Abantwana banentelekelelo ngokwendalo, banomdla, bayile kwaye, banesakhono somlingo sokwenza amabali ukuba kubo kunokuba yinyani. Olu phawu lunokuba luhle kakhulu, ngakumbi kubantwana abancinci ababonisa ubuchule obukhulu. Nangona kunjalo, umntwana okhulileyo, onesazela sokwahlula into eyinyani, akazenzi amabali, kodwa wenza ubuxoki.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina engqondweni ubudala bomntwana ekuthethwa ngaye, ubuntu bakhe, indlela yakhe yokunxibelelana nditsho nemikhwa yabo yokungcakaza. Abantwana abaqhele ukumamela amabali yonke imihla, ukudlala izinto zobugcisa ezinje ngethiyetha okanye ubugcisa obuhle, baba nexesha elilula lokwenza amabali. Kwaye xa bebancinci, bahlala bengamabali ayinyani kuba ngelo xesha umbono wobuxoki awuqondwa.
Nangona kunjalo, Malunga nobudala beminyaka emi-5 okanye emi-6, abantwana baqala ukwahlula ubunyani kwifantasy, ke bayayeka ukwabelana nabanye. Ngalo lonke ixesha kuthathelwa ingqalelo ukukhula kunye neemeko ezithile zomntwana ngamnye, ukuba umntwana wakho wenza amabali kwaye umalunga neminyaka esi-7 ubudala okanye ngaphezulu, uxoka. Oko kukuthi, xa esungula amabali ukuze asuse ityala, ukutyhola abanye ngento eyenzekileyo, ukulahla i-bulge njengoko besitsho ngokuhlangeneyo.
Yenza amabali okanye ubuxoki?
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwahlula ukuba umntwana udala amabali, Ukuyila iimeko ezinokuthi zenzeke kwifantasy yabo. Amabali anokuhambelana nento oyibonileyo kumabonwakude okanye eyenziwe yingqondo yakho ebalini. Imvakalelo yamabali amnandi ibethelelwe kwingqondo ukudala umhlaba apho kuya kuba kufanelekile ukuhlala, ngayo yonke into umntwana ayifunayo kwaye anqwenela ukuba nayo.
Nokuba umdala kangakanani, kukho abantwana abacingelayo abanesakhono sokwenza amabali icacise kakhulu. Abantwana abanezipho zobugcisa ezicacileyo, ngakumbi ezoncwadi. Inqaku onokufuna ukuphucula, ukufundisa umntwana wakho bhala elakho ibali. Nika ingqalelo kumabali owenziwa ngumntwana wakho, kuba unokufumana izinto ezininzi ngobuntu bakhe namava akhe.
Ngoku, kwahluke kakhulu ukuba umntwana wakho enze amabali ngenjongo yokufihla into embi, enokuba nesiphumo. Yiyo leyo Ubuxoki, kukujonga inketho onokuthi uphelise ngayo iziphumo ezinokubakho Ngezenzo zabo. Mhlawumbi le ayenzileyo ayisiyongozi kangako, mhlawumbi nelo bali aliqambileyo liya kukuhlekisa. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba umntwana aqonde ukuba oku akulunganga, kwaye akafumani mpendulo ilungileyo evela kuwe.
Ngaba ndimele ndikhathazeke?
Ngokomgaqo akukho nto inokukhathazeka ngayo, kuba ukuba umntwana wakho wenza amabali usebenzisa ukucinga kwakhe ukuphinda enze imeko yakhe. Oko kukuthi, eyakhe ingcinga yenza ibali ngokuhambelana nenyani ahlala kuyo, kwihlabathi lakhe kwaye intelekelelo sisixhobo esahlukileyo nesomlingo ukusuka ebuntwaneni. Xa umntwana wakho esenza amabali Ulawula umhlaba wakhe.
Unesakhono sokwenza oonobumba abafunayo, ukupeyinta izinto ezimngqongileyo ngombala wakhe awuthandayo kunye nento ebaluleke kakhulu, uziva ukuba uyakwazi ukulawula yonke into. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uhoye amabali umntwana wakho awenzayo, kuba mhlawumbi usebenzisa zona ukuveza iimvakalelo okanye amava amabi. Abantwana abayazi indlela yokuchaza iimvakalelo zabo kwaye bahlala bejonga indlela yokubeka amagama kwinto abavakalelwa ngayo.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba kukho iimvakalelo ezifihliweyo kumabali omntwana wakho, kuya kufuneka usebenze kwizixhobo ezithile anokuzityhila ngazo zonke izinto azifihlayo. Ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo imisebenzi yoyilo onokumnceda ngayo umntwana wakho baveza iimvakalelo zabo ezahlukeneyo. Ngale ndlela, uya kufunda nokuziqonda, ukuzichaza kunye nento esisiseko, ukuzisombulula.
Iingcali zithi ukwenza amabali kunezibonelelo ezininzi ekukhuleni kwabantwana. Phakathi kwabanye, uthanda ubuchule bokuyila, ukhulisa ubukrelekrele kwaye umntwana ufunda ukonwatyiswa kuphela. Ke akufuneki ukuba uzikhathaze ngomntwana ophuphumayo.