Ukuba nabantakwenu yenye yezona zinto zibalaseleyo ezinokwenzeka kuwe ebomini, nangaphezulu, kunjalo Esona sipho sihle abazali bakho banokukunika sona. Abantakwenu bakufundisa ukuba wabelane, bakufundise ukuba buyintoni ubuhlobo kwaye bakhule bengqongwe ngabantu abalinganayo. Ukuba kuphela komntwana ayisiyonto yobomi, kodwa kuyakuthintela ukuba uphile ngamava awodwa, wabelane ngeemfihlo, imidlalo, ukuhleka kunye nenkampani yabanye abantwana oza kukhula nabo.
Ngaphezu koko kubantwana abanalo naluphi na uhlobo lokukhubazekaUkuba nomzalwana yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yophuhliso lwabo. Kubonakalisiwe ukuba ubudlelwane bosapho obenzelwe ebuntwaneni buyinto egqibeleleyo xa kufikwa ekubunjweni komlinganiswa. Abantakwenu banika ithuba lokuqala lokuseka ubudlelwane nomntu olinganayo kwaye oku kumntwana onalo naluphi na uhlobo lokukhubazeka kubalulekile.
Kutheni le nto kubalulekile ukuba nabantwana bakowenu kubantwana abakhubazekileyo?
Kuninzi ekuthethwa ngako ngokubaluleka kwabantwana abancinci abaya kumaziko emfundo yabantwana abasaqalayo ukuze bafunde ukunxulumana. Kodwa ubudlelwane bezentlalo bunokusekwa kwiindawo ezininzi ezahlukeneyo, ekuhlaleni okanye phakathi kwamalungu osapho olunye, kodwa Olunye ulwalamano lokuqala olumiselwa ngabantwana noontanga babo kunye nabantakwabo.
Umzalwana ukunika ukuthembela, ukufundisa izifundo ezixabisekileyo ezinjengokwabelana, ukuthetha-thethana, ukulwa kunye nokuxolelana, ukudlala, ukuba nomonde kunye funda ukulawula iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ezifana nomona okanye umona. Kwaye oku kubantwana abakhubazekileyo linyathelo elikhulu ekukhuleni kwabo.
Kwiimeko ezininzi kukho utyekelo lokubakhusela ngokugqithisileyo abantwana abakhubazekileyo, kwaye oku kuyaqondakala ngokupheleleyo. Nangona kunjalo, oku kunokwenzeka khuthaza umntwana ukuba akhule abe neentloni kunye nobunzima ngokunxulumene noontanga. Ukuba nabantakwabo kubalulekile ukuba umntwana anxibelelane ngendlela eqhelekileyo, nabanye abantwana abafuna okufanayo naye kunye nabaya kukhula naye ngaphandle kokuchaphazeleka kwabo.
Ithetha ukuthini into yokuba umntwana akhule nomntakwabo ekhubazekile?
Ngokwesiqhelo, okona kuthathelwa ingqalelo kuthathwa ngumntwana oneemfuno ezizodwa, kwaye oku, kunjalo, kunokuchaphazela umntakwenu ongenazo ezo mfuno. Akukho zifundo malunga noku, kodwa ezikhoyo zikhona ubungqina babantu abadala abaninzi abakhule kunye nabantakwabo abakhubazekileyo, kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi impendulo yile ilandelayo:
- Bancede ukuba babe abantu abanolwazelelelo kwaye Ukunyaniseka
- Bangabantu abaqolileyo, ekubeni kwakufuneka basebenze ngokuzimela kwabo ukususela ebuntwaneni
- Bawaxabisile amava abo njengento eyakhayo, kuba ukukhula kunye nomntakwenu onesiphene ubanikeze ukukhula kwabo buqu
Ngamafutshane, ubhuti liqabane lobomi, umntu odlala naye, uhleka, iimfihlo, ukuzithemba kunye nenkxaso ngamaxesha amabi.