Ayiloxesha lokuqala sithetha ngalo UMichel Odent en Madres Hoy, U-Odent ngugqirha wokubelekisa wemvelaphi yaseFransi, oneminyaka engama-86 ubudala Ungumlinganiswa wehlabathi wokuba ngumkhuseli ocacileyo wokuzalwa ngokwasemzimbeni.. Wayenoxanduva lokudalwa kweZiko loPhando lwezeMpilo lePrimal, kwaye phakathi kwezinto ezintle zakhe kukunikezela okokuqala uxwebhu olubhalwe nguye ekuqalisweni kokuncancisa. ngeyure yokuqala emva kokunikezelwa.
Senza uMnumzana Odent ngokuchaza igalelo lakhe ekukhuseleni oomama kunye neentsana kwimigca emithathu, ngoko ke ukuba unomdla wokufunda ngakumbi ngaye, siyakumema ukuba ufune ulwazi malunga naye kwi-Intanethi.
Namhlanje besikuthanda Thetha malunga 'nokukhuliswa' kokuzala, xa kuthelekiswa nobuntu esikhe sithethe ngabo. U-Odent ngokwakhe ubonisa ukuba naluphi na ukungenelela kwonyango ngexesha lokubeleka kunokubangela uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo kumfazi okhulelweyo., kunye nazo zonke izenzo eziqulunqwe yimigaqo yesibhedlele ziye zaphuhliswa ngabantu (kunye nengqiqo, ngoko) abantu ngaphandle kokuthathela ingqalelo ukuba umfazi uthe isilwanyana esanyisayo, kwaye njengookhokho bakhe kangangamawaka eminyaka, uyakwazi ukunika. ukuzalwa ukuba iimeko ezincinci zihlangatyezwa.
Lo gqirha wokubelekisa ukholelwa ekubeni izibhedlele kufanele kukho ‘ingcamango yokukhusela’ umama nosana ebudeni bokuzalwa komntwana, inkqubo ekubhekiselwa kuyo “njengesenzo sothando olupheleleyo phakathi kwezidalwa ezibini nefikelela incopho xa usana luphumla kumzimba kanina.”. Oko kukuthi, le paradigm ikhankanywe ngasentla ithatha indawo yokuqala kunaleyo 'yokunceda', enokuthi ibe lungenelelo. Inkcazo ayenzayo yenkqubo inika umdla, umzekelo uchaza ukuba i-neocortex (ebizwa ngokuba 'yingqondo enengqondo') ithande ukunciphisa umsebenzi ngexesha lokubeleka, ngoko ke nayiphi na imbonakalo yolwimi lomntu (intetho kunye neyomlomo) kufuneka incitshiswe kwaye isetyenziswe. ngononophelo olukhulu, ukuze ungayisebenzisi kwaye uphazamise.
UMichel Odent akaphiki ungenelelo oluyimfuneko, okwenzekayo kukuba ngokoluvo lwakhe, uninzi lwabo alukho. Ngokwenene siphulukene nendalo ekufanele inyanyaniswe nokuzala, kangangokuba uqhaqho lube yinto eqhelekileyo ngendlela emangalisayo, kwaye noomama bayayithethelela (ngenxa yokukholelwa okanye uloyiko lokuqonda into ecacileyo).
I-Cocktail yeehomoni ezifikelela kwisenzo sothando.
U-Odent uyinxalenye yemibutho yezenzululwazi, nangona e-United Kingdom (apho ahlala khona) akazenzi njengogqirha wokubelekisa okanye ugqirha; Nangona kunjalo: Amava akhe amaninzi angaphambili aquka isikhundla kwiyunithi yokubeleka kwisibhedlele sasePithiviers, apho waye wafumana ithuba lokubuza (kwaye ancede ababelethi ukuba benze okufanayo) uninzi lwezenzo eziqhelekileyo.. Njengoko uyazi, i-oxytocin yi-hormone yothando, kwaye ikhutshwe ukuze iququzelele ukuzalwa komntwana, kuba ibangela i-contractions, ngoko iphinda ingenelele kwimfihlo yobisi lwebele.
Kodwa ukuba amanqanaba e-adrenaline yowesifazane aphezulu (uziva esongelwa, egxininisekile) ukuzalwa kuya kufuneka kulinde ... kwindawo yendalo yayiza kwenzeka xa umfazi eziva ekhuselekile, esibhedlele, into yokuba 'ayiqhubeki phambili' inokubangela uthotho longenelelo (olufana ne-synthetic oxytocin, touch, njl.njl.) olunokwenza imeko ibe mandundu ngakumbi. (ukuba mandundu kuqondwe 'njengomgama kwinto yendalo').
Iinkcukacha ezibaluleke kakhulu.
Odent usinika oko Abasetyhini abakhulelweyo akufanele bahlale bengasebenzi, ukuba ukukhanya okumfiliba okanye ubumnyama obungakumbi buthanda, kunye nokuba intambo ayinqunyulwa phambi kwexesha. Kulo mba, ukuba sinokuziva sinethamsanqa ukuba neengcali zempilo kunye nezixhobo, kuya kuba ngenxa yokuba sineengcebiso kunye nomntu wokusinceda ukuba kuyimfuneko; Kodwa indlela elungileyo yokunceda umfazi ozalayo ‘kukumkhapha’ ngokulula.
Abasetyhini baye bazala ngaphandle kobunzima, kwaye ngaphandle kweengxaki ezinxulumene nayo, inxalenye enhle yembali yethu njengabantu, kodwa ngaphezu kwayo yonke into esiyizilwanyana ezanyisayo, nangona 'uloyiko' okanye iindibano ngamanye amaxesha zisenza silibale.
Ngokuqinisekileyo: Ukuba siyazazi iimfuno ezisisiseko esinazo njengezilwanyana ezanyisayo, kunye neentsana zethu, kuya kuba lula ukucela uncedo 'olungangeneleliyo' ekuzalweni kwethu.. Sinokuqala ngokukhangela ulwazi ukuze sizive sikhuselekile, sithethe kunye nombelekisi, qhagamshelana nombutho Ukuhanjiswa yeyethu, kunokwenzeka ukuba silungiselele yethu Isicwangciso sokuzalwa, nokuba ucinga ngokuzalelwa ekhaya. Ulwazi kuqala, ukwenza izigqibo okwesibini, hayi enye indlela.
Imifanekiso - UTom Adriaenssen