Uxinzelelo luhlasela abantu abadala kunye nabantwana, nangona abantwana bephila ngokwahlukileyo. Bakwadibana nobunzima kubomi babo bemihla ngemihla obunokubangela uxinzelelo. Ukufumanisa iimpawu kubaluleke kakhulu ukuze ukwazi ukubanceda. Sishiya ezinye iingcebiso zakho wazi njani ukuba umntwana wakho unoxinzelelo kunye nendlela yokumnceda alulawule.
Uxinzelelo ebantwaneni
Uxinzelelo ebantwaneni yinto exhalabisayo, kuba Ukuba ayishiywanga ingakhange inyangwe, inokukhokelela kwiingxaki ezimbi kakhulu. Baphendula ngokwahlukileyo kunabantu abadala kuxinzelelo, kuxhomekeke kubudala babo kunye nezakhono zabo zokuhlangabezana.
Kukho izizathu ezininzi kutheni umntwana enokuziva enexinzelelo. Masibone oonobangela abahlukeneyo bokuba umntwana angabuva ubunzima
- Unokuba njalo utshintsho olukhulu njengokutshintsha indlu, isikolo, abazali uqhawulo-mtshato, ukuzalwa komntakwabo ... into ephazamisa inkqubo yabo. Zihlala ziyimeko yethutyana, kodwa ukuba ziyandiswa zinokuba neziphumo ezibi.
- Kwakhona oko bakuvayo nabakubonayo ekhaya inokuba ngumthombo woxinzelelo. Iingxoxo ekhaya, iingxaki zemali zosapho, ukumamela iindaba ... kunokubangela uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo olukhulu. Kuya kufuneka sihlalutye ukuba loluphi uhlobo lolwazi esikuthumela lona kubudala bakho.
- Los iishedyuli ezingapheliyo ezinemisebenzi yangaphandle Banokucinezela abantwana ngokubasindisa ngaphezulu. Abantwana kufuneka badlale, babe nexesha lasimahla, kwaye bayadika.
- Funda okanye ubukele iimovie ezoyikisayo zinokuvelisa uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo. Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba ukhetha njani ngokobudala babo ukuba zeziphi iincwadi kunye neemovie abazibonayo.
- La Ukufuna ngokwakho ikwangumthombo woxinzelelo. Ukufuna ukufumana awona manqanaba aphezulu okanye ukubalasela eklasini kunokuba nzima kubo.
- El ukuxhatshazwa okanye ukuxhaphaza kubangela iingxaki ezinzulu kakhulu kubantwana abaxhatshazwayo. Unokufunda inqaku lethu indlela yokufundisa abantwana bakho ukuba bajongane nokuxhatshazwa ukuba le yayiyimeko yoxinzelelo.
Njengoko sibona, oonobangela banokubaninzi, ke kuya kufuneka ulumkele iimpawu ukwazi ukuba ungazichonga njani.
Wazi njani ukuba umntwana wakho unestres?
Ezona mpawu ziqhelekileyo zezi:
- Iingxaki zokulala.
- Ukungabi nesidlo
- Ukudinwa okugqithisileyo
- Intloko ebuhlungu.
- Kunzima ukugxila.
- Ukungakhathali ngezinto awayezithanda ngaphambili.
- Ukuqhuba kakubi kwesikolo.
- Andifuni ukuya esikolweni.
- Bakho urhudo rhoqo.
- Ukutshintsha kwemood rhoqo
- Iingxaki zokunxibelelana nabanye abantu.
Lumka ukuba umntwana ubonakalisa enye okanye nangaphezulu kwezi mpawu.
Ungabanceda njani ukulawula uxinzelelo?
Kuyimfuneko ukuba icace kuqala kuyo yonke loo nto ayilulo lonke uxinzelelo olubi. Kwisixa esaneleyo yindlela yokufunda ngobomi babo nangabo. Ukunxibelelana nendalo esingqongileyo kunye nokukhula. Asinako ukuziphepha zonke iingxaki zabantwana bethu, kufuneka bafunde ukujongana nemiceli mngeni ukuze kwixesha elizayo bazi indlela yokwenza xa bejamelene neengxaki zabo kwaye bazive benamandla okwenza oko.
Ingxaki iyeza xa uxinzelelo luba namandla kakhulu kwaye luthatha ixesha, zinokubangela ukugula kakhulu. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kuqala kukuchonga unobangela woxinzelelo lwakho ukuze ulunyange. Ngamanye amaxesha isisombululo sinokuba lula, indlela yokuphelisa ukuphuma kweeklasi zesikolo kwaye ezinye zinokuba nzima ngakumbi.
Iingcebiso zokulawula uxinzelelo
- Misela iinkqubo kunye nemikhwa elungileyo ucoceko, ukulala nokutya.
- Zibeke kwimeko yabo. Yintoni enokuba bubudenge kuwe inokuba lihlabathi kubo. Sukuyithatha kancinci, mamela uloyiko lwabo kunye neenkxalabo ngaphandle kokugweba okanye ukunciphisa. Ngale ndlela siza kwenza abantwana bazive bekhululekile xa bethetha nathi ngayo kwaye bazive bethandwa kwaye bemanyelwe. Ukuthetha nje ngayo kunokususa uxinzelelo.
- Kuxhomekeke kubudala kunye nobuntu babo, kuya kuba lula okanye kube nzima kubo ukuthetha ngayo. Basenokungayazi noxinzelelo lwakho. Mncede abonise iimvakalelo zakhe ngamagama okanye ngemifanekiso, kwaye umbonise ukuba uxinzelelo luchazwa njani (umsindo, usizi, uloyiko ...).
- Yenza umdlalo othile inokukunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo.
- Masingakhethisi malunga nabo. Kuya kufuneka sinyamezele kwaye sibe bhetyebhetye, iimfuno zethu zinokuba ngumthombo omkhulu woxinzelelo.
- Yenza imeko-bume entle ekhaya. Ikhaya labo apho kufuneka bazive bekhuselekile. Akukho mfuneko yokubaxoka okanye ukufihla nantoni na kubo, ungabazisa ngokufutshane ngokweminyaka yabo ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ngaphandle kokunika ulwazi oluninzi. Abantwana bafumanisa ngayo yonke into kwaye bangabandakanyi kwinto eyenzekayo kusapho ibenza bazive belahlekile.
- Chitha ixesha kunye nabo. Abantwana bafuna ingqalelo, hayi izinto zokudlala. Into abaya kuyikhumbula xa bekhulile ayisiyiyo le babenayo kodwa ziinkumbulo abanazo zokuba kunye nawe. Dlala nabo, uyonwabele inkampani yabo.
- Las imisebenzi efana neyoga Ngendlela yokunciphisa uxinzelelo. Ungalibona inqaku I-6 ifuna ukwenza iyoga nabantwana bakho.
Ukuba imeko ingaphandle kolawulo lwakho, jonga ingcali.
Kutheni ukhumbula… ukubanceda balawule uxinzelelo kuya kubenza babe ngabantu abadala abafanelekileyo.