Ixhala lixhaphakile kubazali abatsha. Badla ngokuzibuza xa usana lukhasa, xa uqala ukunambitha ukutya okuqinileyo, uya kuthatha nini amanyathelo akho okuqala ... Kwaye uluhlu lude. Igubungela naziphi na izinto ezincinane ezithetha ngokukhula komntwana.
Inyaniso kukuba singakwazi ukuthetha ngeeparamitha ezithile xa sihlalutya ixesha apho a umntwana uqala ukukhasa. Kuyaziwa ukuba ezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo kufuneka zenzeke kuqala eziza kukhokelela kule nkqubo yokuzimela kwemoto. Kwaye xa sithetha ngeziganeko ezibalulekileyo kwihlabathi lobuntwana sibhekisa kwezo nguqu ziphawula indaleko yomntwana.
Ukukhasa okokuqala
Ukukhula komntwana akubona nje ubude okanye ubunzima kodwa kwanangezo nkqubo zendalo zithetha ngokukhula komntwana. Usana luzalwa lunethuku lokuncanca kodwa kwiiveki nje ezimbalwa luqala ukulujonga, luze lubonise uncumo lwalo lokuqala lokwenene. Kamva, uya kuzama ukuphakamisa nokuxhasa intloko yakhe, atyhile izandla zakhe, kwaye azame ukuchola izinto. Uya kusilandela ngamehlo akhe kwaye kancinci kancinci uya kufumanisa ukuba unokusebenzisana nehlabathi.
Malunga neenyanga ezintandathu ubudala, abantwana baqala ukuzihlalela. Kwezinye iimeko, oku kwenzeka kwiinyanga ezi-5, kwezinye kwiinyanga ezi-7. Linyathelo lokuqala elikhulu elisingise kwinkululeko. Xa sele bebodwa, banokukhasa ukujonga izinto kwaye ukusuka apho ukuya kukhasa kukho amanyathelo ambalwa. Ukukhasa linqanaba elilandelayo losana. Kwenzeka phakathi kweenyanga ezi-6 kunye ne-10, kuxhomekeke kumntwana kunye nophuhliso lwakhe lwengqondo.
Ekuqaleni ukukhasa kunokuba kancinane ... ukuthamba mhlawumbi? Musa ukulindela ukuba zonke iintsana zikhase ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye zithande kwiintengiso zikamabonwakude. Kukho iintsana eziqala nge ukukhasa okungaqhelekanga, apho zishukumayo okanye zityhale ngomlenze omnye. Kwezinye iimeko, okubizwa ngokuba Ndirhubuluza ndibuye, nto leyo eqhelekileyo kubantwana abaninzi. Kukho ke iintsana ezixuba ukukhasa nokukhasa.
Ikhasa nini?
Into ebalulekileyo kukwazi ukuba abantwana baqhubeka nenkqubo yabo yendaleko kwaye babonisa iimpawu zokuqhubela phambili kwemoto. Emva kokubamba intloko, ukuthatha izinto kunye nokuhlala yedwa, oku kukhasa kufika ukuba, nakwiimeko apho kungabonakali, kuthetha ngesiganeko esitsha ekuphuhlisweni kwemoto yomntwana.
Kwaye kutheni ungazikhathazi kakhulu malunga namaxesha kwaye xa usana lukhasa? Kuba into ekufuneka ihlalutywe yi-evolution curve. Kukho iintsana ezingakumbi ezinesibindi nasemzimbeni azenza yonke into kwangethuba ngoxa abanye bezolile yaye oko kulindelekileyo kwiminyaka ethile kwenzeka kamva. Okubalulekileyo kukurekhoda ukuba amanyathelo abalulekileyo aqhubeka nejika elilindelekileyo.
Ngaloo ndlela, malunga neenyanga ezi-8 kulindeleke ukuba umntwana uqala ukukhasa: ngasemva, phambili, emacaleni. Kodwa ukuba oku kungenzeki ngendlela ethile, into ebalulekileyo kukurekhoda ezinye iipatheni ezithetha ngokuziphendukela kwemvelo kunye nokwandisa ukuphuhliswa kweemoto. Isizathu? Kukho iintsana ezingazange zikhase kodwa zitsibe eli nyathelo liphakathi ukuya kwinto eza kuhamba.
Kukho iintsana ezithi emva kokuhlala phantsi, zishukume njalo njalo kodwa azikhasi. Njengoko ixesha lihamba, baqala ukuma bebambelele kwifenitshala okanye abantu baze baqalise ukuhamba. Ngelixa iintsana ezininzi zenza eli nyathelo eliphakathi, akusoloko kusenzeka. Kanye njengokuba kukho abantwana abahamba kwiinyanga ezili-10 kunye nabanye kunyaka onesiqingatha.
Kwilizwe lobuntwana akukho xesha lichanekileyo njengoko zininzi izinto ezinefuthe ekukhuleni komntwana. Into ebalulekileyo kukunikela ingqalelo kwigophe lendaleko lomntwana ngamnye. Kwaye xa ungathandabuzeki, soloko ubonisana nodokotela wabantwana olandela umntwana, oya kukwazi ukubona nayiphi na ingxaki enokwenzeka.