Uninzi lwabantu luhlala lukujonga ukuphathwa gadalala kwabantwana nembonakalo yomzimba. Nangona kunjalo, ukushiyeka okunomdla okanye ukungahoywa kwabazali emntwaneni kuthathwa njengohlobo lokuxhatshazwa. Ukujongana nokusilela kothando kwicala labazali, umntwana unengxaki yokonzakala ngokweemvakalelo eya kuba nefuthe elibi kule minyaka idlulileyo.
Ukungabikho kothando kuya kubangela iingxaki ezithile emntwaneni, ezinje ngobunzima bokukwazi ukunxibelelana nabanye kunye nokuzithemba. Kungenxa yoko le nto ukungahoywa ngokweemvakalelo kufanele kuthintelwe kuzo zonke iindleko kwaye banike lonke uthando, uthando kunye nenkathalo enokwenzeka ebantwaneni.
Kuthetha ntoni ukungakhathalelwa ngokweemvakalelo
Ukungahoywa ngokweemvakalelo kukusilela kukhathalelo lwabantwana ngabazali babo. Ngaphandle kothando, ezinye izinto ezisisiseko ziyasilela, ezinjengococeko okanye ukutya. Abazali bengaqondanga, bayityeshele imfundo yabantwana ngayo yonke le nto ibandakanya oku.
Ngelishwa, Ukungahoywa ngokweemvakalelo kuhlala kuthathelwa ngqalelo ngaphandle kokukunika ukubaluleka kwenyani. Nangona kunjalo, ukungakhathali okunjalo kunokubangela iingxaki ezinkulu emntwaneni oziva engaqondwa ngamaxesha onke kunye nokusilela okuzithemba.
Ukuziphatha okuqhelekileyo kokungahoywa ngokweemvakalelo
Abazali abenza ngokungakhathaleli ngokweemvakalelo bahlala bebonakalisa iindlela ezimbini zokuziphatha:
- Ababoneleli ngalo naluphi na uhlobo lothando okanye iimvakalelo kubantwana babo. Abaqhele ukubanga okanye babange.
- Abantwana abanalo naluphi na uhlobo lwemithetho kwaye akukho luqeqesho ekhaya. Ukungabikho kwegunya kwicala labazali kucacile, nto leyo ebangela imvukelo ebantwaneni.
Ungakulungisa njani ukungakhathalelwa ngokweemvakalelo
Kwiimeko ezininzi, Abazali abaqapheli ukuba benza ngendlela yokungakhathali kwimfundo yabantwana babo. Oku kuyanzima xa kuziwa ekusombululeni le ngxaki. Aba ngabazali abacinga ukuba babafundisa ngokugqibeleleyo abantwana babo ngaphandle kweziphene ezinzulu abazenzayo kwinqanaba lothando nakwimfundo yabantwana babo.
Iingcali zicinga ukuba abazali abafundisa ngokungakhathali abantwana babo behlelwa yinto efanayo xa babesebancinci. Kungenzeka ukuba bahlupheke ngenxa yokungabikho kothando kubazali babo kwaye ngoku baphindaphinda umzekelo ofanayo nabantwana babo. Nangona kunjalo, Kubalulekile ukuba baqonde ukuba abazikhathaleli ezona mfuno zisisiseko zabantwana babo kwaye ngenxa yeso sizathu kufuneka bazivumele ukuba bancedwe kwaye benze izilungiso kwinto esele yenziwe ukuza kuthi ga ngoku.
Kubonakalisiwe ukuba ubudlelwane kunye nobudlelwane umntwana anabo nabazali bakhe ngumba ophambili xa kufikelelwa kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo lokufumana ukukhula kwengqondo. Ayingomntwana ofanayo ofumana ingqalelo ngokuqhubekayo kubazali bakhe, yalowo ongafumani thando lincinci kubazali.
Inokuqondwa ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba lokuba utata ongazange athandwe ebuntwaneni bakhe, uyokuthanda abantwana bakhe. Nangona kunjalo kubalulekile ukubekela ecaleni ukungakhathali mvakalelo ukusukela imeko yeemvakalelo kunye nengqondo encinci inokonakaliswa kule minyaka idlulileyo.
Ngamafutshane, Zininzi iimeko zokungahoywa ngokweemvakalelo ezenzeka kwiintsapho ezininzi zanamhlanje. Kukho abazali abangakhange bahoye abantwana babo kwaye imfundo abayinikelayo iphantsi ngandlela zonke. Nawuphi na umntwana kufuneka azive ethandwa kwaye eqondwa ngabazali bakhe. Ixesha elingaphezulu, uthando kunye nokubonakaliswa kweemvakalelo kwicala labazali, kunefuthe elihle emntwaneni kuba evakalelwa uthando lwabazali bakhe ngaye.