Ukuba awutshatanga okanye awutshatanga, kungenzeka ukuba ngelinye ixesha ebomini bakho kufuneka uhlale nabantwana babanye abantu, oko kukuthi, abantwana babanye abantu. Nokuba yinzala yeqabane lakho elitsha, umntu omtsha ohlala naye okanye lowo uhlala naye, okanye abantwana besizalwane, inyaniso kukuba kunzima ukuphila ngaphandle kokudibana nabantwana babanye abantu.
Amathandabuzo amaninzi kunye nemibuzo ivela xa uzifumana ngokukhawuleza kule meko. Ngaba uyayazi imithetho kunye nemida? Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ukwabelana ngekhaya kukunika uxanduva malunga nabantwana bomnye umntu. Kodwa uhlangabezana njani nale meko ngaphandle kokuzilayisha kakhulu? Okanye, okubi ngakumbi, ngaphandle kokugqithisa imida yoqeqesho, intanda-bulumko yobomi abazali abafuna ukuyibethelela kubo okanye kwimfundo yabo?
Imida kunye nobudlelwane obuhle bokuhlala nabantwana babanye abantu
Njengabantu, sonke sifuna ukuba abantwana baphile. Nabani na ufuna azive ekhuselekile yaye ekhathalelwe, kungakhathaliseki ubudala okanye ubuhlobo esinabo nabo. Xa kufikwa kubantwana babanye abantu. kufuneka sicace gca malunga nendlela esizimisele ngayo ukunxulumana nabo bobabini kunye nabazali babo. Ukuze ubudlelwane bube nempilo, kufuneka sithethe kwaye sikrwele imigca eya kuphawula imida.
Mhlawumbi eyona nto ibalulekileyo omele uyikhumbule kule meko kukuba abangobantwana bakho. Eyona meko imbi kakhulu ukuba ngabantwana beqabane lakho elitsha, kuba ubudlelwane bakho nabo buya kugqiba ikamva lemeko yakho yeemvakalelo. Ngamanye amazwi, ukuba awuvani nabantwana beqabane lakho, ubudlelwane benu buya kuba nzima ngakumbi yonke imihla kwaye mhlawumbi buya kufikelela esiphelweni. Ngokuchasene noko, ukuba ubudlelwane buhamba kakuhle kwaye ube ngumzekelo omhle wobudoda okanye owesifazana kubo, ngoko ubudlelwane kunye neqabane lakho luya kuhamba ngamandla.
Imibono kunye neengcebiso zokuhlala nabantwana babanye abantu ngoxolo
Enye yeenyaniso ezinkulu malunga nabantwana kukuba ukuziphatha kwabo jikelele. Ngokubanzi, sonke siqhagamshelwe ngandlela ithile, ngoko ke iindlela ezifanayo zihlala zisebenza nabantu abahlukeneyo. Ngokomzekelo, andikadibani nomntwana ongaphantsi kweminyaka eli-13 ubudala ongothuswanga lilizwi lomntu omdala elibukhali. Kwaye andizange ndibone nawuphi na umntwana oselula okwaziyo ukuxhathisa uncumo olunomdla kwizinto ezibenyezelayo okanye ezikhenkcezayo.
Kubantwana, ungumntu omdala, umdala, kwaye unokukhuseleka okanye usisongelo kubo. Ngesi sizathu, kufuneka ulumkele unxibelelwano lwabo nawe ukwenza indawo yokuthembana nabantwana ekufuneka wabelane naye ngobomi bakho. Ukwenza oku, siza kubona izikhokelo zokukunceda unxulumane nabantwana bomntu owabelana naye ngobomi bakho, nokuba sisibini, ilungu losapho, okanye umntu ohlala naye nje.
Lumkela uxanduva lwakho lokuhlala nabantwana babanye abantu
Ayiyonxalenye yomsebenzi wakho fundisa, ukulungisa okanye ucoce abantwana, ngoko kulumkele ukwamkela iimbopheleleko ezingaphezu kwesabelo sakho. Kucacile ukuba ngokuhlalisana kufuneka nivane kwaye imisebenzi kufuneka yabiwe ukuze okusingqongileyo kulingane. Nangona kunjalo, imfundo yabantwana iwela kubazali babo, ngoko ke ukuba awukhululekanga ngayo nayiphi na imisebenzi yakho yokuhlalisana, phawula kuyo ukuze ufikelele kwisivumelwano.
Kukwayinyani ukuba nokuba ayingomsebenzi wakho, unokufuna ukusebenzisana, ukuxhasa kunye nokunceda abancinci. Ewe, yinto eqhelekileyo kwaye akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngayo, kodwa qinisekisa ukuba abazali bayakwazi ukuzibophelela kwakho ebantwaneni ukuze kungenzeki ukungaqondani kunye nemvakalelo yokubamba indima.
Yilumkele imida yakho
Abantwana banobuchule bokugqithela ngaphaya kwemida, ngoko ke kufuneka ucacelwe ngeyakho ukuze bangakutyhaleli ukuba uyinqumle. Ukuba nangona uyazi ukuba uyanikezela kwaye ugqithise imida, sebenza njengomntu omdala othembekileyo kwaye wazise abazali bakho kwaye uthathe amanyathelo obona kufanelekile.
Khumbula ukuba kuyo nayiphi na imeko abantwana ababandakanyekileyo kuyo, mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba begqithile kwimiqathango okanye kuba ufuna ukubanceda okanye ukohlwaya ngandlel’ ithile, ufanele usoloko ubazisa abazali babo. Qiniseka ukuba uhlala ucacisa nomzali ukuba ungayandisa kangakanani impembelelo yakho kubo..
Ziphephe iingxabano kwaye ungangeneleli kuzo
Ubudlelwane bosapho buhlala buhamba ngamaxesha anzima, ngakumbi kubantwana abancinci kunye / okanye abafikisayo. Kulula kakhulu ukungqina ukuziphatha ongakuvumeliyo, kwaye oko kulungile. Zibuze ukuba lo kuziphatha kunzulu ngokwenene kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuba kungenzeki kwakhona, okanye ukuba ngokuchaseneyo kukhetho lobuqu. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba wenza nakuphi na ukugxeka ngayo, nceda ube nobubele kangangoko. Kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba abantwana baziingcali ekucinezeleni abazali babo ukuba bafikelele kumda, ngoko zama ukuvelana neemeko ezingathandekiyo..
Njengokuba besesitshilo ngaphambili, abantwana yingxaki yabazali babo, ngoko nakuphi na ukungquzulana, nikela ubungqina kuphela xa kunokwenzeka. Hlala ukhumbula ukuba awungosompempe, singasathethi ke ngokuba ngumgwebi wendlu, ngoko ke maziphele iingxaki zosapho entsatsheni, ekubeni kwanokuba ulilungu elitsha, ukungquzulana nabantwana akuyombopheleleko yakho.