Ukuba umntwana wakho wayedla ngokutya kakhulu kwaye ngoku akafuni kutya, mhlawumbi uhamba ngenye yeendlela ezaziwa kakhulu zokukhula. Ukususela ekuzalweni, umntwana uhamba ngezigaba ezininzi kunye nokutshintsha ngokukhawuleza ezichaphazela ngokuthe ngqo ukutya. Ezi ngxaki zinokubangelwa zizizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo, ezona zixhaphakileyo, ukunyotywa kwamazinyo, ukukhula kobuntu okanye nje ukukhula komntwana.
Ukulawula ezi ngxaki okanye utshintsho ngexesha lokutya kusenokucaphukisa kuba kusoloko kukho uloyiko lokuba usana aluyi kutya kakuhle yaye luthwaxwa kukungaphumeleli okuchaphazela ukukhula kwalo. Nangona kunjalo, oko izibalo zithi ukuba umntwana wakho wayedla kakuhle, le ngxaki iya kudlula ngendlela efanayo, ngokukhawuleza. Koko kukuthi, umntwana udla ngokutya kakuhle kwakhona emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa.
Kutheni ngoku umntanam engafuni kutya?
Utshintsho ekutyisweni komntwana okanye umnqweno wokutya akuyomfuneko ukuba lunxibelelene nohlobo lokutya, ekubeni iintsana ezincanciswayo nazo zityhubela ezi ngxaki zikhankanywe ngasentla. Nangona kunjalo, xa kuqaliswa ukutyiswa kokuncedisana kuxhaphake kakhulu kwiintsana ebezikade zondliwe kakuhle ngaphambili, ngequbuliso abafuni kutya.
Oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo ngokupheleleyo, ekubeni mntwana ngamnye wahlukile yaye oko kwabanye kuluyolo, kuba abanye kuthetha ukubandezeleka. Ukutya, ukutya okunencasa kunye nokwakheka kwayo, kunzima ukukufanisa xa kude kube mva nje besondla ngobisi olushushu olutyebileyo. Kule meko, ukuba umntwana wakho akafuni ukutya ngenxa ukuziswa kokutya izinto eziqinileyo, kufuneka ulandele izikhokelo ezithile.
- Yazisa ukutya ngokucothayo, zama ukuguqulwa kancinci kangangoko ukuze ungalahlekelwa ukuthungwa. Iintsana ezininzi ezingakukhathaleliyo ukusila ziyakuthanda ukungcamla nokudlala ngokutya ngendlela yako yendalo. Makavumbulule ukutya akuse emlonyeni ngokwakhe ngokuthanda kwakhe.
- Musa ukumnyanzela, kuba ukunyanzela umntwana ukuba atye kuya kubangela kuphela umphumo ochaseneyo. Qhubeka nokuncancisa kwaye uqinisekise ukuba wondlekile, uya kutya ngcono.
- Musa ukuba phithi ngobuninzi. Ngamanye amaxesha siye sicinge ukuba iintsana kunye nabantwana abancinci batya kancinci, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba batye ngokwaneleyo. Nokuba ungcamla itispuni kuphela lokutya, kuya kuba linyathelo elikhulu elibhekiselele ekutyeni okupheleleyo.
Yihlonele incasa yakhe kwaye ungamnyanzeli ukuba atye
Iintsana zinezinto ezikhethwayo, yinto ebalulekileyo leyo ngamanye amaxesha ilahleka. Kucingelwa ukuba iintsana zifanele zitye yonke into kwasebusaneni, ngaphandle kokucingela ukuba zisenokungayithandi incasa okanye ukutya. Yaye leyo yinto eqhelekileyo ngokupheleleyo, njengokuba injalo kumntu omdala ukukhetha ukutya. Banike incasa yokutya ibenye ngexesha kancinci kancinci ufumanise ukuba zeziphi na azithandayo nangazithandiyo.
Ukuba awukuthandi ukutya, bonisa ukwaliwa kwaye ungafuni nokukuzama, musa ukukugxotha. Zama okunye ukutya kwaye ufumanise ukuba zeziphi izinto othanda kakhulu. Emva kweeveki ezimbalwa, zama kwakhona ngokutya okuthethwayo, yilungiselele ngenye indlela, uyixube nobisi okanye nokunye ukutya okuthandayo. Kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ungaze wondle umntwana okanye umntwana ngenkani.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlonipha iimfuno zomntwana kwaye uqonde xa ezele. Nangona kusenokubonakala kuntsonkothile, kulula njengokuvumela umntwana alawule ukutya kwakhe. Ukuba ulambile, uya kukwazisa ngeseshoni yokulila elungileyo. Jonga ukukhula kwayo ngokuyilinganisela rhoqo, yiya kuxilongo lwabantwana yaye ukuba ukukhula kwakhe ngokwaneleyo, musa ukonganyelwa kukuba utya kakhulu okanye kancinane. Kwaye, ukuba ixesha elininzi lidlula kwaye ingxaki yokondla ayipheli, cela ingcebiso kugqirha wabantwana.