Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana bafuna ukukhula ngokukhawuleza kwaye benze izinto ezingezizo zabo, kuba loo nto ibenza bazive bekhulile. Akukho nto imbi ukuba abantwana babe naloo mvakalelo, yinto yendalo ngokupheleleyo. Ingxaki ibakho xa bevunyelwa ukuba benze izinto ezithile ukubakholisa, nto leyo kunokuba yingozi kubo. Phakathi kwabo bavumela yiphunga ikofu ngamanye amaxesha okanye ubavumele ukuba basele ibhiya engengotywala.
Abantu abadala ababini basela kuphela nangona kulapho umbuzo uvela ukuba ingaba abantwana bangakwazi ukusela utywala obungenatywala. Ekubeni igama layo, ngokomgaqo, lisixelela ukuba aliqukethe utywala. Kodwa ngaba kunjalo ngokwenene? Namhlanje siza kujongana nesi sihloko ngokweenkcukacha ezinkulu ukuze uhlale uyazi into enikwa abantwana kwaye ingaba yingozi kubo.
Bungakanani utywala kwibhiya eyi-0,0?
Okokuqala, kufuneka sikhankanye eyona ngxaki iphambili ikwingcamango ephosakeleyo yokuba sisiselo esinganxilisayo. Ngoko inokunikwa abantwana abacinga ukuba kufana nesiselo esibandayo. Kodwa oku kuphosakele ngokupheleleyo, phantse zonke iibhiya ezibandakanya ezibizwa ngokuba yi-0,0 kwaye 'ngaphandle' ziqulathe indawo encinci yotywala, nangona ipesenti encinane kakhulu. Ke ngoko, akukho mntwana ungaphantsi kweminyaka eli-18 ofanele ukusela ibhiya, nokuba ngamanqaphanqapha, nokuba sisiselo esingenatywala ekuqaleni. Ukucacisa oku ngakumbi, kufuneka sicacise ukuba i-0,0 yebhiya inepesenti ye-0,04 yotywala okanye ngaphantsi, kodwa iyenzayo. Liyinyaniso elokuba yinxalenye encinane, ngoxa kwinto eyaziwa ngokuba yibhiya engenawo, ipesenti enokufikelelwa yi-0,09 yotywala.
Ngaba abantwana bangakwazi ukusela ibhiya engeyiyo utywala?
Emva koko siye sakuxubusha, sele sinayo impendulo. Hayi, abantwana akufanelekanga kwaye abanakusela ibhiya engeyiyo utywala. Ngoba? Ewe, kuba bonke baphethe utywala kwaye ayisiyonto icetyiswayo. Kwelinye icala, ukuvumela abantwana ukuba basele ibhiya engeyiyo utywala xa besebancinci, inokuba nefuthe kwindlela oza kusela ngayo iziselo ezinxilisayo. Umntwana unokufumana umkhwa ukuba kwixesha elizayo elingekude kakhulu, ube ngumkhwa ombi onxulumene nokusela utywala. Ngoko ke, oogqirha babantwana kunye neengcali zicebisa ukuba akukho meko umntu ongaphantsi kweminyaka eyi-18 ubudala asele olu hlobo lwesiselo, nokuba yinto engaqhelekanga.
Abantwana kufuneka bahlangane nothotho lwemithetho, eya kuthi itshintshe kwaye iqine njengoko bekhula. Ukuze bakulungele ukuzalisekisa uluntu ebudaleni babo, kufuneka funda ukuhlonipha le mithetho kwabancinci. Ke ngoko, ukuba abantwana abavumelekanga ukuba basele utywala okanye iziselo zabantu abadala, kuyacetyiswa ukuba ugcine loo mthetho kude kuvunyelwe ngumthetho. Ngale ndlela, umntwana wakho uya kuba nakho ukufeza olo xanduva.
Kufuneka basele ntoni abantwana?
Amanzi sesona siselo sisempilweni onokusinika abantwana bakho. Ayizizo iziselo ezinxilisayo, okanye iijusi ezipakishweyo, okanye iziselo ezinekhabhoni kunye neswekile. Zonke ziqulethe izinto ezingafanelekanga kubantwana, akukho meko zibonelela ngezondlo eziyimfuneko ekuphuhliseni. Ngoko ke, akuyonto abafanele bayidle kuba yinto eyingozi kubo ngeendlela ezininzi. Nangona kuyinyani ukuba ngamanye amaxesha iziselo ezibandayo ziya kubakho. Kuba nangona ingeyiyo eyona nto iluncedo, siyazi ukuba xa zithathwa manqaphanqapha akunyanzelekanga ukuba zibe ngumkhwa ombi kwimpilo yakho.
Ingxaki yotywala kubantu abatsha
Nangona kuyingxaki kuyo yonke iminyaka xa ithathwa ngezixa eziphezulu, koyena mncinci umonakalo unokuba mkhulu kakhulu. Ngenxa yokuba kunokuthiwa ingqondo isaqulunqa, ngoko xa kukho ukusetyenziswa kotywala, ii-neurons ziphela zonakalisiwe. Yiyo loo nto ikhathaza kakhulu into yokuba abantwana baqalise ukwazisa utywala kumatheko abo. Kuthiwa xa umfana ekuqhelile ukusela utywala nezalamane zakhe, udla ngokukubona njengento nje eqhelekileyo. Okunokukufaka ekusebenzeni rhoqo. Ngenxa yoko, ukusetyenziswa kwayo kuya kwandiswa nanini na kunokwenzeka. Ngale nto sithetha ukuba kungcono ukugcina utywala kude nomncinci endlwini, uthethe ngokucacileyo nabo kwaye usebenzise ngomzekelo.
Ngokungathi oko akwanelanga, kufuneka kwakhona kukhankanywe ukuba nangona kubantwana abancinci kuyinto eyingozi, kubantu abatsha ayikho ngasemva. Kukho iimeko zeengozi, kubandakanywa ukuzibulala okanye ukufa kwi-ethyl coma, konke ngenxa yokusela utywala.. Nangona bengayiboni njengengozi, ingabakhokelela kwezi meko. Ke, emva kokwazi zonke ezi zizathu, sicacile ukuba ibhiya engeyiyo utywala yinto yabantu abadala kuphela.