NgoDisemba 24, 2015, sahluleka (futhi) njengomphakathi, yize ukwehluleka kwakukukhulu kakhulu emphakathini wezemfundo weCatalan Institute lapho u-Alan ayefunde khona. U-Alan wayeneminyaka engu-17 ubudala futhi wayethandana nabantu bobulili obufanayo, kwakungekho ukusweleka kwezizathu zenjabulo ngoba ukwazile ukushintsha igama lakhe kumazisi wakhe, nokho abantu afunda nabo babemthukuthelela ngenxa yobunikazi bakhe; ukuhlukunyezwa okwaba khona kwakuyimbangela yokuzibulala kwakhe. Siyazazi lezi zimilo njengo ukuxhashazwa kwabantu abathandana nobulili obufanayo nobulili obubodwa: yizingane ezihlupheka ngokuqhubekayo, zombili emaphaseji esikhungo semfundo, njengokusebenzisa ngokunenzuzo lezo zikhala ezibonakalayo, kwesinye isikhathi okuveza okubi kakhulu kithi.
UKhisimusi ngaphandle kuka-Alan kubazali bakhe, nokuthi yini esele kubo; Ngamangala lapho ngithola ngemuva kwezinsuku ezimbili, ngangingafuni ukukukholwa futhi ngaqonda ngqo ezinganeni zami, ngabacela ukuthi bangilalele: 'Ungabekezeleli noma ngubani ohlukumeza abanye ukhona, ungazibandakanyi nokuthotshiswa okuhlangene, tshela umuntu omdala uma ungeke ukwazi ukubhekana nalesi simo wedwa'; Yini enye engingayisho? Ngemuva kwakho konke, kungumsebenzi obanjelwe bonke abantu, ngoba ukube bebengekho othisha abebebheka kolunye uhlangothi, ababukeli bokuxhashazwa bangabamba iqhaza elibonakalayo, nemindeni yalabo abahlukumeza ibingeke ibe yingxenye ngabe asikhulumi ngalokhu.
Sekwanele! Awucabangi? Ngabe asikwazi ukuzwana nomuntu ohlukile noma kwenzekani kithi? Ngemuva kwemibuthano yombhikisho, nangemva kokuba u-Alan ethathe indawo ephambili ezindabeni zamaphephandaba nokuzindla ngamabhulogi ahlukahlukene, i- Ukubheka ngokumelene ne-Homophobia eCatalonia, wabuza iSíndic e Greuges ukuthi iphenye izimo lapho ukuzibulala kwenzeka khona, futhi kwadingeka izibopho zezepolitiki, ngoba empeleni yi-Autonomous Community enemithetho ephambili ye-LGTBI, kepha inamaphutha ekusetshenzisweni kwayo.
Transsexuality nokuhlalisana emakilasini.
Izikhungo ezintathu nomlando omude wokuxhashazwa: Ubani ongafuna ukuya ekilasini nsuku zonke uma azi ukuthi uzobaphoqa, ababathuke noma ababaphonse phansi ezitebhisini lapho? Futhi kwenzekani kithi bantu abadala? Ingabe siyizimpumputhe ?; mhlawumbe kuyinduduzo nje yokuhamba ohlelweni olusinikeza inhlalakahle ethile, noma singahle singafuni ukwazi lutho ngokuhlupheka kwabanye. Zibeke endaweni ka-Ester, umama womfana, cabanga ngaye nangalolo suku lukaKhisimusi lapho u-Alan adla khona amaphilisi ahlanganiswe notshwala, usuku lapho ukwesaba kodlame kwehlula uthando lomndeni wakhe.
Uma usebenza nezingane emkhakheni wezemfundo noma ukuqeqeshwa okuhambisanayo, noma ngabe ungumqaphi emakhaya abantu abasha ... kahle, uma ungumzali, nawe: ungahle ube nentshisekelo kule ncwadi ebizwa Trans * Exualidades, lapho uRaquel (Lucas) Platero Méndez. onomlando omude wobushoshovu be-LGBTQ futhi emkhakheni wezemfundo, uphakamisa amasu angathonya ukuvimbela nokungenelela kwi-transphobia.
Umsebenzi ohlanganyelwe?
