"Ngingumama futhi ngizizwa ngingedwa." Wake waba nalo muzwa? Uma kunjalo, akufanele wethuke noma ucabange ukuthi usuzowela ekucindezelekeni. Lo muzwa ungaphezu kokuvamile, ikakhulukazi phakathi neminyaka yokuqala yokuphila kwezingane zethu.
Sazi kahle kamhlophe ukuthi sinosizo lomlingani wethu, umndeni wethu, ukuthi ukunakekelwa nokunakekelwa kwezingane zethu kungumsebenzi wabo bonke, kodwa-ke, ukukhulisa izingane kulezi zigaba zokuqala zokuphila kuwela kithi kuphela. Lezi yizikhathi lapho imicabango eminingi, ukungabaza futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, imizwa yesizungu ivela. Vuliwe "Madres Hoy»sifuna ukukunikeza amasu okubhekana nesimo.
Izizathu ezenza ngizizwe nginesizungu
Izizathu zokuthi kungani ungazizwa uwedwa ziningi futhi azinamsuka ofanayo. Manje, kufanele kucaciswe kusukela ekuqaleni ukuthi asikhulumi kuphela ngalolo sizi lwangemva kokubeletha olungaholela ekucindezelekeni kwesinye isikhathi. Sikhuluma kuphela ngomuzwa wokuthi "isizungu" umama angazizwa ngasiphi isikhathi.
Izimbangela, futhi njengesibonelo, kungaba okulandelayo.
- Uyekile ukusebenza, izindlela zakho zishintshile futhi uchitha amahora amaningi uwedwa ekhaya unakekela izingane zakho. Uyajabula, uyazithanda izingane zakho, kepha "ubona ukuthi kukhona okushodayo."
- Unosizo nokuxhaswa ngumlingani wakho, kepha awuzizwa uqondakala ngokuphelele noma usekelwa, kunezici ezithile zokukhulisa ingane yakho lapho uzizwa uwedwa.
- Ungase futhi ube ngumama osemncane. Kungenzeka ukuthi abangani bakho baqhubeke nempilo yabo njengenjwayelo, izikhathi zabo zobumnandi, ukutadisha, leyo nkululeko eyayikubonakalisa ngaphambili nokuthi manje, ngandlela thile, awusenayo. Uyabona ukuthi ngenkathi unemithwalo yemfanelo emisha (oyithandayo neyamukelayo), abanye abantu babonakala bekushiya ngemuva.
- Kwesinye isikhathi kungenzeka futhi ukuthi, nganoma yiziphi izizathu, ubhekene nomama wedwa. Noma ngabe uzithandela noma cha, leli qiniso kwesinye isikhathi likwenza uzizwe ululutho olungathandeki.
Kuzo zonke lezi zici, isici esisodwa sihlala sicacile: siphilile, sijabule nezingane zethu, akukho malaise noma inkinga ekhona. Ukuphela kwento eyenzekayo ukuthi sizizwe sisodwa, futhi kuba umuzwa kwesinye isikhathi okhungathekisayo.
Okufanele ngikwenze njalo lapho ngizizwa nginesizungu ngenkathi ngikhulisa izingane zami
Gwema imikhuba
Gwema imikhuba eyenziwayo ngenkathi unezingane? Kubukeka cishe kungenakwenzeka, ngoba njengoba sesivele sazi, futhi ikakhulukazi Phakathi nezinyanga zokuqala zokuphila kwengane, kudingeka izindlela ezijwayeleke kakhulu nemikhuba ukuvumela ukukhula okufanele kwengane.
Lactation, amakhefu…. Futhi lesi simo asijwayele ukushintsha kakhulu, ngoba yize izingane zikhuthele kakhulu njengoba zikhula, omama baphoqeleka kakhulu ukulandela inqubo yezingane zethu. Kungakho, lapho sibhekene nalezi zinhlelo eziqinile okufanele size sizihlanganise nomsebenzi wethu, Sigcina sesibhekene nezinsuku ezicishe zifane.
Yini esingayenza? Qaphela okulandelayo.
- Hlanganisa izibopho zezingane nomlingani wakho noma amanye amalungu omndeni uma kungenzeka.
- Yazi ukuthi usuku ngalunye kufanele luhluke futhi lukhetheke, Futhi ngalokhu, kufanele wenze okuthile okusha nsuku zonke ukuthola izikhuthazi nezinjabulo ezincane.
