Xa iintsana zethu zizalwa, iimvakalelo zethu zoomama zisicela ukuba nathi. Izibonelelo zokuncamathisela iintsana zininzi; kuthintelo lokusweleka kweentsana ngequbuliso ukuya ekwakheni ubudlelwane phakathi kwabazali nabantwana. Njengoko abantwana bethu bekhula, okwahlukileyo kuyaqala ukwenziwa nabo. Ukuqina kuqhelekile kwinqanaba lokufikisa kwaye kuthwala umonakalo ofanayo nakwinqanaba losana.
Abantu abancinci bahamba notshintsho kubume bengqondo njengabantwana abancinci. Ukongeza, iihormone zesini ziqala ukwenza into yazo kwaye zihlala zinokuziphatha okungaphezulu kokubonakalayo kunasebuntwaneni. Okwangoku, kubalulekile ukuqhubeka nokuziqhelanisa nabo; Akufanele iphazanyiswe nokuzikhusela okugqithisileyo, kuba le yokugqibela ineziphumo ezibi.
NoNxibelelwano
Enye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo nezinzima kulutsha kukunxibelelana nabo. Njengomgaqo ngokubanzi, ngabantu abakholelwa ukuba banenyani epheleleyo yayo yonke into kwaye kunqabile ukuba baphulaphule izizathu. Oku kwenzeka nakwiintsapho ezilungileyo. Umsebenzi wethu njengabazali kukwazi indlela yokubamamela kwaye sifunde kwasekuqaleni kobomi babo ukuba sibaqonde.
Asinakho ukubanga isincamathiselo emva kobudala beminyaka eli-13 okanye njalo ukuba akukho nanye into enjalo eyenzekileyo ubomi bakhe bonke. Abazali bafuna ukubangaphezulu kwabantwana bethu xa bekhulile, bazi ukuba benza ntoni, bahlala nabani kwaye bayaphi. Kuya kuba lula ukuba kwasekuqaleni iqhina elithandekayo liyasungulwa ngokuncamathisela umntwana, ukuze xa selefikisa asithembe njengabazali kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke njengabantu.
Iimvakalelo
Ukusukela ekuqaleni kobomi bonyana wethu kuyafuneka ukuba simbonise kwaye simbonise yonke into esivakalelwa yiyo. Abantwana bethu kufuneka bazi ukuba bayathandwa; Nangona kubonakala kusengqiqweni, bafuna ukuba sixelele. Kungaphezulu kokuthetha ngokuphandle ngeemvakalelo zethu kunye nabo besebancinci. Oku kuyakwenza kube lula kubo ukuba basivulele ngomso kwaye sinokubanceda.
Iqhelekile into yokuba abakwishumi elivisayo "bazitshixe" kwilizwe labo elingaphakathi apho yonke into imnyama okanye yonke into imhlophe. Kufuneka sibancede, njengoko sisenza nabantwana bethu abancinci, ukuba siqonde ilizwe elibangqongileyo. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ubakhaphe ebomini ukuze babunjwe njengabantu abadala abaluncedo.
Ngomntwana nomntwana ofikisayo ekhaya
Xa imeko yokuba usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa kunye nolutsha olusandula ukukhululwa luhlala endlwini enye kweli nqanaba, kufuneka umonde omkhulu kwicala labazali. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ubandakanye, kodwa unganyanzelisi, umntu oselula ngokukhuliswa komncinci. Kananjalo nomntakwabo omncinci omncinci, ngaphandle koxanduva lokuba ngumzalwana omdala, uya kuba nomzekelo wokulandela kuwe ngala mhla kwakufuneka ndihoye usana lwakhe.
Kungenxa yoko le nto singamele silibale okwishumi elivisayo kwaye simnike uthando olufanayo nonyana wethu omncinci. Hayi kuba emdala, iimvakalelo zakhe kuthi ziyatshintsha; sisengomntu obaluleke kakhulu kubo. Sisesengabo bantu babebakhusela ebusuku kwiminyaka eyadlulayo, babondla kwaye balila xa begula.
Kufuneka sibanike uthando abaludingayo. Ukuqala kwasekuzalweni linyathelo elifanelekileyo lokuqhubeka nokuziqhelanisa nento eyinzuzo empilweni, emzimbeni nasengqondweni, njengoko kunjalo ngokuncamathisela phakathi kwabazali nabantwana.
Kwaye ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho ulahlekile kakhulu kuwe ngaphandle kwemizamo yakho, mhlawumbi kuya kufuneka ujonge amaxesha aphambili okuzama ukuvula kuwe kwaye akuxelele okunokwenzeka kuye. Ukutshintsha kwehormonal kulutsha kungakhokelela kwi ukuxinezeleka. Olu xinzelelo lubaluleke njengolo lunokubandezeleka njengomntu omkhulu kwaye akufuneki lungahoywa.