Ukunciphisa abantwana kuyinyaniso kwaye Kwenzeka rhoqo kunesiqhelo. Abantwana badla ngokuphelelwa ngumdla wokwenza izinto, baziva betsalelekile kancinci ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo kwaye ukunqongophala komdla kuyafika. Ngokomgaqo, akufuneki ukuba ube nexhala, kuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba abantwana badikwe xa bekhulile, izinto abazithandayo ziyatshintsha baze baphelelwe ngumnqweno wokwenza izinto ezithile.
Kodwa akufuneki iphoswe ukuba itsala ngokuhamba kwexesha, kanye njengoko kufuneka ihlolwe ukuba oku kungabikho kwenkuthazo kubangelwa zezinye izizathu. Ekubeni rhoqo ukuba ukungabikho umdla uphawu olulumkisayo lwezinye iingxaki zeemvakalelo okanye ngokwasengqondweni kwaye, ewe, kufuneka iphathwe kwaye ilawulwe ngokukhawuleza. Nazi ezinye izicwangciso zokulawula ukuthotywa kwengqondo ebantwaneni.
Kutheni le nto i-demotivation ibonakala ebantwaneni?
Ukungaziva ngathi ukwenza into ngamanye amaxesha kuqhelekile, kodwa xa ukuthomalalisa ebantwaneni kusiqhelwa inokuba yingxaki. Bobabini kwinqanaba lezemfundo, kunye nakwinqanaba lomntu okanye lentsapho, ekubeni kancinci kancinci ulahlekelwa ngumnqweno okanye ukukhuthaza nantoni na. Isizathu sisenokufihlwa kwezinye iingxaki, ezinjengokungazithembi, ingxaki esikolweni, okanye ukonqena.
Ukuthotywa kukunqongophala komnqweno wokwenza imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla ekufuneka yenziwe ngumntu yonke imihla. Yinkqubo yengqondo, njengazo zonke ezilawula imeko yomntu. Okukhona usebenza, kokukhona uziva ukhuthazwa ngakumbi, kokukhona uba nomdla wokwenza izinto, kokukhona unqwenela ngakumbi ukuziphucula. Ngendlela efanayo, kancinci oyenzayo, kokukhona ukonqena ngakumbi kunye nokungabikho kohlaselo olukhuthazayo.
Indlela yokulawula ukungabikho kwenkuthazo kunyana wam
Ngokufuthi iba yingxaki enokusingathwa ekhaya, ngokutshintsha imikhwa ethile, ukusebenza ngokuthe ngqo nomntwana okanye ukumnceda afumane intshukumisa yokwenza izinto. Kodwa xa eyona nto ilula ingasebenzi, into elungileyo ukuyenza yiya kumntu oqeqeshiweyo ukuze akwazi ukusebenza nomntwana kwaye ngaloo ndlela ithintele ukuthomalalisa ukuphazamisana nekamva labo.
Ukubona ukungabikho kwenkuthazo ebantwaneni, ungazithathela ingqalelo ezi mpawu.
- Inkwenkwe ayifuni kwenza nto, nkqu nemisebenzi endandikade ndiyinandipha. Asiyonto yesikolo ngokuyimfuneko, kwaye akaziva efuna ukudlala ngayo ngaphambili.
- Akukho nto imvuyisayo, akatsaleleki kuwo nawuphi na umsebenzi.
- uyonqena, kunzima kuye ukuzalisekisa nawuphi na umsebenzi kwaye uya kubeka iwaka kunye nenye hits ngaphambi kokuba ayenze ngaphandle kwembopheleleko.
- Wenza imisebenzi njengoko kufuneka ngokukhawuleza kangangoko unako ukugqiba kungekudala. Oko kukuthi, akaziva enomdla wokwenza izinto kakuhle, okanye ulwaneliseko lokuziphucula ngokwenza into entle.
La ubuvila eyosulela kwaye engapheliyo xa ungasebenzi. Ukuba umntwana unokuyeka ukwenza izinto ngenxa yokuba akukho miphumo emibi, ngokukhawuleza uya kuqalisa ukubona oku kuguqulelwa kumabanga aphantsi, ukusebenza kakubi, ubunzima obunxulumene noontanga babo kunye nomnqweno omncinci wokuphucula kwikamva labo. Into eyingozi kakhulu xa ucinga ukuba yonke into abantwana abaqala ngayo ebuntwaneni ihamba kunye nabo kwikamva labo.
Nceda umntwana wakho akhuthazeke ngokutshintsha imikhwa ethile. Sebenzisa izixhobo ukuphucula isimo sabo sengqondo kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, ungavumeli ukunqongophala kwabo kwenkuthazo kubuze ikamva labo. Ngothando kunye nomonde unokumnceda umntwana wakho ukuba aguqule le meko, umfundise imisebenzi emitsha, mnike izixhobo ezimkhuthazayo ukuba enze izinto. Okukhona unokukhetha okuninzi, kokukhona uya kufumana into oyithandayo, musa ukukhawulela ukhetho lwakho.
Kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ungavumeli ixesha elininzi lidlule ukwenzela ukuba ingxaki yokunciphisa umntwana ingabi yinto engapheliyo kwaye kunzima ukuyilawula. Kwimpawu yokuqala iyasebenza kwaye ukuba awukwazi ukuyilawula, funa uncedo lobuchwephesha ukuze kulungelwe umntwana wakho omncinci.