Ukufikisa linqanaba elibalulekileyo ebomini babo bonke abantwana, kukutshintshela ebudaleni. Eli nqanaba lingaqala ngexesha elahlukileyo kumntwana ngamnye, kuba akunakwenzeka ukumisela iminyaka eqala okanye ephela ngayo, nangona kukho uqikelelo ngokwe-World Health Organisation (WHO).
Ngexesha leqonga elibandakanya ixesha lokufikisa, zininzi ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwasengqondweni, ngokwasentlalweni, ngokwamahomoni nakwezesondo. Utshintsho olukhulu oluhlala luhambelana nokuziphatha okungaqhelekanga ebantwaneni, abathi kude kube ngulo mzuzu beziphathe ngendlela engenatyala nangakumbi yobuntwana. Bonke abantwana kufuneka badlule kulo mzuzu, ke kubalulekile ukuba abazali bazi nzulu ngayo yonke into ethethwa kukufikisa ukuze baxhase abantwana kweli nqanaba libalulekileyo.
Kukuthini ukufikisa?
Ukufikisa kubizwa ngokuba lixesha elidlula ukusuka ebuntwaneni ukuya ebuntombini. Umbutho wezeMpilo weHlabathi uqikelela ukuba kwinqanaba lokufikisa Inqanaba eliqala kwiminyaka eli-10 ubudala liye kwi-19. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba ugcine engqondweni ukuba umntwana ngamnye uguquka ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Oko kukuthi, zombini iinguqu zomzimba nezengqondo zinokubonakalisa ngaphambi okanye emva kweminyaka ebonisiweyo.
Ukufikisa kunzima kubo bonke abantwana, kuba akukho lula ukujamelana notshintsho oluninzi lwehomoni. Ngokuchasene nobuntwana, ube kwishumi elivisayo kubandakanya ukukhula ngokwasemzimbeni, ukuqala uneminqweno kwabanye abantu okanye iimvakalelo zokuthandana ezingaziwayo. Utshintsho ekungekho lula ukujamelana nalo olunokubangela utshintsho lwemood, ukuphazamiseka kwindlela oziphatha ngayo okanye utshintsho kwindlela oqhuba ngayo esikolweni emntwaneni.
Iinyani ezibalulekileyo malunga nokufikisa
Kumntwana ngamnye kunokuba lixesha elahluke kakhulu, nangona kunjalo, kukho izinto ezithile ekwabelwana ngazo ngokubanzi ngexesha lokufikisa. Ukuba abazali baxhase kwaye bancede umntu omncinci ngeli nqanaba kubalulekile ukuba umntwana akwazi ukoyisa. Ukuba unomntwana kwishumi elivisayo ngokupheleleyo, kubalulekile ukuba usebenze ngovelwano kwiimvakalelo zabo, kwaye Umonde omkhulu wokumelana neli xesha ngendlela ebalaseleyo.
Ezi zi Olunye ulwazi kufuneka uyazi malunga nokufikisa:
- Ngexesha lokufikisa, imiba ebalulekileyo yophuhliso yenzelwe ukufana ukuzimela okanye ubuntu.
- Utshintsho lomzimba olwenzeka ngexesha lokufikisa, Zaziwa njengokufikisa. Kwimeko yamantombazana, ukufikisa kubandakanya ukwandiswa kwamabele kunye nokubonakala kokuqala kokuya exesheni. Abantwana bafumana ubunzima bokutshintsha kwelizwi kunye nokwandiswa kwamalungu abo esini. Ukongeza kwinkangeleko yeenwele zomzimba, kokubini kumantombazana nakumakhwenkwe.
- Ngexesha lokufikisa, abantu abancinci baqala ukufumana iminqweno yomzimba kunye neemvakalelo zabanye abantuOko kukuthi, bakhulisa umnqweno wesini kunye nothando. Kubalulekile ukuba ubancede abantwana bakho abakwishumi elivisayo baveze ezi ntlobo zeemvakalelo, kuba abafikisayo abazicinezelayo ezi mvakalelo bathanda ukuba ngabantu abadala abanengxaki yokuseka ubudlelwane bezothando.
- Malunga nobudlelwane boluntu, lukhona utshintsho olukhulu kwindlela yokuziphatha kolutsha. Ngexesha lobuntwana, imeko yentlalo yenziwe ngabazali kunye nezihlobo ezisondeleyo. Kodwa xa befika kwinqanaba lokufikisa, baqala ukwakha ubudlelwane obunomdla nolunye ulutsha. Kuqhelekile ukuphuhlisa isimilo esithile, esinokuba yingozi ngamanye amaxesha.
Ukuqonda kunye nomonde
Bonke abantwana kufuneka badlule kweli nqanaba kwaye uhambe ngalo ngokwakho ngelo xesha. Kulula ukuba kungabikho mntwana unokujamelana nazo zonke ezi nguqu bangaziqondiyo. Ke ngoko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abantwana bafumane inkxaso kubazali babo ukuze bajongane neli nqanaba. Kuqhelekile ukuba iingxabano zosapho ziqale ngequbuliso ukwenzeka, kuba umntwana ofikisayo uqala ukuziva eyinxalenye yomntu omdala, nangona kubazali eqhubeka nokuba ngumntwana. Ukuthintela eli xesha ekuchaphazelekeni kubudlelwane bakho, zama ukuqonda nokuxhasa umntwana wakho kwindlela yakhe yokuba mdala.