Sihlala sihlala siqaphela yonke into eyenziwa ngabancinci endlwini. Ngayiphi injongo? Ewe, ukubathintela ukuba bangonakali, ekufikeleleni kwizinto ekungafanelekanga okanye ekuweni phantsi kwezitepsi, njl. Kodwa nangona Konke oku bekuya kuthetha intlungu enkulu emzimbeni, kufuneka sibakhusele kwiintlungu zangaphakathi.. Ngoko ke, kukho uluhlu lwamabinzana abuhlungu kakhulu.
Nangona ixesha elininzi sizithetha ngokungazi, kufuneka sizame ukwenza i umsindo musa ukogqitha thina. Kukho amabinzana angcono ukuba ungawathethi kubantwana bakho kuba ayakrala kwaye abangela umonakalo omkhulu ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuba imeko iyasoyisa, kufuneka sibuze kwaye siyithintele ukuba ingenzeki kwakhona. Apha ngezantsi siza kucacisa uthotho lwamabinzana omele uwabhale phantsi, uwasuse kwisigama sakho kwaye ungaze uphinde uwathethe ebantwaneni bakho!
Amabinzana akhathaza abantwana bakho: 'Ufana nomama/uyihlo!'
Ukusebenzisa lo mgca kumntwana wakho akumvumeli nje ukuba azi ukuba into ayenzayo ayilunganga, kodwa imenza azive ngathi uyifumene njengelifa kumzali kwaye akufanele abe noxanduva ngezenzo zakhe. Ikwaxelela umntwana wakho ngezikhalazo onazo komnye umzali wakhe, nto leyo enokumenza azive ekrazukile. Endaweni yoko, zama ukuthi, "Andonwabanga ngu-x kuba x." Ngaphandle koko uthelekiso luya kuvela ekukhanyeni kwaye luhlala lunemiqathango embi. Nto leyo ibenza bangaziva kakuhle kwaye bashiyeke naloo ndawo inegetive yesivakalisi.
'Ndikuxelele'
Le yinto yokugqibela nabani na afuna ukuyiva xa kukho into engahambi kakuhle. Ewe, usenokuba ubunyanisile xa umlumkisa umntwana wakho, kodwa ukumthuthuzela kunokuba umgibisele ebusweni kuya kumenza azive ekulungele ngakumbi ukuthetha nawe kwixesha elizayo. Kukugxininisa kwakhona ukuba abo bamngqongileyo babesazi ukuba lo mzuzu wehlazo wawuza kufika, ngaphandle kwaloo mntu uzixhalabeleyo. Kubonakala ngathi libinzana eliqhelekileyo lokungaphumeleli ngokupheleleyo kwaye yindlela abancinci bendlu abanokuziva ngayo. Into esingayifuniyo ukuba yenzeke kuba sifuna ukuba basoloko bezixabisa. Endaweni yoko, unokuthi, “Ndiyaxolisa ngale nto yenzekileyo, kodwa uya kufunda kuyo.”
'Funda kumntakwenu'
Libinzana eliye laliva uninzi lwethu ngaxa lithile. Ngokuba Abo babengenabo umntakwabo kwafuneka baphulaphule xa kuthelekiswa nabazala okanye abahlobo abasondeleyo. Into, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, yamenza buhlungu lowo wayivayo. Bekusoloko kusithiwa uthelekiso lunentiyo kwaye ibinzana elifana neli alinakuba nebala. Basenokwenza usukuzwano oluthile, ukongezelela ekunciphiseni ukuzithemba, ekubeni besenokubandezeleka xa bexelelwa oku. Ukuba bafaniswa nomntakwenu okanye nabani na ongomnye, loo nto ibenza bazive bengonelanga. Endaweni yoko, Zama ukungathelekisi umntwana wakho nabanye ukuze umeyisele ekubeni enze okuthile.
'Ndiza kukohlwaya'
Kuyinyani ukuba lelinye laloo mabinzana esinokuwathetha xa ezinye iindlela zingasebenzi kwisimilo esibi. Ngoko ke, xa sidinwe ngokwenene okanye sinomsindo, amazwi anjengala aya kuphuma emilonyeni yethu. Kodwa ukuba sicinga ngayo, ziya kuvelisa uloyiko olungakumbi. Okukhokelela ekubeni ekugqibeleni benze le nto siyifunayo kodwa ngenxa yokuba bayasoyika. Mhlawumbi asiyiyo le nto uyifunayo kubomi bosapho lwakho. Nangona ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba sithetha kwaye asihambisani, abantwana nabo bakholelwa ukuba akukho miphumo yokwenyani kodwa ukuba ukwesaba ukuvelisa kuyaqhubeka kuyiyona nto iphambili. Leya: Ukuba awuziphathi kakuhle, awuzukufumana sipho somhla wokuzalwa! Ubusoloko umnika into xa kufika imini. Olu hlobo lwe-blackmail aluyi kuba luncedo konke konke. Ke, zama ukubonelela ngezisombululo zokwenyani kwaye uziqhelanise ngomzekelo kuba sisipili sakho.