Akungabazeki: kungumsebenzi wokususa lokhu kuziphatha ezikoleni nasezikhungweni, futhi kungumsebenzi (wokubambisana) ukuthi izehlakalo ezingezinhle njengalesi engikutshela zona zenzeke, noma ukuthi asinikezeli izingane zethu ohlelweni lwezemfundo ukuze zizizwe zikhululekile futhi zivikelekile? Bonke othisha abafani noma abanobucayi obufanayo; Abanawo amathuluzi adingekayo okudlula ikharikhulamu yezemfundo futhi bafundise labo abangabantu ngaphambi kwabafundi, kepha ngentando, ungahlala ungenelela. Kuyiqiniso futhi ukuthi ukuthandana kwabantu bobulili obufanayo nokuya ocansini obubodwa kuyabonakala kakhulu ngakho-ke kwamukelwa kakhulu namuhla, kodwa akwenele.
Besifuna ukufundisa izingane zethu kwezocansi ngokukhuluma nazo mayelana nokukhulelwa kwabantu nokuvinjelwa kokukhulelwa okungafuneki kanye nama-STD, kepha sikhohlwe into ebaluleke kakhulu: yenza kubonakale okungabonakali, okungukuthi, imizwa, ukwesaba, izinqumo, ukungabaza, izinkomba nobunikazi. Sibatshela lokho esifuna ukubatshela khona ngaphandle kokubuza ukuthi bayathanda yini, silalela kuphela izimpendulo zemibuzo yethu, kodwa hhayi lokho izingane ezifuna ukusitshela kona. Siyakhohlwa nokuthi banobulili. Ngasikhathi sinye, asinalo uvalo ngokunikeza ukuqeqeshwa ezihlokweni ezibaluleke kangaka kuma-Social Networks naku-porn online.
Uyazi ukuthi izinga lokuzibulala kwabantu be-transgender licishe libe ngama-41%? Awucabangi ukuthi ayibekezeleleki?
Igrafu elandelayo ibonisa izisulu zokuxhashazwa eMexico (2012) ngokuya ngesimo sabo sobulili noma ubunikazi:
Kuphakathi kokuthi siyabekezelela noma asikwazi ukuzibiza ngomphakathi.
Alan wayenesibindi kodwa wayesengumuntu osemusha nje ozungezwe ubudlova endaweni yezenhlalo eyakha abesilisa bayo ebudodeni obunamandla, futhi angisho ukuthi abesifazane abanazo izibopho, ngoba omama nobaba kumele benze umzamo owengeziwe wokunikeza izinkomba ezisiza izingane zethu ukuthi zihloniphe WONKE UMUNTU. Uma i-machismo inecala ngokwengxenye, kungenxa yokuthi kuphambene nokuba khona kwezinye izinhlobo, noma ngabe awukaze uzwe noma yimuphi umzali ekhuluma ngokweyisa (ngokwesibonelo) ongqingili? Izingane zenza lokho ezikubonayo ... khumbula.
Umphakathi 'uyiqoqo labantu, abantu noma izizwe ezihlalisana ngaphansi kwezinkambiso ezifanayo', kuyaqondakala ukuthi izinkambiso kumele zisebenze kubo bonke
Kufanele kushiwo ukuthi iningi lodlame lokuzondwa kwabantu bobulili obufanayo olukhiqizwa ngabafana ngokumelene nabanye abafana abanomqondo ohlukile; kukhona okungahambi kahle kunjalo, futhi Ngiyaphinda ngiyasho ukuthi ngicabanga ukuthi umthwalo wokuqedwa kwalezi zindlela zokuziphatha uhlangene.
Uzenza kanjani izindaba zezocansi ekhaya? Ngabe unika izingane zakho isithombe sokubekezelelana noma uyazikhombisa njengomuntu ongakwazi ukuqonda ukunotha kokwehlukahlukana? Uyakukhumbula lokho isimo sakho sengqondo nombono wakho kubumba izingane ohlala nazo? Ake siqale kuleso sikhala esincane esisibiza ngekhaya, ake siqale ukucabanga futhi senze abantu bacabange, ukukhuthaza umoya wokugxeka omncane kunabo bonke,… masingabekezeleli ukungabekezelelani, futhi sihambe ngendlela evuselelwe engenabandlululo futhi egcwele uthando.
Masizizwe sikhululekile ukumemeza sisophahleni ukuthi sifuna izikole zikhululeke kwi-transphobia kanye nokuxhashazwa, ukuze kungaphinde kwenzeke ukuthi u-Alan angabe esakwazi ukuphatha impilo yakhe futhi afuna ukuyithatha kuye.
Kukhunjulwa u-Alan.
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