Uthando yenye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo esinokuthi sizishiyele abantwana bethu. Ukuziva uluthando kunye nokuyibonisa ngokuba nothando yinto eya kuthi ichaze indlela abanokuthi ngayo babalise ngothando. Indlela yethu yokubonisa uthando iya kumisela indlela abafunda ngayo ukubonisa nayo. Masibone njani ukukhuthaza ixabiso lothando ebantwaneni.
Nyusa amaxabiso
Sele sibonile ngamanye amaxesha amanye amaxabiso abaluleke kakhulu ukukhuthaza abantwana ekhaya. Njenge ixabiso lokubulela, ixabiso lokuxolela, ixabiso lobuhlobo y onoxanduva phakathi kwabanye.
Esikolweni bafunda ulwazi, kodwa ekhaya kulapho kufundiswa khona amaxabiso kunye nezixhobo zobomi. Ukonwaba kwikamva labantwana bakho kunye nempilo yabo yengqondo kuya kuxhomekeka koku, ke ngoko kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sazi ukuba yeyiphi imilinganiselo esifuna ukuyidlulisela kubantwana bethu.
Uthando ekhaya
Abantwana bafuna ukubonakaliswa kothando ukuze bazive bethandwa. Akwanelanga ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho ezisisiseko. Bafuna ukwangiwa ixesha elide, ukuthetha nabazali babo, imidlalo, ukuhleka, iimovie, ukuvuma izono kunye neemfihlo. Amaxesha omanyano abenza bazive bebumbene, beyinxalenye yosapho, bethandwa, bekhuselekile kwaye bexabisekile. Indlela esibathanda ngayo abantwana bethu kunye nendlela esibabonisa ngayo iya kuchaphazela ukuzithemba kwabo kunye nolwalamano lwexesha elizayo.. Kungenxa yoko le nto eli xabiso libaluleke kangaka.
Ekhaya Akufuneki kunqongophele ukwanga, ukwangana kwaye ndiyakuthanda. Ukuba akukho nzima okanye kunzima ukubonisa uthando, ukuba ibonwe njengento yendalo, elungileyo kwaye enomvuzo. Masingabanjwa emilonyeni yethu amazwi othando ngenxa yeentloni.
Amanxeba asemoyeni wokuziva ungathandwa (oko akuthethi ukuba abasithandanga, kodwa ukuba sivile ngaloo ndlela) kudala iimfuno kwaye kusilela ukuba abantu abadala bazame ukugcwalisa ezinye izinto ezingalunganga. Umntwana owonwabileyo nothandekayo uya kukhula ngaphandle kweziphene.
Ungaliphakamisa njani ixabiso lothando ebantwaneni
- Faka isicelo ngomzekelo. Vavanya indlela yakho yokubonisa uthando, indlela onxibelelana ngayo neqabane lakho kunye nomntwana wakho. Uthando lubona njani ngawe. Abantwana bakho bafuna ukuziva uthando lwakho olungenamiqathango nangona sele uyazi. Uthando luziva ngeemvakalelo ezi-5.
- Awusoze uxoxe ngothando. Ngamanye amaxesha abazali bafuna ukuba abantwana baziphathe ngendlela esifuna ukubaxelela ngayo "Njengokuba ungaziphathi kakuhle, andikuthandi. Yile ndlela siwuthumela ngayo umyalezo wokuba ngokuxhomekeka kwindlela aziphethe ngayo okanye ukuba unjani, siyakumthanda okanye hayi. Asikuthumeli umyalezo wothando olungenamiqathango kodwa lwe uthando olunemiqathango. Kuya kufuneka ubafundise ukuba izenzo zinemiphumo kodwa azisoze zithande uthando lwakho.
- Sebenzisa amagama akho ngononophelo. Kuphephe ukugweba nokuthetha kakubi ngabanye. Kuchasene nokufundisa ngothando, kuba uthando akufuneki luhlale ngaphakathi kweendonga zekhaya. Uthando malubonakaliswe nakwabanye ngokungagwebi, ngokwenza izigwebo zexabiso okanye ngokuthetha kakubi. Yiba ngoqondayo, onovelwano, onobuhlobo nonyamezelayo.
- Yabelana ngexesha elifanelekileyo kunye nabantwana bakho. Kula maxesha apho sihlala singxamile kwaye ngaphandle kwexesha, kufuneka senze ixesha elisemgangathweni labantwana bethu. Abafuni ezinye iithoyi nezinto bafuna nje ukuchitha ixesha nabazali babo. Elo xesha alizukubuya kwaye alinakufunyanwa.
- Nika izipho zemvakalelo. Awunyanzelekanga ukuba uchithe imali ukwenza i isipho esigcwele uthando Njengeleta, ifoto, umzobo ... izinto ezondla iqhina lothando kusapho.
- Banga abantwana bakho. Ayinamsebenzi ukuba ukhulele kusapho apho ukudibana komzimba bekungekho. Ungaqala isiqalo esitsha kusapho lwakho nge ukubonakalisa uthando kunye nokuthetha. Inokubiza imali ekuqaleni kodwa into oza kuyiphumelela iya kuba nkulu.
- Ikhulisa ukuzithemba kwabo. Njengoko sibonile ngaphambili, uthando esilubonisa abantwana bethu luya kuba nefuthe ekuzithembeni kwabo. Ukukhuthaza ukuzithemba okuhle kufuneka uzive ukhuselekile kwaye uthandwa, kwaye uyakwazi ukwahlulahlula nokubonisa iimvakalelo zakhe ngokuchanekileyo.
Kuba khumbula… ixabiso alifundwa esikolweni kodwa ekhaya.