Ukuzingca ebantwaneni akunantsingiselo efanayo nakubantu abadala. Ukuzingca yinxalenye yophuhliso lwabantwana kwaye kufuneka badlule kweli nqanaba.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kungafuneki ukuba uyinike ukubaluleka kunaleyo inayo zama ukumelana ngeyona ndlela ibalaseleyo ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa luvalo.
Xa bephethwe kukuzingca
Ubungqongqo bokukhula komntwana kwenzeka kwiminyaka emibini okanye emithathu ubudala. Ngaphandle kokungakwazi Uvelwano, omncinci uziva embindini wayo yonke into kwaye ke ngoko akanako ukuzibeka ngokwembono yomnye. Ukuziva ungoyena mntu ubalulekileyo kwiplanethi kunye nokufumana yonke into oyifunayo kubangela ukuba umsindo oyoyikekayo uvele. Omncinci uyakhathazeka xa eqonda ukuba akayifumani le nto ayifunayo. Kule meko, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba umntwana awe phantsi emhlabeni, athambekele ngokugqithiseleyo, kwaye akhwaze kakhulu kunesiqhelo. Ukujongana nemeko enjalo, abazali kufuneka bahlale bezolile ngalo lonke ixesha ukuze bangaweli kumdlalo wabo. Baninzi abazali abaphulukana nendima yabo kwaye abazi ukuba mabenze njani phambi komsindo kunye nomsindo womntwana wabo.
Indlela yokujongana nomntwana onomsindo
Kuqhelekile ukuba kwiminyaka emibini okanye emithathu, umntwana wakho aqalise ukuva ingxaki yokuzingca ngayo yonke le nto ibandakanya oku. Njengomzali nasebudaleni, kuya kufuneka ugcine isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kunye nokuzola kwaye ulandele olu luhlu lwezikhokelo:
- Nangona umntwana wakho enomsindo, kuya kufuneka uphephe ukumvumela ukuba umnike oko akufunayo. Zolile ngomonde kwaye ngaphandle kokungxola okanye ukuphelelwa ngumsindo, menze aqonde ukuba ayinakuba yile nto ayithethayo kwaye acebise enye indlela anokuzola ngayo. Akukho sizathu sokuphulukana nemithambo-luvo yakho nokumngxolisa kuba ngale ndlela uza kwenza izinto zibe mbi ngakumbi.
- Nje ukuba umntwana wakho aqale ukuthetha kakuhle, uya kuqala ukunxibelelana nokunxibelelana nabanye. Ukususela ngelo xesha uya kubeka kwindawo yokujonga enye kwaye uya kushiya i-egocentricity. Xa ndijika ezine okanye ezintlanu, umntwana uqala ukukhula ngakumbi kwaye uyaziqonda izimvo ezahlukeneyo zabanye ngcono.