Intsangu iye yaba lelinye lawona machiza asetyenziswa rhoqo, ngakumbi ngabakwishumi elivisayo kunye nabo bangaphantsi kweminyaka engama-35 ubudala. Uninzi lwabazali luthandabuza ukubanakho ukucinga ukuba umntwana wabo utshaya amalungu, kuba, nangona sisiyobisi esingekho mthethweni, abakwishumi elivisayo banokufumana lula ukusetyenziswa kwayo.
Kulula ukuthenga kwaye kulula ukufumana kulo naliphi na iqela labahlobo. Ngokwesiqhelo sesinye seziyobisi zokuqala abazizamayo, kodwa kuya kufuneka wenze ulawulo lwegunya, nangona kubonakala kuyinto engenabungozi, ekuhambeni kwexesha inokuba sisiyobisi esikhobokisayo kunye neziphumo ezibi.
Ukwazi njani ukuba umntwana wam utshaya amalungu
Abafikisayo babonisa isimilo esingaqhelekanga ekuqaleni kokufikisa. Olu hlobo lwemvukelo lunokusidida, ukuba luqhelekile okanye ukuba singagxila kwinto engakulungelanga. Singazama Fumanisa ukuba indlela abaziphethe ngayo inika ezinye iinkcukacha ezisinika imiqondiso ethile . Kuya kufuneka sithathele ingqalelo uthotho lweempawu ezingahambelani nobomi bethu bemihla ngemihla:
- Bahlala beveza ubuso ngenkangeleko elahlekileyo namehlo abomvu. Olu hlobo lokuziphatha luqheleke kakhulu, ngokuqinisekileyo umzuzu wovuyo kunye nokucaphuka kuhlala kubonakala, kuncitshiswa (kwakanye kudliwe) kwimeko yokuphumla kunye noxolo. Ukuba ujonga amehlo akhe uyakuqaphela ukuba zibomvu, kunye nembonakalo eqaqambileyo kwaye emanzi.
- Ngexesha lokusetyenziswa ivelisa imo ephezulu. Yenza imeko enomsindo ngokuhleka okungalawulekiyo kunye namazwi aphezulu. Imeko yokuphumla iya kulandela, ke inokunika isalathiso se uhlala ubona unyana odiniweyo, enesangqa esimnyama.
- Ingqwalaselo okanye uxinzelelo lwakho lunokuhla, okoko ukusebenza kwayo kwe-narcotic kuvelisa Kwixesha elide, inokunciphisa umda wokulungelelanisa umzimba-womzimba, ukunciphisa amandla akho okufumana inkuthazo ethile. Oku kunokubangela ukungabikho esikolweni kunye neengxaki kumabanga esikolo.
- Enye yeziphumo ebezingalindelekanga zihlala zihlala ukwanda kwesidlo. Ukuyisebenzisa kukunika ukuziva ulambile, ke kuyacaca ukuba uyalamba ngakumbi kunesiqhelo nokufumana ukutya okuninzi kunekhalori neswekile.
- Ivelisa ukulala. Nangona isiphumo sayo siphumla ekuhambeni kwexesha, sivelisa iingxaki zokulala kubathengi, sibangele ukulala. Ezona zihamba rhoqo kunokuba ziingxaki zokulala xa iziphumo zalo zinqunyanyisiwe kwaye zinazo ukuvuka ebusuku.
- Ukuba ukusetyenziswa kwayo kugqithise kakhulu, kunokuba njalo qaphela ukukhohlela okungapheliyo kuba ibangela iingxaki zokuphefumla xa utshaya olu hlobo lweherb.
- Uya kuqaphela into eyenzayo Ukusetyenziswa kwezinto ezinokusinika isitshixo esiyisebenzisayo. Singafumana isiqhumiso, ukuqengqeleka kwecuba, amaphepha, izinto zomlomo okanye into yokusila.
- Ukuziphatha kwabo kunokukhokelela musa ukuthatha inxaxheba ekhaya kuwo nawuphi na umsebenzi nelungu losapho. Inqaku ukungabi noxanduva kuxanduva lwakho lwemihla ngemihla kwaye uqaphele ukuba uhlala ethintela njani ukujonga kwakhe kunye nezihlobo ngamaxesha amaninzi, ngakumbi xa ebuyela ekhaya.
Ungamthintela njani umntwana wam ekutshayeni
Kuya kufuneka uthethe nabo kwaye zibenze bazole ngokuzolileyo malunga nokusetyenziswa gwenxa kokusetyenziswa kwabo. Kweli nqaku Sinokukunceda ukuba uthethe njani neziyobisi nomntwana wakho. Kufuneka iqatshelwe ngaphezulu kwako konke ukubaluleka kokuba sisiyobisi esikhobokisayo kwaye ekuhambeni kwexesha sivelisa iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga ezibaluleke kakhulu kwaye azilunganga.
Singagqiba kwelokuba le nto yenza kube nzima kuwe ukucinga nokugxila, iya kuba ngumgodi wokucombulula iingxaki kwaye ube nakho ukuba namabanga angcono.
Ukuphazamisa izakhono zemoto kwaye ingasenza singakwazi ukuqhuba isithuthi okanye nayiphi na indlela yothutho, kwaye inokudala ingozi.
ukuba impilo yakho inokuchaphazeleka kwixesha elide, emzimbeni nasengqondweni, Oku kunokukhokelela kuxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo kwixa elizayo.
Ukuba oku kuphuma esandleni, ungaya kugqirha wosapho lwakho Ngubani oza kukucebisa ukuba zeziphi izikhokelo ekufuneka uzilandele kwaye ukuba kufuneka uthunyelwe kwingcali.