Ukungakholelwa, umsindo, ukudideka kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba kuxhaphakile kumama ogulayo, into eqondakalayo nethembekileyo.
Ukujongana nokuxilongwa komhlaza webele, zihlala zaziwa ngcono kuzo zonke iziphumo zomzimba kunezo zengqondo. Ngale mini inikezelwe kubo bonke abafazi abanesibindi kunye neentsapho zabo, siza kugxila kumonakalo wengqondo woomama abanomhlaza wamabele.
Uloyiko lomhlaza wamabele
Njengomfazi, kunzima ukujongana nomhlaza wamabele, ngakumbi xa ndisitya familia imele intsika esisiseko, ngakumbi xa kukho abantwana. Umfazi kufuneka ajongane neseti yeemvakalelo ezingenakuphikiswa ezifika ngaphandle kokufumana indawo. Umama woyika ukusilela, ukusilela, amathuba okuphulukana nekamva nonyana wakhe, lokungazalisekisi amaphupha awasebenzeleyo... Ukungakholelwa, umsindo, ukudideka kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba kuyamoyisa, into eqondakalayo nethembekileyo.
Iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ziqhelekile, kwaye nabani na ova igama elithi umhlaza unentliziyo yakhe yeqa ukubetha. Liseligama elimangalisayo neloyikisayo. Ukuxhalaba kuhlala kusenzeka, uloyiko lwento ezayo, okanye xa yonke into igqityiwe, kusekho iota yokungaqiniseki ukuba isifo singabuya ... Ukuba nabantu ababalulekileyo abakufutshane kongeza intuthuzelo, kunye nokubandezeleka ngokusilela ukunqanda ukubakhathaza. la mujer Kuya kufuneka uzikholelwe ukuba uyakwazi ukuyoyisa kwaye ungacingi ukuba ubuthathaka, endaweni yoko, ukuqhubeka luphawu lwamandla amakhulu.
Umama onomhlaza wamabele
Xa umntu obhinqileyo ehlala nomhlaza wamabele ngaphandle komntwana, akufuneki omelele kuye, okanye agcine izimvo okanye iimvakalelo kuye ukuze angamonzakalisi.
Xa kukho umntwana embindini weemeko apho umama wakhe achaphazeleka kukugula, imvakalelo yokungenzi ngokwaneleyo iwela omabini amacala. Amalungu osapho anokuziva ngathi awanakho ukunceda ngendlela ebengathanda ngayo kwaye isigulana sinokuziva ngathi kukho abantu, kubandakanya nomntwana, ongakhathalelwanga nguye. Ukuthetha nabanye oomama abahamba kwinto enye, ukutshintshiselana ngamava, kunokuba yeyona ndlela yokuziphatha ikhuselekileyo, kwaye ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo yeyona nkxaso ilungileyo.
Umama uhlala ebeka iimvakalelo zonyana wakhe ngaphambi kwezakhe, yiyo loo nto jongana ne- kugula nabantwana ayishiyi inkululeko eyaneleyo yokubonisa lonke uloyiko lwekamva eliqinisekileyo. Inkqubo yokwamkelwa kwesi sifo, yomzabalazo kunye nonyango, kunye namaxesha alandelayo okulandela kunye nasemva kotyando, kuyakubonisa uxinzelelo kunye nokudinwa, ngokunokwenzeka kulungelelaniswe kwaye kuqulethwe. Umfazi kufuneka afunde ukuhlala nemeko yakhe entsha kwaye achache ngexesha elifanelekileyo, ngakumbi kwinqanaba lengqondo.
Iimvakalelo malunga nokugula
Isigulana siya kuziva ngathi siyakhwaza, ubunzima bokulala nokuphumla, iintlungu zomzimba wakhe ziya kumenza azive ebi kakhulu, kwaye nosapho imvakalelo yokuziva enetyala iya kwanda. Xa umntu obhinqileyo ehlala nomhlaza wamabele ngaphandle komntwana, akufuneki omelele kuye, okanye agcine izimvo okanye iimvakalelo kuye ukuze angamonzakalisi. Umama nenkosikazi, bomelele kwaye banesibindi, banokuzivumela ukuba bawe, ngamanye amaxesha banikezele ..., kodwa ngonyana, isibindi siphinda sivelise ngamandla. Ukukhuthaza isigulana kuya kuba sisitshixo ukuze angavumi iiseshoni zonyango eziceliweyo, okanye utyando ukuba kukho imfuneko.