'Ngexesha ndandilingana nawe ndanditshaya/ndisela/ndisebenzisa iziyobisi'
Akusoloko kukuhle ukuxelela abantwana bakho ngamava athile, njengoko basenokucinga ukuba baya kuzikhulula kwimiphumo ukuba baye bazenzela bona ngokwabo. Ibinzana elithi "kodwa uthe x xa wawulingana nam" liya kuhlala libuya likukhathaze. Kunoko, zama ukuthetha nabantwana bakho ngemiphumo yokutshaya, yokusela utywala okanye yokusebenzisa iziyobisi. Ngoko khumbula ukuba kulungile ukubaxelela ngokufikisa kwakho okanye ukuba mdala, kodwa zama ukwenza iinkcukacha okanye iziganeko zahluke ngokupheleleyo kwezo zikhankanywe.
'Bubuxoki obumhlophe obuncinane'
Emva kokuba abantwana baqhelane negama elithi "ubuxoki obumhlophe," bacinga ukuba kulungile ukwenza yonke ixesha. Endaweni yoko, zama ukucacisa xa kulungile ukusebenzisa ubuxoki obumhlophe ukuba ube nembeko kwaye ungalimazi iimvakalelo zomntu, phambi kokuba imigca phakathi kobuxoki kunye nobuxoki obumhlophe bube luzizi kubo. Kufuneka sihlale sikwenza kucace kubo ukuba inyaniso iya kuyo yonke indawo kwaye ubuxoki bunemilenze emifutshane kakhulu. Ngoko ayisiyondlela yokungena kuyo. Nokuba bangcwele okanye akunjalo. Elinye lamabinzana anokucaciswa ngokucokisekileyo!
'Ndiyagula nguwe'
Liyinene elithi inkwenkwe okanye intombazana inokuba nesimilo esidinwayo kuba ingasihoyanga, umzekelo. Ngoko umsindo wethu unokunyuka kakhulu. Kodwa xa sifika kwibinzana elinje, impembelelo kubantwana abancinci endlwini inoburhalarhume. Kuba imizuzwana embalwa baziva bengento yanto, sibenza babandezeleke ngokwenene kwaye le yimpembelelo ebalulekileyo. Ngoko ke, kufuneka siwulawule umsindo size sithethe ngokucacileyo kuwo. Ungabaxelela ukuba udikiwe yile meko, kodwa hayi ngabo.
'Umbi, usisidenge, awunamsebenzi...'
Zonke ezi zithuko kufuneka zibe ngaphandle kwesigama sethu. Kuba ukuba ngokwenene sicinga ngayo, ngamagama okanye amabinzana aneentsingiselo ezimbi kakhulu ezitshabalalisa ukuzithemba kwayo nayiphi na inkwenkwe okanye intombazana. Baya kukholelwa ukuba banazo zonke ezo mpawu yaye kunokuba bazitshintshe, baya kuzicingela kuba uyise okanye unina ebaxelele njalo. Ngoko, Kufuneka sigxininise koko kufuneka bakutshintshe, sibaxelele into abayenzileyo engalunganga kwaye sibancede benze utshintsho ngeendlela ezininzi.. Ukuqala ngezinto ezintle, siya kuhlala sinesiphumo esingcono.
'Sukulila, ayinkulu kangako'
Kuthekani ukuba kungenxa yabo? Singoobani thina ukuba sithintele iimvakalelo zabo? Sele sisazi ukuba kukho abancinci abaneemvakalelo ngakumbi kunabanye kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba akukho nto imbi, ngokuchaseneyo. Kufuneka sibavumele babonise iingcinga zabo kwaye xa befuna, sibazise ukuba siya kuba lapho ngenkxaso yethu epheleleyo. Kungale ndlela kuphela esiya kuqinisekisa ukuba abazifihli iimvakalelo zabo, kuba baya kusetyenziselwa ukubakhulula kwaye kungabikho mntu uya kubagxeka ngenxa yoko.
'Funda okanye awuzukwenza nto ebomini'
Ingxaki ngamabakala ibisoloko ivelisa iingxoxo ezininzi ekhaya nabazali. Ngoko ke, xa ukusilela kwafika kumabanga, amabinzana afana neli likhankanyiweyo ayexhaphakile. owaphinda-phinda umvandedwa: ngenxa yamazwi namanqaku. Inkwenkwe okanye intombazana iya kuziva iphantsi yaye ayixabisekanga ngokwenene. Ke ngoko, kufuneka sibethelele ukufunda, sibancede baphumelele kwaye sijonge ezinye iindlela ezizezinye. Mangaphi kula mabinzana okhe wathetha kanye nokuba kukanye?