Kulinganiselwa kumaphesenti angama-23/25 amantombazane, namaphesenti ayi-10 kuye kwangama-15% abafana, amaphesenti wabantwana abangaphansi kweminyaka eyi-17 abahlukunyezwa ngokocansi (ASI); futhi yisibalo esivame ukugcinwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Futhi lokhu akushiwo yimina kuphela, kepha futhi nezifundo ezahlukahlukene ezenziwa eSpain nakwamanye amazwe e-European Union; futhi nase-United States naseCanada. Esinye sezizathu zokuvela kwama-ASIs ngezabo ukungabonakali, okuholela ekubeni nonembeza omubi emphakathini.
Futhi uma idatha osanda kuyifunda ikukhathaza, ngizoba negalelo ekuyenzeni kancane, ngoba amaphesenti angama-60 wezisulu awalutholi usizoKungenxa yokuthi abayitsheli, noma ngoba abazali bayakufihla,… Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi kwezingane kuveza umonakalo omkhulu ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo ngendlela ehlala njalo. Kuyinkinga eyindida indlela yayo nayo eyinkimbinkimbi. Enye yezinto egqame kakhulu ukuthi siqhubeke nokubambelela embonweni oyiphutha wokuthi ama-ASI ayenzeka emindenini enezinga eliphansi lezenhlalo nomnotho; lapho empeleni ingekho imininingwane ecacile yabahlukumezi ngokuya ngokwezenhlalo, ezomnotho, noma umsebenzi wabo.
En Izinqolobane Zase-Argentina Zezingane, sithola ireferensi yocingo indawo yokuhlala, echazwe yiRoland Summit ngo-1983, okukhombisa ngokusobala iqoqo lokuziphatha ingane eyamukelayo lapho ibhekene nesimo:
- Ukuzizwa engakwazi ukuzisiza okumkhubazayo futhi okwenza kube nzima 'ukumelana' (yize abazali kungenzeka ukuthi basegumbini elilandelayo). Ayikho ingane engazivikela ngendlela umuntu omdala ebengazivikela ngayo, futhi igcine ibhajwe ukungabi nathemba; ekugcineni, ungazizwa unecala noma unesibopho semicimbi.
- Ukugcina imfihlo ngenxa yamahloni, icala, nokwesaba ukujeziswa noma ukuthi umhlukumezi wakho uzoyeka ukukuthanda. Izinsongo eziqondile ezivela kubahlaseli ziqinisa ukwesaba.
- Isimo Sendawo Yokuhlala: ngezinto ezimbili eziphikisanayo eziyi-1) Umuntu omdala obhekele ukumnakekela mubi, akakwazi ukumthanda; noma 2) Isisulu sizizwa singcolile futhi sinelungelo; inketho yesibili ivame ukukhethwa, ngomzamo wokuphila ngokomzwelo.
- Isikhalazo esedlule nesingqubuzanayo: abancane abakwazi ukusho uma kwenzeka (okuyiningi); bangabika i-ASI ebusheni (sebenenkululeko eyengeziwe). Yize ezikhathini eziningi izehlakalo zingakhunjulwa kuze kudlule iminyaka eminingana, okungukuthi, lapho usumdala. Kuzona zozimbili lezi zimo kunengozi yokuthi zingathathelwa phezulu.
- Bayasihoxisa isikhalazo, besaba imiphumela yaso; futhi enye inkinga yengezwa: ukuvuselelwa kabusha, ngenxa yokuthi icala liphethwe ngendlela engafanele.
Ukuhlukumeza izingane ngokocansi, kumacala angaphezu kwamaphesenti angama-80, kwenziwa ngabantu abasondelene nomndeni, noma kusondelene kakhulu nabancane (abaqaphi, omakhelwane, othisha)
Ngike ngike ngizibuze ukuthi ngiyobe ngiyothini uma enye yezingane zami ingitshela ukuthi yahlukunyezwa ngandlela thile. ngiyakwazi lokho Ukukhulisa lo mbono akufani nokuphoqelelwa ukuthi ube nokuphendula okuthile. Kuzobukeka kungajwayelekile kuwe ukuthi ubhala lokhu, yize kungenjalo ngokwesakhiwo somndeni lapho umama evela khona, noma ubudlelwano anabo nalowo osolwa ngokuhlukumeza, noma ikhono lakhe lokunqoba abeke izintshisekelo zengane ngaphambi umbono wenhlalo ngenkinga. Uzongitshela, bengizozivikela izingane zami, impela! Ngiyakuqonda, nami bengizozivikela.
Akubona bonke omama abaphendula ngendlela efanayo
Ukuze uqonde ukuthi kungani ngiphakamise lo mbuzo, yebo, kuvela ukuthi akubona bonke omama abaphendula ngendlela efanayo, sithola amaphrofayili athile kuya ngokusabela ngemuva kokuhlaselwa (hhayi kusuka enkohlakalweni esiyakhe):
- Umama odala izingane zakhe kusukela kumzuzu wokuqala futhi azivikele.
- Lowo oqala ukuwavikela isikhathi eside ngemuva kokuthola.
- Lowo osolisayo kodwa futhi osaba kakhulu ukukuvuma.
- Lowo owaziyo, kodwa enza sengathi akazi.
- Lowo okholwayo, futhi ofisa ukuvikela, kepha uhlala enamathele ngokomzwelo kumhlaseli.
- Lowo ocabanga ukuthi intengo yokubonakala ejwayelekile, uthatha izindleko zokulimaza izingane, kuyaqondakala.
- Lowo obamba iqhaza ekuhlukunyezweni.
- Lowo oqamba amanga ngokwenzekile.
Ngemuva kokuthuthukisa ukusabela komama okungenzeka, kuhlala kimi ukuthi ngikhumbule ukuthi lokhu kucatshangwa ukuthi ingane ilokotha ukukutshela, futhi uma kungenjalo? Kunzima kanjani lokho! Lapha sikhulume ngezinye zezinkomba, okufanele ibekwe ngaso sonke isikhathi kumongo. Ekugcineni ngiyaphikelela: enye yezinsika zenguquko kungaba njalo ukufaka isandla ekubonakaleni kwalenkinga ngokwakha ukuqwashisaNgoba inqobo nje uma kunomuntu ongazikholwa izingane, ozifihlayo, ongazi ukuthi angathola kanjani ... zizoqhubeka zenzeke i-ASI.
Abantu abadala abawabona amaqiniso nokuxhaswa, baqala indlela enzima, ngenhlanhla eSpain, kunezikhungo ezaziyo ukuqondisa, ezenza umsebenzi omuhle kakhulu. Vele, asiqale ngokukholwa, ngoba ingane ayinalo ulwazi olwanele noma ukuvuthwa okungasungulwa. Ngalesi sizathu, futhi ngoba basengozini enkulu futhi badinga (ngaphandle kwemibandela) ukuthi labo ababathanda kakhulu, babe ngasohlangothini lwabo.
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