Ukuba ngumama onesiphene kukudibanisa nomsebenzi osele unzima wokuba ngumama, kodwa akuhambelani. Ukukhubazeka akuthethi ukuba ukhubazeke kwaye oomama abaninzi abanobunzima babonisa yonke imihla ukuba ukukwazi ukuba ngumama akuhambelani neyantlukwano yokusebenza. Nangona kunjalo, zininzi iindlela zocalucalulo ekufuneka uninzi lwabasetyhini lujongane nazo.
Zininzi iindidi zokukhubazeka okanye into efanayo kwaye yindlela ekufanele ukuba ichaze ngayo, iyantlukwano esebenzayo. Ngamanye amaxesha, iyantlukwano ichaphazela iindawo ezahlukeneyo ezithi, ngenxa yezizathu zomzimba nezengqondo, azihambelani nokukhulisa umntwana. Nangona kunjalo, naluphi na uhlobo lokukhubazeka alungomqobo ekubeni ngumama.
Ubunzima bokuba ngumama onesiphene
Ukuba ngumama akusoloko kungumbhede weeroses abantwana abakholeleki. Bayakhala ngaphandle kwesizathu, banomsindo kunye nokuziphatha okungaqondakaliyo okudinisa nesona sigulana. Konke oku, kongezwe kukungabikho kophumla kunye nokongezwa kwayo yonke eminye imisebenzi ekufuneka kujongwene nayo, iguqulela kwiminyaka yedini lokwenyani. Usoloko uvuzwa ngothando nolonwabo lokubukela abantwana bakho bekhula, beba ngabantu abakhulu abanemilinganiselo yokuziphatha.
Kodwa koomama abaphethwe luhlobo oluthile lokwahlukahlukana kokusebenza, ubunzima bunokuphindaphindeka ngokucacileyo. Kwaye hayi kuphela ngenxa yobunzima bomama, kodwa nangenxa ye ucalucalulo abahlupheka luluntu. Into engaqondakaliyo kubo bonke abo bahlala kunye neyantlukwano esebenzayo yonke imihla, kuba ukwahluka akukwenzi ukuba ungakwazi ukwenza uninzi lwezinto ezinokwenziwa ngabanye abantu.
Ezinye zeengxaki ezongeziweyo Oomama abakhubazekileyo kufuneka baphile zezi:
- Ukufumana umsebenziNgelishwa, kungoku nje kukho ucalucalulo olukhulu kubantu basetyhini emsebenzini. Into leyo iphindwe kabini kwimeko yabasetyhini abakhubazekileyo. Iingxaki zabasebenzi kunye nezoqoqosho zibangela ubunzima obukhulu koomama abakhubazekileyo.
- Uxinzelelo lweengqondo: Bonke abafazi boyika i-pfundisa ukuba umntwana wakho unokuba nengxakiInto ethi kwimeko yabasetyhini abakhubazekileyo ithathe umngcipheko omkhulu. Nangona oku kungachanekanga ngokupheleleyo, kuba abantwana abaninzi baneengxaki zokugula, ukungalunganga, isifo sentliziyo kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zobunzima ngexesha loqeqesho lwabo, ngaphandle kokubakho kwezinto ezibonakalayo zofuzo.
- Uxinzelelo kwezentlalo: Ihlabathi alikakulungeli ukubona abasetyhini abakhubazekileyo bengoomama. Yinto engaqondakaliyo kuninzi, kodwa kusekho abantu abacinga ukuba ukuba nesiphene kuphelisa amandla okwenza ezinye izinto, njengokuba ngumama. Inyani yile uninzi lwabasetyhini kunye namadoda akhubazekileyo okanye iyantlukwano esebenzayo, bayakwazi ukwenza usapho ngempumelelo.
Umanyano ngamandla
Nawuphi na umama ufuna uncedo, nangona kungasoloko kulula ukuluqonda kuba silwela ukuba ngabasetyhini abagqwesileyo, oomama abagqwesileyo kunye neengcali eziphezulu. Kodwa inyani kukuba ukuba ibingekho Uxinzelelo oluninzi loluntu kunye noko kufanele ukuba ngumama olungileyo, uninzi lwabasetyhini luya kuba nengxaki encinci ekunikezeleni abanye abantu.
Ukuba sisizwe kubalulekile kubo bonke abantu basetyhini, kubo bonke oomama kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke, koomama abakhubazekileyo. Ukuba nenkxaso yabanye abantu abelana noloyiko lwakho, inkxalabo kunye neengxaki zakho Eyona ndlela yokufunda ukumelana nobunzima Kwaye qhubeka. Ukufumana inkxaso yabantu abenza esona sangqa sisondeleleneyo, isibini, usapho, abahlobo abasenyongweni, kubalulekile ukuba umfazi athembele kubuchule bakhe bokuba ngumama.
Kuba ekugqibeleni, Ukuba ngumama yinto enkulu kakhulu kangangokuba akunakwenzeka ukuyichaza ngamazwi. Luthando, ithuku, ngamandla okwenza ukuba wophule nawuphi na umqobo kwaye unike konke okusemandleni akho kuyo nayiphi na imeko. Ukuba ngumama kukukhusela, ngumzabalazo, amaxabiso, ukomelela, isibindi kunye nomzabalazo omninzi. Kwaye akukho nanye kula manqanaba enziwa ukuba angabinako ukubandezeleka ngenxa yeentlobo ezithile zokukhubazeka. Masiphule iingcinga ngoku kwaye sifunde ukuhlala ngokwahluka okusebenzayo.