Kubantu abaninzi, intsapho Bangabantu abenza esona sangqa sisondeleyo, abahlobo abasenyongweni kunye nabo bantu baxhasa imihla ngemihla. Kwabanye, usapho lwenziwe ngokungqongqo abantu ababelana ngegazi. Kodwa ngokwenzululwazi yezentlalo, xa kuthethwa ngosapho, kubhekiswa "kwinqanaba elincinci lentlalontle", elenziwe ngutata, umama nabantwana.
Le nkcazo namhlanje ayisasebenzi. Kuba kumazwe amaninzi umtshato phakathi kwabantu besini esifanayo kunye nokusekwa kosapho phakathi kwabo sele kusemthethweni kwaye kuqhelekile. Nangona kunjalo, ikho enye indlela yokuchaza eli gama ngokomthetho, "Liqela labantu abazalanayo ngokobungakanani bezalamane".
Kodwa ngokwenene, yintoni usapho?
Amagama asemthethweni enzelwe ukuba akwazi ukugcwalisa amaxwebhu asemthethweni ngendlela elula kunye nehlabathi. Kodwa Kwiimeko ezininzi abahlangabezani neemfuno zokwenyani yabo bonke abantu. Yintoni enokuthi isebenze kwabanye, kule meko kwabanye abaninzi kunokuba kude kakhulu nenyani. Oko kukuthi, ngokusemthethweni usapho lwakho lwenziwe ngabantu enabelana nabo ngegazi, kodwa kumaxesha amaninzi ngabantu ongenabudlelwane nabo.
Abantu abahlangana endleleni, ezo zenza ukuba ubomi bakho bube lula, buhle ngakumbi kwaye butyebise, zezona ziphela ziyinxalenye yosapho lwakho. Yinto eyaziwa ngokuba "lusapho olukhethiweyo" kwaye yeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kubantu abaninzi. Kodwa nangayiphi na imeko, ukuba nosapho kuthetha ukufumana uxanduva kubo.
Ngokomthetho, Kukho imisebenzi emibini kusapho engenakuhoywa. Kwelinye icala, uxanduva lokuqeqesha abantwana ukuze babe nakho ukunxibelelana nabanye abantu. Ngokulinganayo, ukujongana neemfuno zokwahluka kunye nokuhlonipha abanye. Omnye umsebenzi obalulekileyo ujolise kubantu abadala, ekufuneka babonelelwe ngendawo efanelekileyo yokwenza iinkqubo zabo kunye nokuhlangabezana nazo zonke iimfuno zabo.
Ngamafutshane, usapho kufuneka luzikhathalele, luzikhusele kwaye luzincede ebomini. Zombini xa indlela ilula kwaye namaxesha amnandi ekwabelwana ngawo. Njengokuba izinto ziba nzima kwaye ufuna uncedo lwabantu obathandayo. Kuba ekugqibeleni, izinto ezibalulekileyo ebomini ngamathuba ahlala nabo bakunika uzinzo, imvisiswano kunye nentlalontle, nokuba lusapho ngegazi okanye kulowo ukhethiweyo.