10 amabinzana abenzakalisa abantwana bakho

Amabinzana akhathaza abantwana bakho

Sihlala sihlala siqaphela yonke into eyenziwa ngabancinci endlwini. Ngayiphi injongo? Ewe, ngokubathintela ukuba bangazilimazi, ukufikelela kwizinto ekungafanelekanga okanye bawele phantsi kwizitebhisi, njl. Kodwa nangona konke oku kuya kuthetha intlungu enkulu emzimbeni, kufuneka kwakhona sibakhusele kwiintlungu zangaphakathi. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, kukho uluhlu lwamabinzana abuhlungu kakhulu.

Nangona ixesha elininzi sizithetha ngokungazi, kufuneka sizame ukwenza i umsindo musa ukusigqitha Kukho amabinzana ukuba kungcono ungathethi ebantwaneni kuba bayaphilisa kwaye babenza umonakalo omkhulu ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuba imeko iyasidlula, kufuneka sicele ukubuza kwaye siyithintele ukuba ingenzeki kwakhona. Emva koko siza kuchaza uluhlu lwamabinzana ekufuneka uwabhalile, ukuwasusa kwisigama sakho kwaye ungaze uphinde uthi ebantwaneni bakho!

Amabinzana akhathaza abantwana bakho: 'Ufana nomama / uyihlo!'

Ukusebenzisa lo mgca kumntwana wakho akuvumeli kuphela ukuba bazi ukuba le nto bayenzayo ayilunganga, ibenza bazive ngathi bayizuze njengelifa kumzali kwaye akufuneki babe noxanduva lwezenzo zabo. Ikwazisa umntwana wakho ngezikhalazo onazo nomnye umzali wakhe, ezinokumenza azive ahlukene ngandlel 'ithile. Endaweni yoko, zama ukuthi, "Andonwabanga ngo-x kuba u-x." Ngenxa yokuba ngaphandle koko uthelekiso luya kukhanya kwaye luhlala lunemiqathango embi. Yintoni ebangela ukuba bangaziva mnandi kwaphela kwaye bahlale naloo ndawo imbi yesivakalisi.

'Ndikuxelele'

Le yinto yokugqibela nabani na afuna ukuyiva xa kukho into engahambi kakuhle. Ewe, usenokuba ubuchanile ngoko umlumkisile umntwana wakho, kodwa ukumthuthuzela kunokuba umgibisele ebusweni kuya kumenza azive ekulungele ngakumbi ukuthetha nawe kwixesha elizayo. Kukugxininisa kwakhona ukuba abo babemngqongile babesazi ukuba loo mzuzu wehlazo wawuza kufika, ngaphandle kwalowo unomdla ngokwakhe. Kubonakala ngathi libinzana eliqhelekileyo lokungaphumeleli ngokupheleleyo kwaye yindlela encinci yendlu enokuziva ngayo. Into esingayifuniyo ukuba yenzeke kuba sifuna ukuba bahlale bezijongele phantsi. Endaweni yokuba ungathetha into enje, "Ndiyaxolisa ngale nto yenzekileyo, kodwa uzakufunda kuyo."

Yintoni ongayithethi ebantwaneni

'Funda kumntakwenu'

Libinzana eliye laliva uninzi lwethu ngaxa lithile. Ngokuba abo babengenabo umntakwabo kwafuneka baphulaphule xa kuthelekiswa nabazala okanye abahlobo abasondeleyo. Into ethile, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, yamenza buhlungu kakhulu umphulaphuli. Kusoloko kusithiwa ukuthelekisa kuyadika kwaye ibinzana elifana neli lalingenakubethelela isikhonkwane entloko. Basenokuvelisa usukuzwano oluthile, ukongezelela ekunciphiseni isidima sakhe, ekubeni esenokubandezeleka xa exelelwa oku. Ukuba bafaniswa nomntakwenu okanye nabani na ongomnye, loo nto ibenza bazive benganelisekanga. Endaweni yoko, zama ukungamthelekisi umntwana wakho nabanye ukuze umcenge ukuba enze into.

'Ndiza kukohlwaya'

Kuyinyani ukuba lelinye laloo mabinzana esinokuwathetha xa ezinye iindlela zingasebenzi kwisimilo esibi. Yiyo loo nto, xa sidinwe ngokwenene okanye sinomsindo, amazwi anjengala aya kuphuma emilonyeni yethu. Kodwa ukuba sicinga ngayo, ziya kuvelisa uloyiko olungakumbi. Nto leyo ekhokelela ekubeni ekugqibeleni benze into esiyifunayo kodwa ngenxa yokuba bayasoyika. Ngokuqinisekileyo asiyiyo le nto uyifunayo kubomi bentsapho yakho. Nangona ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba sithetha kwaye asihambisani nayo, abantwana bakholelwa ukuba akukho miphumo yokwenyani kodwa ukuvelisa uloyiko luqhubeka luyi-protagonist ephambili. Leya: Ukuba awuziphathi kakuhle, awuyi kuba nesipho somhla wokuzalwa! Ubusoloko umnika into xa kufika imini. Olu hlobo lwe-blackmail aluyi kuba luncedo konke konke. Ke, zama ukubeka izisombululo zokwenyani kwaye uziqhelanise ngomzekelo kuba sisipili sakho.