- Thatha uhambo lokuhambahamba nengane yakho, ilanga malikukhanye, uye endaweni yokudlela enenqola, hlangana nabangane bakho: jwayelana nabantu.
- Uma kungenzeka, ungabhalisela isifundo nengane yakho lapho ungajabulela khona ulwazi: kunezigaba zokubhukuda zezinsana, amakilasi e-yoga nezokuphumula, ukushukumisa kokuqala... Akungabazeki ukuthi yimisebenzi enomvuzo kakhulu.
Khuluma nothile ngokuthi uzizwa kanjani
Uma uzizwa unesizungu, khuluma ngakho nomlingani wakho. Cishe, kunenkinga eyisisekelo edinga ukubhekwa:
- Ungahle uthathe izibopho eziningi futhi ubone ukuthi umlingani wakho akekho ezingeni elifanayo. Ungakuboni njengokubi, kwesinye isikhathi, omama bavame ukulawula izici eziningi zokukhulisa izingane Kuleyo minyaka yokuqala futhi bengahlosile, abazali bashiywa endaweni yesibili ngenxa yokunquma.
- Sungula inkhulumomphendvulwano efanele nomlingani wakho. Ungamlindi ukuthi akucacisele okwenzekayo kuwe: kuyadingeka ukusungula ukuxhumana okwanele okuhambisanayo lapho konke kuvezwa khona. Uma uthula ngalokho okuzwayo, uzoqoqa intukuthelo nosizi, futhi ukungabi nalusizo kancane kancane kungaholela ekucindezelekeni.
Ungumama nowesifazane okufanele uqhubeke nokukhuthaza ukukhula kwakho komuntu siqu
Ungumama, okubaluleke kakhulu kuwe yizingane zakho nokuyinto ocacile ngayo. Manje, ungakhohlwa ukuthi kufanele unakekele ukukhula kwakho, lapho uzoqhubeka khona nokunakekela ukuzethemba kwakho, ukufinyelela amaphupho nokwakha amaphrojekthi.
- Kwesinye isikhathi, omama abaningi bacabanga ukuthi ngokuzalwa kwengane yabo impilo yabo yobungcweti isiphelile, noma okungenani, eminingi yaleyo minyango ayephuphe kuyo isivele iyavalwa.
- Awudingi ukuya kulezi zeqisa. Uyazi ukuthi uyayithanda indodana yakho, nokuthi uzomenzela konke, noma kunjalo, lokhu akuphikisani nokuqhubeka nokukhula uqobo nangokomsebenzi.
- Mhlawumbe isizathu sokuthi uzizwe unesizungu yingoba ubona ukuthi impilo yakho imile ngandlela thile. Ungaweli kuleli phutha bese ukhumbula lokho Uma ungajabule futhi ungazizwa kahle ngawe, kunzima kakhulu kuwe ukuthi unikeze injabulo kulabo abaseduze kwakho.
Ungumama, wenze ubuthakathaka bakho amandla akho futhi izinto ezimbalwa zingakuvimba. Isizathu? Isizathu ukuthi futhi kuzoba yizingane zakho, zona okufanele uqhubeke nokuthuthuka kuzo, ozoqhubeka ukhula ngazo zonke izinsuku ukuze zijabule ngawe, futhi uzijabulise.
- Umuzwa wokuba nesizungu yinto ejwayelekile kubantu, akuyona eyakho kuphela
- Qonda ukuthi bonke omama bezwe lowo muzwa: lowo wokuba wedwa nomthwalo wokuba ngumzali. Futhi ngaphezu kwalokho, sonke, omama noma abangebona omama, abesilisa, abesifazane, izingane kanye nabantu abadala, silwa nsuku zonke nalomuzwa.
- Isizungu esisigaxa ngezikhathi ezithile akuyona nje into eyisixwayiso, isexwayiso sokuthi kukhona okuthile ezimpilweni zethu okumele sibhekane nakho.
- Kwesinye isikhathi kwanele ukwenza ushintsho oluncane: hamba uhambe, ushintshe inqubo yakho, khuluma nabanye omama bese wabelana ngalolo lwazi. Uzobona ukuthi kuyinto ejwayelekile, ingqikithi yesintu uqobo.
Kodwa-ke, uma uzizwa uwedwa ungathatha futhi izingane zakho futhi uzenzele okuthile okusha: faka umculo, uphume uye endaweni yokushiswa yilanga, ube no-ayisikhilimu ... Ilanga liphuma nsuku zonke futhi njalo lisinika isizathu sokumamatheka.