Njengoko sibonile ngamanye amaxesha, amanqanaba ekufuneka abantwana bafikelele kuwo ekukhuleni kwabo awanawo umzekelo omiselweyo. Umntwana ngamnye ngokokukhula kwengqondo yakhe kunye nokukhuthaza uya kuqala ukuthetha kungekudala okanye kamva. Kodwa ngokubanzi abantwana bayakwazi ukufikelela kumanqwanqwa athile kwiminyaka ethile.
Kuqhelekile nini ukuba umntwana afunde ukuthetha?
Lo ngumbuzo oxhalabisa kakhulu abazali babantwana abangasathethi ngokufanelekileyo njengoko befanele ngenxa yobudala babo. Ukweyiphi iminyaka ekufuneka ukhathazeke ngayo? Kufuneka ubase nini kunyangi oyingcali yokuthetha? Siza kwenza izimvo malunga noku kunye neminye imibuzo engezantsi.
Kukho abantwana abaqala ukuthetha kwangoko kakhuluBade bafunde ukuthetha ngaphambi kokuba bahambe. Kwelinye icala, abanye abantwana abaneminyaka emibini abatsho nelimdaka. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba singazibona njani iimpawu zakuqala zokuba umntwana wethu unengxaki ngentetho ukuze ayilungise ngaphambili.
Kuqwalaselwa nini ukuba kukho ingxaki kwintetho?
Kukho uthotho lweempawu esingayibona enokubonisa ingxaki:
- Ukuba akenzi zandi ukusukela ekuzalweni ukuya kwiinyanga ezili-12, akabonakali ngathi uyadlathuka ngezandi, engangxoli, kwaye engasebenzisi zandla zomzimba.
- Ukuba i-12 ukuya kwi-24 yeenyanga ayiphenduli kwigama lakhe, okanye sebenzisa izijekulo ukubulisa okanye ubonise into ayifunayo.
- Ukusuka kwiminyaka emi-2 ukuya kwemi-3 ubudala kwaye khange athethe nelilodwa igama (nokuba ayithethi kakuhle njenge-tete yokuthi pacifier), ayisebenzisani nabanye kwaye kunzima ukulawula ukuhlahlela amathe nokuhlafuna. Kule minyaka kufuneka bathethe malunga namagama angama-40-50, kwaye benze izivakalisi ezinamagama ama-2 ubuncinci.
- Ukuba kwiminyaka emi-3-4 abanakwenza izivakalisi ezilula zamagama aliqela kwaye abanakuqondwa ngabantu abangaphandle kwendalo. Akasebenzisi amagama anje ngezichazi kunye nezimelabizo, kwaye akakwazi ukubonisa into ayenzayo.
- Ukuba ukusuka kwiminyaka emi-4 ukuya kwemi-5 akazibizi izandi ezininzi kakuhle, wenza izivakalisi ezimfutshane ngaphandle kokudibana nesigama esincitshisiweyo.
- Ukuba ukusuka kwiminyaka emi-5 ukuya kwezi-6 iingxaki zokuchaza ziyaqhubeka, wenza iimpazamo kulwakhiwo lwezivakalisi kwaye unengxaki yokugcina ingqalelo yakho kwinto ethile.
Ukulibaziseka kokukhula kwentetho okanye ukulibaziseka kolwimi
Intetho yintetho yomlomo yolwimi (intetho), kwaye ulwimi yinkqubo yokwamkela nokukhupha ulwazi, nokulugcina lunentsingiselo. Oko kukuthi, umntwana onolibaziseko lokuthetha unokusebenzisa amabinzana namagama kodwa angaqondwa, kwaye omnye onolibaziseko kulwimi angawabiza amagama ngokugqibeleleyo kodwa akazi ukuba angayithetha njani into ayifunayo.
Ukulibaziseka ekufumaneni ulwimi kunokubangela iingxaki ekufumaneni ezinye izakhono njengokufunda, ukuqonda, ... kwaye kunokubangela indlela yokuziphatha enengcwangu. Unjalo ke unxunguphalo lokungazi indlela yokuthetha kakuhle ukuba abazi indlela yokuwubonisa loo msindo nangayiphi na enye indlela ngaphandle kokuziphatha komzimba kunye nokuziphatha komzimba. Banokuluma okanye babethe ukuba bayakhathazeka.
Ukufumanisa ukuba kukho ukulibaziseka ekufumaneni ulwimi ezinye izizathu ezinokubakho zifuna ukukhutshwa ngaphandle ezinje ngengxaki zokuva okanye ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo.
Ukulibaziseka kulwimi kuhlala kulula kwaye kuyazilungisa. Kodwa kwezinye iimeko kungcono uye kwingcali ukuze bayazi indlela yokuhlalutya imeko yomntwana wakho kakuhle. Iya kuhlalutya ulwimi lwakho olucacileyo nolwamkelayo, oko kukuthi, ukukwazi kwakho ukuzenza uqondwe kwaye uqonde.
Ungaphoswa linqaku ku Uyikhuthaza njani intetho ebantwaneni. Abazali banako ukukhuthaza ukukhula kolwimi lwabantwana bethu ekhaya xa bebancinci. Abantwana bafunda ukuqonda ulwimi ngaphambi kokuluthetha. Kungenzeka ukuba ukulibaziseka kwabo kwintetho kungenxa nje yokuba ekubeni bezenza baqondwe ngezinye iindlela akukho mfuneko yokuba bathethe. Yiyo loo nto kucetyiswa nokuba baqondwe ngolwimi lwabo, ukubenza benze iinzame kwaye bathethe.
Kutheni ukhumbula ... xa ungathandabuzeki, uye kugqirha wakho oza kwazi ukuvavanya imeko kwaye ayifumane ngokukhawuleza.