El Emperor Syndrome, ebizwa nangokuthi i- ingane enobudlova noma i mfana inkosi kuyinkinga yokuziphatha ezinye izingane ezinayo ukubusa nokuziphatha ngesihluku kubazali babo.
Njengoba izingane zikhula, inqubo ivula lapho bavivinya imingcele yemvelo yaboBafunda ukuthi yini engenziwa nengenziwa, futhi ngezinga elingakanani. Badinga cacisa imizila, imithetho nemikhawulo ngentuthuko enempilo. Kepha kwesinye isikhathi abazali bahluleka ngokuphelele ukulawula futhi babe yizigqila zezingane zabo. Kungenzeka yini ukuthola ngesikhathi?
Izici zezingane yi-Emperor Syndrome
Le nto yokuhlukunyezwa kwezingane kubazali iya ngokuya iba njalo. Yibona "abaphathi" bendlu: bayantshontsha, bayasabisa, bayathuka baze bashaye. Basabisa umndeni wonke.
Iveza izici ezithile ezivamile:
- Ukubekezelelana okuphansi ekukhungathekeni: bafuna izinto abazifunayo, futhi uma bengazitholi babanga izingxabano ezingalingani. Uma beyithola, ayibenelisi futhi bagxila kokunye.
- Izinsiza ezikhawulelwe zokuxazulula inkinga: noma ukubhekana nemizwa engemihle.
- Ukungabi nozwela: Bakuthola kunzima ukuzizwa benecala noma ukuzisola ngezenzo zabo.
- Kuyinselele futhi kunolaka- Baphonsela inselelo imithetho nezibalo zeziphathimandla. Basebenzisa i- ukuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo, ukuthukwa nokumemeza. Benza ukuhlukunyezwa kwangempela kwengqondo futhi esimweni esibi kakhulu nokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba.
- Egocentric: bakholelwa enkabeni yomhlaba, futhi bathole ukulungiswa kokuziphatha kwabo esola abanye.
- Ukuzenyeza: ezifihle njengobushiqela.
- Isimo esiqhubekayo sokudabuka, intukuthelo kanye / noma ukukhathazeka.
Umsebenzi kabani?
Abazali bavame ukusolwa kulezi zimo ngokuyekelela ngokweqile. Kepha lesi sici sisodwa asichazi lolu hlobo lokuziphatha. Kukhona abanye izici ezinomthelela ekwakhiweni kwe-Emperor Syndrome ngaphezu kwesitayela ukuyekelela nokufundisa ngokweqile, njenge- ukuqagela uhlamvu lofuzo futhi i ithonya lomthengi, elizimele nelithanda abantu.
Ungayithola kanjani ngesikhathi
Njenganoma ikuphi ukungahambi kahle, ukutholwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi kubalulekile ukuze isimo silungiswe. Ukuze ukwazi ukwenza lokhu, ukubambisana komndeni kuyadingeka ekwelashweni ngochwepheshe.
Kunemikhondo ethile eyenzeka phakathi kweminyaka engu-6-11 engasebenza njengesixwayiso:
- Ukwehluleka ukuthuthukisa imizwa yokuziphatha eyiqiniso (uthando, uzwela, ububele ...). Lokhu kubavimba ekubeni bakwazi ukuxhumana nokuxhumana, nokuzibeka endaweni yomunye, nokungakwazi ukuzisola noma ukuzisola. Yilokho obekuzobizwa engenazwelo.
- Funa inzuzo yakho. Akafundi emaphutheni noma ezijezisweni.
- Umuzwa wehaba wokuba ngowakhe. Konke kungokwabo, ababelane ngezinto futhi uma othile ebathinta bangasabela ngodlame.
- Hlukana nemithetho futhi bazephula njalo.
- wakhe ochwepheshe bokukhohlisa ukuguqula isimo bese usola abanye ukuze bangajeziswa.
Ungamisa kanjani lokhu kuziphatha
Ukufundisa akulula, futhi kwesinye isikhathi ukuziphatha kwezingane kuphuma esandleni bengazi ukuthi bazobhekana kanjani nakho. Ukuqeda lezi zimilo ukwelashwa komuntu ngamunye kanye nomndeni nochwepheshe kuyadingeka.
Kukhona nemihlahlandlela engakusiza ngalezi zindlela zobushiqela:
- Vumelanani ngeziqondiso zemfundo ekhaya. Vumelanani ngemikhombandlela okumele ilandelwe ukuze ingane ingasebenzisi leli thuba lokungezwani ukuthola lokho elikufunayo. Kufanele ubheke ukuhlangana.
- Dala imithetho ecacile ekhaya. Leli phuzu libaluleke kakhulu esisekelweni sokuziphatha ekhaya. Imithetho nemiyalo ecace bha kufanele isungulwe ngaphakathi kwesakhiwo somndeni.
- Dala onkhe. Kusukela ngesikhathi sokuvuka, ukudla, izibopho ...
- Musa ukusongela. Ngaphandle kwalokho ngeke kusebenze, kuzomane kwandise isimilo sakho.
- Bandakanya ingane kwimithwalo yemfanelo ekhaya kuye ngokweminyaka yayo.
- Khipha isimilo esifanele, bese belandelana hhayi ukuvuza okubi ngokunakwa. Uma ememeza noma ekhahlela, kungcono ungamnaki aze ehlise umoya.
- Qina. Musa ukuwela kuma-blackmails akhe, mkhumbuze ukuthi yimiphi imithetho nokuthi ngubani ophethe.
Kungani ukhumbula ... imfundo enemingcele iyadingeka ukufundisa abantu abadala abanempilo.