Kumsitho woSuku lwaBasetyhini, siza kuthetha malunga nokuba yintoni ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini. Siza kuyenza ukubala, ukongeza kwifayile ye- Ilizwi labasetyhini ababethwayo abanike ubungqina babo ukubhala ezi leta. Siza kubathethela malunga nokuba yintoni, iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini ezikhoyo kunye nefuthe lemfundo yesini kumanqanaba obundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini.
Utshintsho luyafuneka ukunciphisa ezi indices, utshintsho ilele kwimfundo yokulingana, akukho stereotypes yeendima zesini. Funda nathi ukubona ukuxhatshazwa okufihlakeleyo kunye nezinto ezincinci ezamkelweyo ngokwenkcubeko.
Buyintoni ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini?
Sichaza ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini njenge Naluphi na uhlobo lobundlobongela, obenziwa komnye umntu, ngenxa yezizathu zesini kuphela. Oko kukuthi, konke oko kuziphatha kuvelisiweyo kwenzakalisa omnye umntu, ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwasengqondweni, ngenxa yokuba besini esithile. Le yinkcazo esemthethweni yokuba yintoni ubundlobongela besini.
Ubungqina bala mabhinqa angamagorha kukhokelela ekuboniseni ukuba ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini yiyo nayiphi na inzame yokususa uxolo, ubomi kunye nenkululeko yomntu othi uyamthanda, kulungiselelwe inzuzo yakho. Isibonelelo esingenakuqondakala, kuba sisebenza kuphela ekunyuseni i-ego yezinto ezibonakalayo ezinokuzazi.
Iindidi ezahlukeneyo zobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini
Zintathu iintlobo eziphambili zobundlobongela obusekelwe kwisini:
- Ubundlobongela: Yiyo leyo ishiya umkhondo kwinkangeleko yayo, oko kukuthi, ukubetha, ukutyhala, ukuluma okanye naluphi na uhlobo lwenxeba olubangelwa ngumhlaseli.
- Ubundlobongela bezengqondo: Ngulowo usetyenziswayo ngokuthuka, ukukhwaza, ukuthotywa nokuphathwa gwenxa, kucace ngakumbi kwaye kubangela ukuba ixhoba lizive linetyala ngokuphendula komhlaseli walo. Ngaphakathi kolu hlobo lobundlobongela, sinako ukwahlula ezinye iintlobo ezimbini zobundlobongela. Inye ngu ubundlobongela ekuhlaleni, equka ukwahlula ixhoba kwindalo esingqongileyo, ukuze libe nakho ukuliqhuba ngokulula. Enye into ngu ubundlobongela kwezoqoqosho, apho umhlaseli ethatha uxanduva lokujongana neemali zosapho ngendlela eyenza ixhoba lixhomekeke ngokupheleleyo, ukumthintela ekumkeni kuye.
- Ubundlobongela ngesondo: Inokubandakanya ukunyanzela okanye ukugrogrisa ixhoba ukuba lifezekise isondo.
Ukunyanzelwa ukugcina ubudlelwane nako kukuphathwa gadalala.
Ilizwi labafazi bethu abangamagorha lisityhilela ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kunobuso obuninzi, ukuba umhlaseli ayisoloko iqala ngokubetha kwaye ayifanelanga iphele ikunika nayo. Ngamanye amaxesha ikubamba nje, ikusongele iwebhu kwaye ikuxinanise, ibambe ubungakanani bakho ngaphandle kokukuqonda kwaye iyitshitshise ngokupheleleyo intando yakho yokubaleka
Ukuphathwa gadalala ngobuqhetseba kunye nee-micromachisms
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuxhatshazwa akubonakali ngendlela ebonakala ngayo, yiyo loo nto kunjalo akukho lula ukuyibona. Sibiza oku ukuxhatshazwa okufihlakeleyo kwaye iqulethe, umzekelo, izimvo ezibonakala zimsulwa ezijongela phantsi ukuzithemba kwexhoba. Luhlobo loxhatshazo olufuna ukubenza buthathaka, ngesiqhelo njengenyathelo langaphambili lokuxhatshazwa okucacileyo. Nangona ngamanye amaxesha kungenxa yenkcubeko kunye neyentlalo es yamkelwe, njengee-micromachisms.
