Ngaba umntwana wakho ulahla izinto? Zolile nokuba ikwenza uphambane, sisimo sengqondo esiqhelekileyo. Iintsana ziyayithanda ingxolo eyenziwayo ngokuchasene nomgangatho, kokukhona kungcono. Nokuba sisilwanyana esigxunyekweyo okanye somqolo oqinileyo, usana lwakho olumnandi luyoluchola ngezandla zalo ezintle alulahle phantsi. Kuyo, ivelisa ukonwaba okubonisa ukuhleka nokuhleka, kodwa emva kwamaxesha amaninzi, iphela iyadinisa.
Mhlawumbi uyazibuza ukuba ingaba oku kuziphatha kungenxa yokuba umntwana wakho ethe nca okanye mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba kungenxa yokuba uyamonakalisa ngokuyinxalenye. Nangona kunjalo, inyani kukuba kukuziphatha okuqhelekileyo, okuyinxalenye yophuhliso lwayo kwaye ngokungathi akwanelanga, kufanelekile ukuphucula izakhono zakho zemoto.
Xa umntwana wakho ephosa izinto kude, uninzi lweemvakalelo luyakhuthazeka kuye, uyafumanisa into anokuyenza kwaye kumnandi kakhulu, kangangokuba kuyenza umdlalo. Ukuba oko kuziphatha kukwafumana impendulo evela kuwe, ihlala ihlekisa ekuqaleni, umntwana ukhuthazeka nangakumbi, uyonwaba kwaye uza kuyiphinda ude ufumane enye indlela yokujonga ubuchule bakho.
Umntwana wam ulahla izinto, ngaba kufuneka ndilungise le ndlela yokuziphatha?
Ukukhula komntwana kwiinyanga zokuqala kukufunyanwa okungapheliyo ngamaxesha onke. Xa ekwazi ukuhlala phantsi, ufumanisa imibala engapheliyo, unuka kunye nemilo emngqongileyo. Ukwafumanisa ukuba ungasusa izandla zakho uzisuse emzimbeni wakho. Uqala ukubamba izinto ngokungqongqo kwaye ngexesha elithile, ingqondo yakho ikuxelela ukuba uphonononge into onokuyenza ngezo zinto zintsha. buchule.
Kungalo mzuzu xa usana luqala ukulahla izinto kwaye lufumanise ukuba ngomzimba walo luyakwazi ukwenza ingxolo, ingxwabangxwaba kunye nokuphendula kude kube lelo xesha lalingazi. Nangona kunokuba kukudinisa, kufuneka uqokelele yonke into kaninzi, ukongeza kwingxolo yezinto ezinesandi okanye ukucoca ukutya okonwabisayo ukulahla, emntwaneni yinto ukuphucula izakhono zakho, ezinjengolungelelwaniso lwamehlo.
Indlela yokusabela kule meko sesinye sezifundo zokuqala eziza kufunyanwa ngumntwana wakho. Nokuba incinci kakhulu kwaye ucinga ukuba ayizukukuqonda, kufanelekile ukuba uchaze, ngendlela elula, ezolileyo kunye neyoxolo, ukuba ukutya akuphoswanga kude, ukuba akwenziwa. Awuyi kufumana impendulo ngokukhawuleza, ngokucacileyo kodwa umntwana wakho uya kuqala ukufumanisa aze asebenze nge-NO.
Lihlala ixesha elingakanani eli nqanaba?
Eli nqanaba lokukhula komntwana wakho, apho esenza khona amanyathelo amakhulu anokumnceda ukuba ahambe, aphakame, kwaye ade athethe xa kufika ixesha, inokuhlala ukuya kunyaka wokuqala ubudala. Kwezinye iintsana inqanaba lokuphosa lihlala ithuba elide. Kodwa into yesiqhelo yeyokuba unyaka wonke uqala ukufumanisa ezinye iindlela zokuvavanya umzimba wakhe, ezinye iindlela zokudlala nokuzonwabisa.
Okwangoku, unokuqala ukufundisa umntwana wakho umahluko phakathi kokulungileyo nokungalunganga. Mbonise into anokuyiphosa, enje ngento yokudlala ethambileyo, ibhola oza kudlala ngayo, okanye iibhegi zokutya onokuzilungiselela ukuba nazo zivuselele iimvakalelo zakhe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ke, umntwana ufunda ukuba kukho izinto angakwaziyo ukudlala ngazo, njengokutya okanye izinto eziyingozi.
Kwelinye icala, nabanye ungonwaba kwaye uphonononge kangangoko ufuna. Ngale ndlela ukhuthaza ukukhula kwabo, uqala ukudala emntwaneni wakho imikhwa esisiseko njengokuthobela kwaye uya kuba ukhuthaza iziseko zemfundo elungileyo. Ngaphandle kwesohlwayo, ngaphandle komsindo umntwana angayi kuqonda, ngothando, ukuqonda kunye nomonde. Ngaphandle kokulibala oko Inqanaba ngalinye lokukhula kwabantwana alilibaleki kwaye alinakuphindwa.