Akubona bonke ogogo abanobuthi, kepha kukhona labo abazinikela kuyo yonke imicabango yabazukulu babo, labo abangabanaki, abanokhahlo kakhulu kubo kunezingane zabo, noma ngqo abafaka omama esikhundleni sabo, yini okufanele siyenze bese nalaba ogogo abanobuthi? Le mibuzo neminye ingezinye esizobhekana nazo.
Kwesinye isikhathi kuyenzeka Ukungezwani phakathi kogogo nomkhulu nabazali ngoba abahlanganyeli ngendlela yethu yokubona imfundo, futhi benza lokho esikubiza ngokuthi “konakalisa abazukulu”. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ogogo ababona omama bethu kuphela, kepha futhi bangomama bakababa.
Yini ogogo nomkhulu abanobuthi?
Bonke abantu bangabanye, kwesinye isikhathi noma okunye okunobuthi. Into ethokozisayo ukucabanga ngayo bese wenza ngokufanele. Ngendlela efanayo naleyo kukhona omama nogogo abanobuthi, futhi izingane nabazukulu bangaba. Okufanelekile kungaba ibhalansi lapho kugcinwa khona imfudumalo, futhi a ubuhlobo bangaphakathi komndeni muhle futhi unempilo.
Kunogogo abangalamukeli iqhaza labo njengogogo futhi ziyayandisa indima yokuba ngumama Bakwenza nezingane zabo, bephinda amaphethini. Laba bantu ngokuvamile abazi ukuthi ingane ikhulela "kwenye indlu" ngaphansi kokunye ukuvumelana kwezinkambiso. Kwesinye isikhathi, ngokungaqondile, ogogo nomkhulu nogogo bagcina sebengabaholi bengxabano nokudideka kwezingane.
Bese kuba khona okuhlukile, ngeshwa okuba kuncane kangako, kwe- ogogo nomkhulu ababanakekela ngempela usuku nosuku abazukulu babo, futhi ngabazali abathatha indima yokuba "ngabaphangi" bezingane, bephula imithetho yokuhlalisana enikezwe ugogo.
Uhlobo lwogogo abanobuthi
Singakhuluma, ngokuvamile, ngezinhlobo ezine zogogo nomkhulu onobuthi. Yize bengogogo nomkhulu nogogo, empeleni indima yobuthi ngokwesiko idlalwa ngugogo, kanti umkhulu uhlala ngaphezulu eceleni ingane ize ikhule kancane.
- Ogogo abangena kukho konke. Banamakhambi akho konke, abanqikazi ukukutshela ukuthi wenzani okungalungile nokuthi yiziphi izixazululo zezingxabano. Okubi kakhulu ukuthi lezi zinkulumo zivame ukwenziwa phambi kwezingane, okudala udweshu phakathi kwabazali.
- Ogogo abanobuthi ngubani bavumelana nakho konke. Lezi zinhlobo zogogo ezokuqala ukwephula imithetho ebekwe ekhaya.
- Ogogo izimbangi. Labo gogo bahlala bephindaphinda ukuthi baba ngabokuqala ukuqaphela lokhu noma leyonto ngengane, ukumbona ehamba, bamtshele ukuthi kuzelwe umfowethu. Bagcina bezikhombisa ukuthi bangabantu abakhetheke kakhulu empilweni yengane, nokuthi yini engadala lokho kubazali.
- Ogogo bahlukanisiwe. Yibo cishe abangakaze babe nabazukulu babo. Akubathonyeli ngqo, kepha empeleni izingane azinakho okwafaniswa nogogo, nokuthi lokhu kusho ukuthini ukuntuleka okuthinta inhliziyo.
Amathiphu okubhekana nogogo abanobuthi
Kakhulu kunzima ukuthola ibhalansi kulezi zimo, kepha kulula ukuthi uvule amehlo akho, futhi ungalibali ukuba nengxoxo ethulile, no inhlonipho nothando, ngasese nomama wakho noma umamezala wakho. Ngokushesha ukukwenza, kuzoba nokungezwani okuncane. Akufanele sivumele ogogo, ngothando lwabo lonke nezinhloso ezinhle, ukuthi bagcine besongela ukulinganisela okungokomzwelo kwezingane zethu kanye nozakwethu.
Uma unomuzwa wokuthi ogogo nomkhulu bezingane zakho banobuthi futhi bayabalimaza, zama ukusuka kubo kancane kancane. Kodwa qala ukhulume nabo. Ogogo abaningi benza kanjena ukuvikela abazukulu babo njengoba benza ezinsukwini zabo nawe noma umlingani wakho. Ngalo mqondo, funa ukulingana phakathi kozwela, nokuzibeka ezicathulweni zabo, futhi ukuqinisekiswa. Beka imikhawulo bese uthi cha.
Uma ungabaza futhi uzizwa ubhajwe phakathi kogogo nomkhulu onobuthi nengane yakho, sincoma ukuncika enganeni.