Malunga neenyanga ezingama-24, abazali baqaphela utshintsho kubantwana babo. Yi Inqanaba lotshintsho olufana kakhulu nokufikisa, Apho bafumanisa khona ukuba hayi kunye namandla omsindo. Bayeke ukuba ngabantwana ukuba ngabantwana, kodwa abayazi nokuba benze njani. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba bonke abantwana bagqithe kunye nendlela yokuseta umda kubantwana abaneminyaka emi-2.
iminyaka eyi-2
Iminyaka emi-2 yinqanaba ekubhekiswa kulo ziingcali ezininzi zengqondo njenge "Ukufundwa kwexesha". Baza kuzama ukukutyhalela kumda wokujonga ukuba bangafikelela kude kangakanani, baya kuphosa ingqumbo abangazange bayenze ngaphambili kwaye baya kunyusa amanyundululu ukuze bafumane le nto bayifunayo.
Njengabazali owethu umsebenzi bancede kule nkqubo yotshintsho, ukubakhapha nokubeka imida ecacileyo. Makhe sibone ukuba yintoni ukusetyenziswa kokubeka imida ebantwaneni.
Imida emiselweyo
Imida yile eziyimfuneko ekukhuleni ngokweemvakalelo ngokuchanekileyo kwabantwana. Kuya kufuneka bafunde ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ayisiyiyo yonke into enjengokuba sifuna kwaye kufuneka uvumelane neemeko. Ukuba simnika yonke into okanye simvumela ukuba enze into ayifunayo, uya kukhathazeka xa engena ebomini kwaye abone ukuba ubomi abukho njengoko wayekholelwa. Ngaba uya kubenza ukomelela ngakumbi, uzithembe, ubhetyebhetye, ukhule kwaye uhloniphekile. Baya kuphuhlisa ukuzithemba okufanelekileyo kwaye baya kuyazi into enokuthi yenziwe kwaye ingenakwenziwa. Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka ubeke imida.
Ukuseta imida, kufuneka balungelelaniswe nobudala, ubuntu kunye nokukhula komntwana, kuba ayingabo bonke abantwana abafanayo. Ukusuka kwiinyanga ezili-18, abantwana sele bekwazi ukufunda imigaqo esisiseko.
Ungabanciphisa njani abaneminyaka emi-2 ubudala?
- Mnike imisebenzi anokuyenza. Ukutya nokunxiba wedwa umzekelo kuya kubenza bazive indala kwaye izimele ngakumbi. Iya kubanika ukhuseleko besazi ukuba banokwenza izinto ngokwabo.
- Imida kufuneka icace kwaye imfutshane. Yiphephe imithetho engaqondakaliyo efana "nokuziphatha", kufuneka icace kwaye icace imigaqo.
- Ngamana ulwimi lwakho lomzimba lungahamba kunye no. Awunakumxelela ukuba akakwazi ukwenza into kwaye uyahleka, kuba ayizukubanesiphumo. Kufuneka uqine kulo lonke ulwimi lwakho, ngokuthetha nangokuthetha.
- Ukohlwaya ayisiyonto ilungileyo. Yenye into ukufundisa ngokufanelekileyo kwaye enye ukufundisa ngezohlwayo. Ungalibona inqaku lethu «Ukohlwaya okanye ufundise ngokufanelekileyo? Apho sichaza yonke into ngokweenkcukacha.
- Musa ukunika. Bobabini abazali kufuneka beqinile kwimida kwanaxa befaka umsindo esidlangalaleni. Kuya kufuneka ugcine imigangatho yakho yokuqinisekisa ukuba iyafezekiswa. Ungalifunda inqaku "Ungawuphatha njani ngentlonelo umsindo" ngolwazi oluthe kratya.
- Guqula amabinzana amabi kwizinto ezintle. Endaweni yokusoloko umxelela ngento angenakukwazi ukuyenza, mxelele ukuba angenza ntoni. Endaweni yokuthi "sukushiya igumbi lonke lingcolile" yithi "beka iithoyi zakho."
- Imida kunye nemithetho kufuneka ihlale iseluthandweni. Musa ukumngxolisa, okanye umoyikise, okanye ukhe ubethe, okanye baya kufunda ukuba ubundlongondlongo bunokwenza izinto.
- Kufuneka wenze isivumelwano phakathi kwabazali. Ukufezekisa oku, bobabini abazali kufuneka bavumelane nemigaqo kwaye baxelele usapho ukuba ziyintoni na ukuze zilandelwe.
- Beka iinkqubo. Iishedyuli ikwayimigaqo ekufuneka ihlonitshwe. Iibhafu, ukutya, ixesha lokulala kubalulekile ukugcina.
- Sukuzama ukuqiqa. Bancinci kakhulu ukuba bangaqonda ukuqiqa kwakho, kunye nemithetho ecacileyo necacileyo akufuneki unike inkcazo ethe kratya.
- Lindela izinto kwangaphambili. Umzekelo, mxelele ukuba athathe izinto zakhe zokudlala kuba ethubeni uza kuhlamba. Ngale ndlela awuyi kubanjwa uluhlaza.
Iminyaka emibini yiminyaka yokufumanisa. Umntwana wakho ufumanisa umhlaba kwaye akasazi ukuba makenze ntoni kwaye angayenzi ntoni. Iya kuba njengabazali ekufuneka benikhokele
Kuba khumbula… abantwana bafuna umda ukuze bazive bekhuselekile.