'Ngexesha ndandilingana nawe ndanditshaya/ndisela/ndenza iziyobisi'

Akusoloko kulungile ukuxelela abantwana bakho ngamava athile, kuba banokucinga ukuba baya kuzithethelela kwiziphumo ukuba bazenzela ngokwabo. I "kodwa wawuthe xa ubungangam" iyakuhlala ikuphazamisa. Endaweni yoko, zama ukuthetha nabantwana bakho malunga neziphumo zokutshaya, ukusela, okanye ukusebenzisa iziyobisi. Ngoko khumbula ukuba kulungile ukubaxelela malunga nokufikisa okanye ukukhula kwakho, kodwa zama ukuzenza ngokwahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo iinkcukacha okanye iziganeko kunezo zikhankanyiweyo.

'Bubuxoki obumhlophe obuncinane'

Nje ukuba abantwana baqhele igama elithi "ubuxoki obuncinci," bacinga ukuba kulungile ukuyenza ngalo lonke ixesha. Endaweni yoko, zama ukucacisa ukuba kulungile nini ukusebenzisa ubuxoki obumhlophe ukuba uchubeke kwaye ungonzakalisi iimvakalelo zomntu. Phambi kwemigca phakathi kobuxoki kunye nobuxoki obuncinci obumhlophe buyabamfiliba. Kufuneka sisoloko sikwenza kucace kubo ukuba inyaniso iya kuyo yonke indawo kwaye ubuxoki bunemilenze emifutshane kakhulu. Ngoko asiyondlela yokungena kuyo. Nokuba ungcwele okanye hayi. Elinye lamabinzana anokucaciswa ngokucokisekileyo!

Umama ethethisa unyana wakhe

'Ndiyagula nguwe'

Liyinene elithi inkwenkwe okanye intombazana inokuba nesimilo esidinwayo kuba ingasihoyanga, umzekelo. Ngoko umsindo wethu unokunyuka kakhulu. Kodwa xa sifika kwibinzana elinje, impembelelo kubantwana abancinci endlwini inoburhalarhume. Kuba okwemizuzwana embalwa baye bazive bengento yanto, sibenza babandezeleke ngokwenene, yaye oku kuyimpembelelo ebalulekileyo. Ngoko ke, kufuneka siwulawule umsindo size sithethe ngokucacileyo kuwo. Ungabaxelela ukuba udikiwe yile meko, kodwa hayi ngabo.

'Ukhohlakele, usidenge, awunamsebenzi ...'

Zonke ezi zithuko maziphume kwisigama sethu. Kuba ukuba ngokwenene sicinga ngayo, ngamagama okanye amabinzana aneentsingiselo ezimbi kakhulu yaye atshabalalisa ukuzithemba kwayo nayiphi na inkwenkwe okanye intombazana. Aba baya kukholelwa ukuba banazo zonke ezo mpawu kwaye endaweni yokutshintsha, baya kuzicingela kuba uyise okanye unina ebaxelele njalo. Ngoko, kufuneka sigxile koko kufuneka bakutshintshe, sibaxelele into abayenzileyo engalunganga kwaye sibancede benze olo tshintsho ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ukuqala ngezinto ezintle, siya kuhlala sinesiphumo esingcono.

'Sukulila, ayinto imbi kangako'

Kuthekani ukuba kungenxa yabo? Singoobani thina ukuba sithintele iimvakalelo zabo? Sele sisazi ukuba kukho abancinci abaneemvakalelo ngakumbi kunabanye kwaye ayisiyonto imbi, ngokuchaseneyo. Kufuneka sibavumele babonise iingcinga zabo kwaye xa befuna, sibazise ukuba siya kuba lapho ngayo yonke inkxaso yethu. Kungale ndlela kuphela esiya kuqinisekisa ukuba abazifihli iimvakalelo zabo, kuba baya kusetyenziselwa ukubakhulula kwaye kungabikho mntu uya kubagxeka.

'Funda okanye awuzukuphumelela nto ebomini'

Ingxaki ngamabakala ibisoloko ibangela iingxabano ezininzi ekhaya nabazali. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, xa intandabuzo ifika kumanqaku, amabinzana afana neli likhankanyiweyo ayeqhelekile. Yintoni eyenza usizi luphindwe kabini: kumagama kunye namanqaku. Inkwenkwe okanye intombazana iya kuziva iphantsi yaye ingento yanto. Ke ngoko, kufuneka sibethelele ukufunda, sibancede baphumelele kwaye sijonge ezinye iindlela ezizezinye. Mangaphi kula mabinzana okhe wathetha kanye nokuba kukanye?


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