Into yokuba umntwana esoyika kwaye ayiphephe imibuzo ebuzwayo, inokubonisa ukuba kuyaxokwa.
Abantwana bamsulwa, ingakumbi kwiminyaka yabo yokuqala yobomi. Ngexesha elide bayatshintsha, baguquke, bathathe kwaye baxelise ukwenziwa kunye neendlela zokucinga abazibonayo ezibangqongileyo. Kuza ixesha apho abantwana bayaxoka. Ngaba siyayazi indlela yokwahlula xa besenza? Kule nqaku sinika izitshixo ezithile.
Ubumsulwa babantwana
Kubantwana akukho bubi okanye iikinki. Abantwana bahlambulukile kwaye bahlala beziphethe, bexelisa, bengazi, bengaqondi okanye bengenzi nto ngenxa yobudala babo. Kufika ixesha apho abazali boyika iindlela ezithile zokuziphatha njengokuxoka. Umzali ngamnye umazi ngcono umntwana wakhe kunaye nabani na kwaye uyakwazi ukubona izijekulo, iintshukumo okanye amagama ahlukileyo kunesiqhelo. Kukho imikhondo ethile enokunceda kwaye ibe yinto eqhelekileyo kubantwana abaninzi.
Abazali bazama ukuba ngumzekelo olungileyo ebantwaneni babo kwaye benze kwaye basabele kwiimeko ezithile ngendlela echanekileyo ebafumanayo. Ayisiyo kuphela ukuba isimilo somntu kunye nobuntu buchaphazela indlela yokuziphatha, kodwa okusingqongileyo yinxalenye ebalulekileyo kwaye ikakhulu kumisela iintshukumo ezizayo. Umntwana uyisiponji, ke ngoko uya kubona kwaye ayikope. Abazali abaxokisa abantwana babo okanye amaqabane abo baya kwenza ukuba umntwana athambekele ekufuneni indlela efanayo.
Ubuxoki ebantwaneni. Iimpawu
Xa umntwana esemncinci kakhulu, malunga neminyaka emi-3 ubudala, uxoka engayazi intsingiselo yesenzo sakhe.
Umntwana uqala ukuxoka engayazi intsingiselo yesenzo sakhe. Njengalo naluphi na uvavanyo, phanda kwaye ufuna ukwazi impendulo yomnye kunye nenyani yawo. Ngokuhamba kwexesha uyaqonda ukuba ngokuxoka uzuza into engcono, angalahla ukuthethiswa ngaphezu koko. Kwaye emva kwexesha elincinci uyakubonisa ityala kunye nokuzisola kuba ubudala bakhe buya kumenza ayiqonde. Ingakhathaza into yokuba umzali abe kwimeko encomekayo kuwo omabini amaqela.
- Thetha: Elona qhinga lokufunda ngakumbi ngabantwana kukuba Thetha nabo, ubabuze kwaye ubuze malunga neminqweno yabo, ngcamango kunye nezenzo imini yonke. Yazi ukuthanda kwabo, ubuhlobo kwaye iindlela zokwenza zinokukunika izimvo ezininzi malunga nento ekucaphukisayo okanye into engaqhelekanga ngawe.
- Umntwana akayeki ukushukuma: Ukuba ngalo mzuzu uxela into ujonge kude kwaye ashukume rhoqo, luphawu lokuba into ayihambi kakuhle, ayizibonakalisi njengoko injalo, yiyo loo nto ixoka. Unovalo kwaye uyenza icace ngaphandle kokukwazi ukuyiphepha. Akaphenduli xa ebuzwa okanye evasally.
- Xa ebalisa ibali, akayonxibelelanisi ngokwaneleyo izijekulo zakhe: Umntwana usenokuba uxela into kwaye engahambi nolwazi kunye nembonakalo yobuso okanye iintshukumo zomzimba. Umntwana uyaluma umlomo wakhe, uchukumise ubuso bakhe, ahleke, afumane luvalo kwaye akakhululekanga. Omncinci uxela into ngendlela eyahlukileyo kunesiqhelo. Ngale nto, utata angarhanela kwaye azame ukufumana ulwazi ngakumbi okanye iinkcukacha ezinokuthi zimnike.
- Obu buxoki bufunyaniswa lula kunabanye: Iinyaniso ezingezizo ezinento yokwenza nemisebenzi okanye imisebenzi oyinikiweyo kufuneka ziqwalaselwe kuphela. Okunye Ngokuqinisekileyo ayinakuqondakala kwaye ayithetheki.
- Igumbi lakhe: Xa unyana emncinci kwamkelekile ukuba izinto ezithile zifumaneke phakathi kwezinto zakho zobuqu, iigwegwe, iimpahla ..., inokuba ngumgibe omncinci. Ukuba mncinci, abazali bathatha uxanduva kwaye babeke iliso kuyo yonke into ayenzayo nayenayo, ke ngekhe kubekho intetho yokophula eyakhe ukusondelelana, ukuba ayiloxanduva lobudala bakhe.