Unyana odlala yedwa inokuba luncedo ngeendlela ezithile, kuba ibonisa ukuzimela. Nangona kunjalo, ukuhlala udlala kunokuba ngumqondiso wokuba into ayilunganga ncam. Ukujonga abantwana ekhaya kubaluleke kakhulu ekuboneni isimilo esithile, ngendlela efanayo yokuba bathathele ingqalelo ezi ntlobo zemiba esikolweni.
Umntwana unokuqhela ukudlala kuba nje enengxaki yokudibana noontanga bakhe. Isenokungabinabo abantakwabo ukuba bafunde ukudlala imidlalo nabo, okanye kunokubakho ezinye izizathu zokuba umntwana adlale yedwa. Ngayiphi na imeko, kuyafuneka ukuba ujonge kwaye uhlalutye indlela lo mdlalo owenzeka ngayo ukuze wazi ukuba kunyanzelekile ungenelele. Y ukuba kuyimfuneko, yazi ukuba ungayenza njani.
Ngaba kufanelekile ukuba ndixhalabe xa umntwana wam edlala yedwa?
Ngaphambi kokungena ukuvavanya ukuba imeko iyakhathaza okanye ayikhathazi, kufuneka uhlalutye isimo sengqondo somntwana xa udlala wedwa nangaphambi kokudlala nabanye abantwana. Kwakhona ifuthe kubudala bomntwana kunye nesimo sakhe sengqondo sangaphambili malunga nomdlalo neontanga zabo. Oko kukuthi, ayifani ukuba umntwana omncinci uhlala edlala yedwa, ukuba umntwana osele ekhulile osele ekwabelane ngendawo nabanye abantwana ngequbuliso ayitshintshe indlela yakhe yokudlala.
Kwelinye icala, abantwana abancinci ngokubanzi badlala bodwa de baqale ukwabelana ngexesha noontanga babo, nokuba ngamalungu osapho okanye kwiziko lemfundo yabasaqalayo. Abantwana abadala bahlala ekuhlaleni noontanga yesikolo, apho zenziwe khona Abahlobo bokuqala. Bafunda ukwabelana ngemidlalo kunye nemidlalo, ke yinto eqhelekileyo kubo ukuba babenomntu ngamnye kodwa badlale kunye.
Ukudlala komntu ngamnye kubaluleke kakhulu kwaye kuyimfuneko, kuba inceda umntwana ukuba aphuhlise ukucinga kwakhe, andise ukuzimela kwakhe, afunde ukuthatha inyathelo kunye nokuzimisela. Nangona kunjalo, ukudlala ngokudibeneyo kunika ezinye izibonelelo ezibalulekileyo ekukhuleni komntwana. Imiba enjengokusebenzisana, ukumanyana, uvelwano okanye amaxabiso anje ngobuhlobo, aqingqiwe kumdlalo ophakathi kwabalinganayo.
Oko kukuthi, kulungile ukuba umntwana wakho azi ukuba angadlala njani yedwa amaxesha ngamaxesha, phantsi kweemeko ezithile. Kodwa oko oko akuthethi kuthi ukwaliwa ukudlala nabanye abantwana, kuba apho kunokubakho ingxaki ekuhlaleni ekufuneka ilungisiwe.
Ungamnceda njani umntwana wakho ahlangane noontanga bakhe
Mhlawumbi kungenxa yeentloni okanye ukungabikho komkhwa, kuba abantwana abangahlali besabelana nabantakwabo okanye nabanye abantwana, abanako ukufikelela ngokulula koontanga babo. Ukuba umntwana wakho akakhange abelane ngemidlalo nabanye abantwana rhoqo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba aqhele ukudlala yedwa kwaye angaphoswa lunxibelelwano olo. Kukwanengqondo ukuba akazi ukuba angazenzela njani izihlobo, indlela yokuya kwabanye abantwana kunye nokwabelana ngomdlalo.
Kule meko, kubalulekile ukuba unike umntwana izixhobo ezithile ukuze akwazi ukuphucula ubudlelwane bakhe noontanga bakhe. Zama ukuphuma okwethutyana yonke imihla okanye nanini na apho unokudlala khona, apho kukho abanye abantwana kwaye indawo yokudlala inokwenziwa phakathi komntu wonke. Ukuba umntwana wakho ufumana abanye abantwana bedlala, yenae iyakwenza umdla kwaye ngandlela thile ufumane indlela yokusondela ukujoyina umdlalo.
Ubudala bungenza umahluko kule meko, kuba ngokweengcali, abantwana abangaphezulu kweminyaka emi-6 ubudala kufuneka babenakho ukuphucula ubudlelwane. Ke ngoko, ukuba esikolweni babona ukuba umntwana wakho udlala yedwa ebaleni kwaye indlela yokuziphatha izokwabelwana ngayo nakwezinye iindawo zentlalo, inokuba kunjalo Ixesha lokufuna uncedo lweengcali.
Ingcali inokunceda umntwana wakho ukuba aphucule izakhono zentlalo kunye nezinye izixhobo, unokwakha ubudlelwane nabanye abantwana. Ubuhlobo buyimfuneko ebantwaneni, Ukwabelana ngemidlalo, iimfihlo, iihambo kwaye kutheni kungenjalo, imilo kunye nomsindo, ziyinxalenye yobuntwana. Obu budlelwane bokuqala buphawula ikamva lobudlelwane obuza kusekwa kwixesha elizayo. Nika ingqalelo indlela yokuziphatha komntwana wakho kwaye ukuba kukho imfuneko, nikela ngoncedo olufunekayo ukuphucula ubudlelwane babo.