Ngamanye amaxesha uxhatshazo lufihlakele kangangokuba alubonakali ngeliso lenyama.
Ii-Micromachisms zobuqili kangangokuba asiziboni njengemachismo. Umzekelo, ukubonakaliswa kweendima zesini, izinto ezinje ngobuqhetseba njengetafile yokutshintsha kosana isegumbini lamanenekazi. Umsebenzi okhethekileyo wokuba ngumama ubangelwa ngumfazi onale nyaniso. Oko kunokuthathwa njenge-micromachismo, kunye nokucalucalula umntu emsebenzini ngenxa yezizathu zesini, nokuba kulungile okanye kubi.
Impembelelo yemfundo yesini kunye nobudlelwane bayo nodushe lwesini
Usuku ngosuku, kusekho imfundo ephawulwe ngesini, ekhaya naseziklasini. Kukho isini ngolwimi, ekuziphatheni kwentlalo, yinto eyakhiweyo, esele simile kuyo. Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka ilwe ekhaya kwaye ukusuka kumagumbi okufundela.
Umzekelo wokuziphatha ngokwesini esifundisa abantwana bethu kukuba kusekho iithoyi ezijongwa njenge «girlish» okanye «boyish»
Imfundo yesini ifuthe ekukhuleni kobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini, ngenxa yezizathu ezithathu:
- Ukunyusa ukongama kwesini esinye ngaphezulu kwesinye: amantombazana mahle, amakhwenkwe akrelekrele, amantombazana aziphethe kakuhle, namakhwenkwe omelele.
- Ukuququzelela ubundlobongela kwezoqoqosho nakwezentlalo: imfundo yesini ithanda ucalucalulo lwabasebenzi ngenxa yezizathu zesini, into enokubakho kwabasetyhini abanyanzelekileyo ukuba baxhomekeke kwezoqoqosho kumaqabane abo. Uxinzelelo kwezentlalo ngokubhekisele ekubeni ngumama kunye nokungabikho kokulingana ebomini kunye nokusebenza kunempembelelo kule nyaniso, kunye nokuzahlula ngokwasekuhlaleni kwexhoba.
- Kwenza kube nzima ukufumanisa ukuxhatshazwa okufihlakeleyo kunye ne-micromachisms: Kunzima ngakumbi ukuba inkcubeko yakho ixhasa olu hlobo lokuziphatha ngandlela thile ukubafumanisa. Ke ngoko, iyasithintela kwinkqubela phambili kwezentlalo, ethi yaphule ngokwenyani isini kwaye ifikelele kwinqanaba loluntu olwahlukeneyo nolulinganayo.
Ilizwi lamagorha ethu
Asinakuqhubeka nokuthula ilizwi lamaxhoba okuphathwa gadalala.
Aba bafazi banike ubungqina babo, bayenza icace kuthi imfuneko yokuphelisa ubuhlanga kwimfundo yabantwana bethu. Ubundlobongela besini buyaqhubeka nokukhula, ebusheni, kwinqanaba labadala. Kukho iindaba ezingakumbi nangakumbi ezisityhilela oko. Baninzi nangakumbi abalinganiswa njengabo, ukunika ubungqina babo, ngakumbi nangakumbi zilahlekile, kuba ayingabo bonke abanethamsanqa elifanayo.
Asinakho ukuvumela abantwana bethu, nokuba siphi isini, bazive bebhetele kunabohlukile. Asinakuvumela nabani na abe namandla okuthoba, ukubetha okanye ukuthulisa ilizwi lomnye umntu, ukujongela phantsi ukuthanda kwabo, ukuthatha ubomi babo, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo. Kufuneka siphakamise amazwi ethu, sithethelele la magorha, kuba ndim, nguwe, ngabo, sibanye, SONKE.