko kunye nomsindo esenokuba nawo ngaphambili sisebenza njengesiphumo kwaye ngoku sizenza ziphinde zingabikho zingazi. Kunzima ukungcwaba iziporho zexa elidlulileyo kwaye kungoko abantu abadala bephindaphinda iipateni.
Kwenzeka ntoni kunyana wethu xa unomsindo?
Ngenxa yoxinzelelo esiziva sinoxanduva oluthile, kunye nenyani yokuba abantwana bagqithisa kubazali babo, sijamelene nemeko tsiba unganxibanga kwaye sizibonakalise singenangqondo. Ngokuqinisekileyo kuninzi amaxesha apho siye sayivavanya indlela esiziphethe ngayo kwaye sazigxeka njengabazali abangalunganga, kuba ngokuqinisekileyo siye sabangxolisa kwaye kwezinye iimeko siphakamise izandla.
Abantwana banikela ukuzithemba kwabo kwaye ukubonelela ngendawo yokuhlala nokhuseleko kwabo babakhathalelayo, Akukho mntu banokuphethukela kuye, ke umsindo omkhulu kuye kukuhlasela ukuzithemba kwakho ngeziphumo Ibi kakhulu ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Uhlaselo lomsindo sele lusoyikisa ngokwalo, ke ngoko ukuba siyakuxuba oku nokuthukwa nokuthukwa nangokwasemzimbeni yenza iziphumo ezibi zobomi kubomi bomntwana. Kungenzeka ukuba i-IQ yabo ibe sezantsi, bahlukumeze ezinye izinto kwaye bathambekele kubundlobongela kunye nobudlelwane obunetyhefu kwixa elizayo.
Indlela yokuphepha ukugqajukelwa ngumsindo
Zola ngaphambi kokuba wenze ngomsindo. Ngumzuzu onzima kakhulu wokuzibamba, kodwa kuya kufuneka ukholelwe ukuba oku kungenziwa kwaye siyakwazi ukukwenza. Kufuneke u vavanya ukuba yintoni ekucaphukisayo, fumana umthombo woloyiko kwaye ulwenze luzole. Kule ndawo ilunge ngumsindo jonga amaxesha akwenza uncume kwaye cingisisa, Kubonakala ngathi akukho ngqiqweni, kodwa sesinye sezixhobo ezingcono, kuya kufuneka unikezele imizuzu eli-15 ngosuku.
Misa okomzuzwana. Lixesha loxinzelelo olukhulu kwaye ngaphambi kokuba ubambe ungabaleka kuloo meko. Ukuba nangasiphi na isizathu awukwazi ukumbeka ecaleni umntwana (okanye umntwana abaleke emva kwakho) zama ukuzola ngokuphefumla nzulu okanye ukumanzisa ubuso bakho. Ukuba uyaphakama, yenza okufanayo, uphefumle, ube manzi, nkqu uthathe ishawa ekhawulezayo. Emva kuphela zama ukubiza amabinzana akhayo ngokuvakalayo kwaye uziphinde amatyeli aliqela njengemantra.
Ukuba umsindo awupheli Kuya kufuneka ucinge malunga nokungaqiniseki okufihliweyo phantsi komsindo. Kuya kufuneka ujonge ukuba yintoni umonakalo okanye uloyiko olufihlwe phantsi kwayo yonke le nto. Kulo mzuzu unzima, ukucinga ngezinto ezinokukunika impendulo kunokukunceda wehle umsindo.