Iiholide zifikile kwaye lixesha lokuba sipakishe iibhegi zethu kwaye, njengee-gypsies zikhangela ukuphumla kunye nemeko zeparadisi, sizibeka emotweni okanye sizikhangele kwinqwelomoya siqinisekile ukuba sinayo yonke into. Nangona kunjalo, Impazamo eyenziwa ngoomama nootata abaninzi kukupakisha iityesi zabantwana babo ukonga ixesha kunye neengxoxo.
Ngokucacileyo, yonke into iya kuxhomekeka kubudala babantwana bethu, kodwa kuya kufuneka sikhumbule into esisiseko: naliphi na ixesha lilungile bafundise ngoxanduva, y el simple ejercicio de saber qué vamos a llevarnos, qué es mejor dejar y de qué manera organizo mi bolsa de viaje, es sin duda todo un ejercicio de madurez. En «Madres Hoy» te proponemos reflexionar sobre ello a través de sencillas e interesantes pautas.
Pakisha nabancinci kwaye ungafi uzama
Kuya kubakho abantwana abaya kufuna ukufaka yonke into kwiisutikheyisi zabo, ukusukela kumqamelelo abalala kuwo ukuya kwi-basketball.. Ukuba abafundi bethu bayibonile imovie emnandi «Ihlobo lethu lokugqibela eScotlandNgokuqinisekileyo baya kuyikhumbula le ntombazana incinci, bezimisele ukususa amatye amakhulu, kuba bezintandokazi zayo.
Akululanga ncam ukubenza baqiniseke ukuba kwiiveki ezimbalwa ezizayo, kuya kufuneka balahle uninzi lwezo zinto zemihla ngemihla kubo. Nangona kunjalo, ela "qela linye" okanye ukusilela ukubethelela oko "kulungiswa" ngamanye amaxesha bakhulisa kwizinto ezithile, ngokungathandabuzekiyo yenye yezona zinto zibalaseleyo oza kuzifumana ngexesha lakho lekhefu.
Makhe siqwalasele ezi ndlela zilandelayo.
Umnxeba wokunyamezela kunye ne-brushstroke yokucinga
Ukuba siya elwandle asizukuzifuna izityibiliki. Ibhayisekile nayo ayilingani kwisutikheyisi, nangaphezulu, ukuba kwindlu yootatomkhulu bethu sele kukho abanye abazala bethu abanokusishiya. Ayinamsebenzi ukuba eyethu inkulu kwaye intle.
Njengamaxesha onke kusenzeka kwezi meko, iisutikheyisi zishiyekele umzuzu wokugqibela, ngokubanzi, emva kwemini okanye ebusuku ngaphambi kokuba sithathe uhambo. Iimpahla zinokushwabana okanye zifumane ivumba elimnandi, siyazi, kodwa kwimeko yabantwana bethu kufanelekile ukuthatha ixesha elincinci.
- Uya kudinga umonde kunye nokucinga okuqinisekileyo ukukhuthaza uxanduva kulo msebenzi, nangona ulula, kodwa ufundisa ngenene.
- Cebisa iintsuku phambi kokuba abantwana bakho benze uluhlu "hayi malunga nento abafuna ukuyithatha", kodwa yintoni efunekayo ukubeka kwisutikheyisi ngokweemfuno zethu kwindawo yeholide. Ngale nto, kufanelekile ukuba uchaze ngokweenkcukacha ukuba siyaphi kwaye siza kwenza ntoni.
- Siza kulujonga kwakhona uluhlu kunye nabo kwaye emva koko siya kuvuma ukuba ewe kwaye hayi kufuneka sibandakanye kwisutikheyisi.
Ukubaluleka kokuyeka
Njengoko i-neuropsychologist icacisa kuthi UAlvaro Bilbao yakhe kwincwadi "Ingqondo yomntwana icacisele abazali bakhe" ukufundisa akuyiyo kwaphela malunga nokwenza umoya uhlala uvuthuza ubhekisa kwiiseyile zabantwana bethu. Imalunga nokubafundisa ukuba bajongane kancinci kancinci neenkqwithela ezivela ebomini babo.
- Kwinqanaba elincinci kakhulu, kufuneka uququzelele iintsuku ngaphambi kweeholide yincinci encinci ekufuneka uzibonele yona. Emva koko vumela ukuba baququzelele yonke into abazakuyifaka kwisutikheyisi kwaye bavumelene nathi.