Amadoda, abazali babo okanye abantwana, kufuneka basebenzise uncedo lwengqondo ukunqanda ukubola, kwaye bayazi ukuba benze njani nomntu ogulayo. Akufanele igwetywe, kodwa igqoke ngokungafaniyo. Iziphumo zeemvakalelo zokuhamba kwinkqubo echitha ixesha kufuneka zincitshiswe kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Ubomi obunempilo, ezemidlalo, ezifanelekileyo ukondla okanye iindlela zokuphumla zinokukunceda ujongane ngcono. Kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, isimo sengqondo kunye nokuziphatha okuhle kukamama ngaphambi kweli nqanaba kuya kuseta isantya kwaye kwenze kube nokunyamezeleka kuye wonke umntu.
Yabelana nonyana
Umntwana kufuneka azive eluncedo ukuba secaleni konina kwaye asabele komnye nomnye, ngaphandle kooyiso okanye uloyiko.
Kuxhomekeke kubudala bomntwana, umama angachaza ukugula kwakhe, amenze athathe inxaxheba kwinto eyenzekayo, mxelele ukuba uya kuba sentlungwini kwaye akasayi kuhlala onwabile kwaye ufuna ukuphuma ayokwenza naye izinto . Umntwana kufuneka azi ukuba akanatyala nantoni na nokuba ngaphandle kobunzima bomzuzu, bekunye kwaye njengentsapho, baya kuba nakho ukuya phambili.
Kukho abantu ababhinqileyo abafunyaniswa benomfanekiso oxinezelekileyo ngexesha okanye emva kokudlula kolu thango, bekwazi ukuyeka imikhwa elungileyo yobomi eqhelekileyo. Yonke inkxaso neengcebiso zibalulekile. Umama onomntwana oneminyaka emi-3 okanye nangaphezulu angamenza ukuba aqonde ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kuye. Amagama afanelekileyo kufuneka akhethwe ukuze wazi ukuba uthetha ngantoni. Umntwana unokuziva ekhululekile ukufumana inkxaso yeemvakalelo kunina, kwaye abe yindawo yokuzimela omnye nomnye ngexesha losizi.
Ixesha elizayo kunye notshintsho ngenxa yomhlaza wamabele
Umfazi uya kuba namaxesha okulilolo kunye nokungaqondani, uya kuziva ukuba ubomi buyamnika umva kubudlelwane bakhe, phakathi kwabantu okanye umsebenzi. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abamngqongileyo banokumcalula ngenxa yenkqubo ajongene nayo. Inkangeleko entsha kunye nokudodobala kwengqondo kuchaphazela umfazi onomhlaza wamabele, kwaye zichonge ikamva lakhe kunye Impilo yengqondo, ekungafanelekanga ukuba babe nazo, okanye bazive belahliwe.
Imizuzu mayilawulwe ngumfazi ngaphandle kwexesha. Kubalulekile ukuba avunyelwe ukuba athathe amanyathelo, athathe isigqibo kwaye ahlonitshwe. Ukuba nabasebenzi bezempilo oza kubhenela kubo ngokungathandabuzeki kunye noloyiko kuya kukunika uxolo lwengqondo. Olunye uloyiko olukhulu kukuba isifo sakho singelifa. Konke oku ndingakubhengeza kugqirha wakho. Kumfazi ongumama, Ukongeza, isifuba ayisiyiyo imbonakalo yomzimba kuphela, ikwayinxalenye yomzimba eyondla kwaye ithuthuzele umntwana, kwaye kuxhomekeka kwiimeko, ukuba ithathiwe, oko kuthetha ukuba ulahlekelwe kakhulu.