Siyavumelana nawe Ukuthetha noonyana neentombi zakho malunga nokuthintela inzala akukho lula, kodwa kubalulekile. Inqanaba eliphezulu lokukhulelwa okungafunekiyo lenzeka ngexesha lokufikisa, kwizibini ezingaphantsi kweminyaka eli-17 ubudala.
Kubalulekile ubudlelwane obukhoyo phakathi kwabazali nabantwana kunye imfundo abazamkeleyo. Njengakwamanye amaxesha, sikunika ezinye izikhokelo kunye neengcebiso malunga nendlela yokujongana nesihloko, kodwa lusapho ngalunye nomzali ngamnye ekufuneka ethathe izigqibo.
Iindlela zokuthetha malunga nokuthintela inzala kulutsha
Isitshixo kulo naluphi na unxibelelwano yile ukuhloniphana, apho kuvela ukuthembana. Abazali kufuneka babe nomonde, bayihlonele imfihlo yolutsha, kwaye bathathe ixesha lokujonga iimvakalelo zokufikisa ngaphandle kokugweba.
Ngokufanelekileyo, abazali benze indawo ekhuselekileyo apho unyana okanye intombi aziva ekhululekile ukuthetha ngalo mbandela. Ukuba ukufihla malunga nokwabelana ngesondo kuthintelwe, akufuneki kube yinto ekungathethwa ngayo, abantwana baya kuthi ngokuzithemba babuze kubantu abadala ekubhekiswa kubo, oko kukuthi, abazali babo, bafune iingcebiso kunye noncedo.
Enye inkcukacha ekufuneka igcinwe engqondweni yile Ukuthetha nge fait accompli kunokoyikisa kubafana kunye nomlilo. Kufanelekile ngakumbi ukubuza ukuba "ulala rhoqo kangakanani?" Ngaphandle kokuba "uyabelana ngesondo?" Ngokhetho lokuqala siyaqonda ukuba uyabelana ngesondo okanye uyasebenza kwaye ke ungasiphendula okanye usixelele ukuba awunabudlelwane. Ngokusebenzisa umbuzo wokuqala kulula ukuba inkwenkwe okanye intombazana ivule incoko. Kwimeko yesibini kubonakala ngathi simcela ukuba avume izono kwaye sakha udonga phakathi kukabawo nonyana.
Ulutsha kunye nokubuyela umva
Singatsho ukuba lonke ulutsha luyazi ngolawulo lokuzalwa, nangona kunjalo basemngciphekweni ngezixhobo ezibuyela umva.
Isimo sengqondo sokufikisa senza abantu abatsha bafuna ukuhlala ngalo mzuzu kwaye ungazihluphi ngemiphumo yezenzo zakho.
Kungumsebenzi wabazali ukuthetha nabo kwaye, zibakhuthaze ukuba basebenzise izixhobo, izinto zokucwangcisa, ngaphambi kokufikelela kwiimeko ezingenakuphinda zisasazeke kwizifo, usulelo okanye ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo.
Ukukhetha indlela yothintelo kukwenza oko esinye sezigqibo zokuqala ezenziwa yinkwenkwe okanye intombazana, nokuba kukodwa okanye ngokuvumelana nesibini. Iindlela zokuthintela ukukhulelwa ziyatshintsha ngokuxhomekeke kwixesha lobomi kunye nohlobo lobudlelwane olugcinwayo. Kubudlelwane obungaqhelekanga, iikhondomu ziyacetyiswa, kubudlelwane obuzinzileyo uninzi lukhetha unyango lwehomoni, nokuba ziipetshi okanye iipilisi.
Kuyathakazelisa ukugxininisa ukuba ukuthetha ngesondo elikhuselekileyo nonyana wakho akunanto yakwenza nokuzikhethela ngokwesondo, indlela yakhe okanye isigqibo sezenzo zesondo anazo, kodwa ngumnqweno. ukhuseleko njengabazali malunga nempilo yakho. Mncede aqonde ukuba le ngu imeko eyingozi, ukuba kukho izixhobo zokuphepha umngcipheko, ukonwabela amava. Mcebise ukuba asebenzise iikhondom ngesondo, nokuba usebenzisa enye indlela yokuthintela ukukhulelwa.
Ezinye iindlela zokuthintela ukukhulelwa
Ukuba uza kuba nencoko malunga nezinto zokucwangcisa kunye nonyana okanye intombi yakho, kufanelekile ukuba uyazi amathuba anikezelwa luluntu lwakho oluzimeleyo kwimpilo yoluntu okanye yabucala. Ngaphandle kweekhondom zamadoda, ezinokufumaneka kwimibala eyahlukeneyo, imibala kunye neencasa, kukho neekhondom zabasetyhini ezithengwa ngaphandle kommiselo.
Los iindlela zokuthintela ukukhulelwa eSpain zizixhobo zangaphakathi, izixhobo zokucwangcisa, iipilisi, isicwangcisi sokucwangcisa, iringi yelungu lobufazi kunye nenaliti yokuthintela ukukhulelwa. Zonke ziyacetyiswa ukuba zithengwe ngugqirha, kodwa zinokuthengwa ngaphandle kwayo.
Ngokubanzi ezi ziindlela ezikhusela ukukhulelwa, yiyo ke le nto umfazi okwishumi elivisayo leyo kufuneka uyithathe, icetyiswe ngugqirha wakho okanye indlela oyikhethayo. Kwaye oku ulwazi malunga neenzuzo kunye neengozi kubalulekile. Ezi zinto zokuthintela ukukhusela aziboneleli ngokhuseleko kwizifo ezidluliselwa ngeentlobano zesini.