- Bayeke balungiselele iimpahla, iimpahla zokudada, ibrashi yamazinyo okanye iincwadi abazakuzithatha. Banike, ngaphezulu kwako konke, ithuba lokuba bazenzele. Emva kwexesha sinokukunceda ngokweenkcukacha ezithile, kodwa Kubalulekile ukuba bazive beluncedo, bezimele, benakho kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke, banoxanduva lwezinto zabo.
Itekhnoloji efanelekileyo ekhaya
Kucacile ukuba Umama ngamnye, ukuba utata ngamnye ukhululekile kakhulu ukukhokela ukuba ngumzali ngeyona ndlela acinga ngayo ngokweenkolelo zakhe. Ngoku, eyona nto umntwana anayo njengeyona nto iphambili ekufuneka ayithabathe ithebhulethi yakhe, ilaptop yakhe - ukuba sele enayo- kwaye kunjalo ehambayo -Ukuba sele unayo- ayisiyonto ifanelekileyo yokufundisa.
- El ingqondo yomntwana Ngaphezulu kwayo yonke loo nto, ufuna simfundise ukunandipha ubomi, hayi ukubusebenzisa ngescreen somnxeba okanye ukubukela iividiyo zeYouTube ngaphandle kokumisa okanye ukuchitha imva kwemini zasehlotyeni phambi kwephuli, ukudlala imidlalo yevidiyo ekwi-Intanethi apho bafumana amanqaku ngokubulala iZombi.
- Ubomi benzeka phambi kwamehlo omntwana, kwaye iholide lelona xesha lilungileyo lokuba babaleke ngokukhululekileyo, ukuba bangcolise, bakrobe amadolo abo bekhwela emithini okanye bekhangela amatye anemibala elunxwemeni. Ihlobo liyonwabisa ngaphandle, hayi nabafundi bakho phambi kwescreen.
- Ngoku, kufuneka kucace malunga nenqaku elinye. Abantwana bathatha umzekelo kuthi, ke akufuneki senze impazamo yokuhlala singena kwi-imeyile yethu okanye kumaqela ethu e-WhatsApp Ukwabelana ngeefoto zethu zeholide. Nqamula unxibelelwano, lwenze amaxesha ngamaxesha, hambahamba nabantwana bakho, funda okanye ungenzi nto ngokulula. Yiba khona nje, apha kwaye ngoku nabantwana bakho. Ngaba ikhona enye into ebhetele?
Ngoko ke, esingazukukubandakanya kwiityesi zethu zezi zilandelayo:
- Uxinzelelo kunye nexhala.
- Iibhetri ezintathu zokugcina xa iselfowuni okanye ishaja yekhompyuter isilele.
- Yonke imisebenzi yasekhaya yabantwana kunye nokunye. Akufuneki sizilayishe, masizonwabele ebuntwaneni nasehlotyeni.
Ukulawula umsindo
Abantwana bakho banokwala ukupakisha, okanye banokuba nomsindo xa sibaxelela ukuba abanakuyithatha loo nto yokudlala. Yinto enokwenzeka ngokuqinisekileyo.
- Musa ukuwutyeshela nawuphi na umsindo wabantwana bakho okanye uwukhulise nangakumbi ngokubhenela ekukhwazeni, isimo esibi kunye ne "kulungile, uya kwenza le ndikuxelela yona."
- Bayeke bathethe kwaye babakhathalele, bathethe ngamagama ukuba yintoni ebakhathazayo, nangaphezulu, thatha lula xa bekuxelela ukuba enye ye "kulungile andiyi". Nje ukuba bazole, ngempumelelo, umonde nothando, chaza yonke into abaya kukwazi ukuyenza endaweni yeholide, baya kukufumanisa. Ukuba abafuni ukukunceda, singatshintsha imisebenzi siyeke ukomeleza imeko ngoxinzelelo olukhulu.
Siza kubuyela kuyo kamva, ngokuzola ngakumbi, kunye neembono ezintsha. Imvakalelo yomntwana inokutshintsha kakhulu ukusuka kwiyure ukuya kwenye, njengoko besicebisile ekuqaleni, Isitshixo kukupakisha iibhegi zakho ngexesha, umonde kunye nokukhuthaza uxanduva lwakho ngalo lonke ixesha.