Ukuba ngumama ongatshatanga akukho lula, kwaye ukungabi ngumama kubudlelwane. Abantwana ukuya kwinqanaba elincinci okanye elincinci bafunaBafuna ukunakekelwa rhoqo kunye nokunyanyekelwa okunokuba nzima ngamanye amaxesha. Kungenxa yokuba ngokubanzi, ingqalelo efunwa ngabantwana bayinikwa ngaphandle kokuqwalaselwa, kodwa ukongeza ukuba oku kuthetha ukubeka ecaleni iimfuno zabo.
Ubunzima bomama ongatshatanga bukhulu kakhulu, kuba akanankxaso yomnye umzali. Kwaye olo ncedo luyimfuneko, Nangona zonke iinzame emhlabeni zenziwe kwaye abafazi baba zii-super moms, ukufumana uncedo kunye nenkxaso yomnye umntu kubaluleke kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, akuyomfuneko ukuba olu ncedo luvele kuphela kwiqabane, ungaludlulisela kusapho nakwizihlobo eziya kuthi ngokuqinisekileyo ziququzelele umsebenzi.
Ukuba ngumama ongatshatanga, ubunzima obongeziweyo
Uninzi lwabasetyhini, Ukudlulisela ukukhathalela abantwana kwabanye abantu yinto enzima kakhulu. Mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba kusekho uvakalelo lokuba abasetyhini banokwazi ukuba ngumama kunye nokhathalelo lomntwana, intsalela yexesha elidala, elidala nelingasebenziyo. Ukucela uncedo kubalulekile, kuba ubomi abubandakanyi kuphela ekukhuliseni abantwana kwaye ngekhe ulinikele lonke ixesha lakho kulo msebenzi.
Ke sukuziva unetyala xa ucela usapho lwakho, abahlobo, okanye abantu abathembekileyo uncedo amaxesha ngamaxesha. Nokuba ufuna olo ncedo ukuze ukwazi ukwenza into eyimfihlo, kuba ikwayinto eyabelwana ngoomama abaninzi. Bavame ukucinga ukuba banokushiya abantwana ekunyamekeleni abanye abantu xa kunyanzeliswa amandla.
Nangona kunjalo, unoncedo lwabanye abantu lokuya kwindawo yokwenza iinwele, kwindawo yokwenza umthambo okanye uhambe wedwa, kuyakukunceda ube ngumama ongcono kuba uya kuziva wonwabile kwaye wonwabe kunye nawe. Namhlanje lusuku lweeNgcaciso lwaMazwe ngaMazwe, kwaye, kumsitho wokubhiyoza, sifuna ukwabelana nawe ngezi ngcebiso ukonwabela ukuba ngumama yedwa sonwabe ngakumbi kwaye sonwabile.
Cela kwaye wamkele uncedo olunikezwa ngabanye
Sele singenile ngaphezulu, sinoncedo oluyimfuneko, sisixhobo kwaye ukuba unethuba, musa ukuyeka ukubala. Abantu abazinikela ukukunceda nabantwana bakho, benjenjalo ngeenjongo ezilungileyo, ukuba akunjalo, eyona nto iqhelekileyo kukuba khange benze njalo. Ukuba ngabantu obathembayo, funda ukuziqhelanisa nokuzimela ngokweemvakalelo kwaye vumela abantwana bakho bafunde ukunxibelelana nokubathemba abanye abantu.
Phila ubomi bakho
Ungumama ewe, awutshatanga (okanye akunjalo), kodwa loo nto ayikwenzi ukuba ube ngumntu ongenabantu kwaye ngaphandle kweemfuno. Sebenzela ukufumana olona hlobo lubalaseleyo, ngaphandle koxinzelelo, kodwa ngaphandle kokuzishiya ngokwakho kwingcinga yokuba ngoku ungumama kwaye abanye banokulinda. Ukuba ngumama kubutshintsha ubomi bakho, yinkqubo ende kwaye inkulu okanye incinci inzima, kodwa akufuneki uyivumele ikufunxe, ukuba awufundi ukuziqhelanisa nayo.
Zikhathalele
Oomama bakholisa ukunikela lonke unonophelo lwabo kunye nokubakhusela ebantwaneni babo, bahlala belibala ukuzikhathalela. Ukuba awuzikhathaleli, ukuba awuphilanga (ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo), ngekhe ukwazi ukunika abantwana bakho okona kulungileyo kuwe, kuba uya kuhlala ungama-50 epesenti yamathuba akho. Beka phambili kwaye ucwangcise, ngale ndlela ungayifumana loo mizuzu uyifunayo ukulungisa iinzipho zakho, ukuya ezivenkileni okanye ukwenza ikofu kunye nomnye umntu.
Kuba ewe mhlobo, unelungelo lokudibana nabanye abantu kwaye ube nobudlelwane. Ngethuba nje uyenza ngendlela enoxanduva, ngaphandle kokubandakanya abantwana bakho kubudlelwane obungazinzanga, ukuze bangasokola kwiinguqu ezininzi, unelungelo kunye noxanduva lokwanelisa iimfuno zakho. Nokuba abanye bacinga ntoni, ubomi bakho bobakho kwaye ukuba ngumama ongatshatanga akufuneki kukuthintele ekubonwabeleni.