Umbutho uyazi ukuba ukuxhaphaza kuyinyani. Uninzi lwabantwana luyasokola ukuxhatshazwa, ukuphathwa gadalala, ukuthukwa okanye ubundlongondlongo ngabanye babo bafunda nabo, nkqu nabo bazibizayo bahlobo. Abantwana abathi ngesizathu esithile baqonde ukuba ubundlobongela bumnandi, eso sithuko sihlekisa, esithi ukukhala komnye umntwana ngowona mdlalo ubalaseleyo. Ukuphelisa isibetho sokuxhaphaza ngokusisiseko ngumsebenzi wabazaliNgumba wemfundo nentlonipho ekufuneka iqale ekhaya.
Ngaphandle kokwazi ukuba inokwenzeka, njengommiselo ngokubanzi akukho mzali ufuna ukucinga ukuba umntwana wakhe angalixhoba lokuxhatshazwa, ingaphantsi kwesitatshi. Kodwa kuluxanduva njengomzali ukuba athathele ingqalelo loo miqondiso, kwaye nakweyiphi na imeko, yenza ngokukhawuleza ukufumana isisombululo sengxaki ngokukhawuleza.
Ungenza ntoni xa umntwana wam exhatshazwa
Ngaba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho angalixhoba lokuxhatshazwa? yenza ngokukhawuleza, La manyathelo omele ukuwalandela.
Thetha nonyana wakho
Inyathelo lokuqala nelona libalulekileyo kukufumanisa ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni. Ungabona ukuba umntwana wakho uyasitshintsha isimo sakhe sengqondo, amandla kunye nendlela yakhe yokuphila, etshintsha kakhulu. Akasafuni ukudlala esitratweni, uyakuphepha ukunxulumana nabantwana abaqhelekileyo kwaye ukhetha ukuchitha iiyure ezitshixiwe egumbini lakhe. Olu luphawu olucacileyo lokuba kukho into eyenzekayo, kodwa akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe malunga nokuxhatshazwa.
Amaxesha amaninzi umlo phakathi kwabahlobo, umahluko okanye utshintsho lwabahlobo lunokudideka, ayisiyonto yokuhlukumeza leyo kwaye kubalulekile ukubahlula. Lo nto kufuneka ube nencoko nomntwana wakho, ukusuka kuthando, ukuqonda kunye nothando, ukuze umntwana azive ekhululekile kwaye angakuchazela ukuba kwenzeka ntoni.
Umntwana kufuneka ayazi loo nto awunyanzelekanga ukuba uphathe wedwa le meko, ekungafanelekanga ukuba inikezele kwi-blackmail. Kuba olu luhlobo oluqhelekileyo lwesoyikiso oluvela kubangcungcuthekisi, "umxelela njani umntu ..." Yenze icace emntwaneni ukuba kufuneka asoloko exelela umntu omdala into eyenzekayo, kuba ngaleyo ndlela bangasombulula oko kwenzekayo kubo .
Kusebenza ngakumbi ngakumbi kuwe ukuba usebenzele ukuzithemba komntwana, endaweni yokumfundisa ukuba azikhusele ngogonyamelo olungakumbi. Kungenxa yokuba into enokwenzeka kule meko kukuba umntwana wakho abe ngumntu onokuxhaphaza.
Yiba nentlanganiso nesikolo
Umzuzu wokuqala ufumanisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyaxhatshazwa, kufuneka ubambe intlanganiso engxamisekileyo neengcali zesikolo. Bobabini ootitshala, umlawuli kunye nabanye abasebenzi, kufuneka yazi ingxaki kwaye uthathe uxanduva. Ngaphakathi kweendonga zesikolo, ootitshala banoxanduva lomntwana wakho kunye nabanye abafundi.
Thetha nabo ubazise ngento oyibonayo, nokuba umntwana wakho ukwazile ukukucacisela okanye akakuchazanga. Ootitshala nabo mabathathe amanyathelo Ukuphelisa imeko ngokukhawuleza okukhulu.
Yazisa abanye abazali ngokuxhaphaza
Kule mihla kulula kakhulu ukunxibelelana nabanye abazali, amaqela e-WhatsApp ayasebenza oku. Ayisiyonto yokwenza ialam, kodwa malunga Cacisa imeko enokuchaphazela nawuphi na umntwana wakho kwilixa elizayo. Kubalulekile ukuba kubekho inkxaso phakathi kwabazali nabanye abafundi, kuba kufuneka uxele okwenzekayo.
Zama ukufumana isenzo esiqhelekileyo sokujongana nokuxhaphaza esikolweni, ngaphandle kokukhomba abaxhaphazi okanye abaxhaphazi. Intetho efundisayo kwiholo, nootitshala, abantu bangaphandle abanako nempembelelo entle kubo bonke abantwana. Oku kuyakunceda nomntwana oxhatshazayo abone ukuba abanye abantwana abekho bodwa kwaye abanakho ukuthatha ithuba kule meko.