Eminyakeni yamuva kuvele izincwadi eziningi ezishumayela ngokusebenza kwe ukuba ngumzali oqondile futhi "ayikho idrama". Lokhu kudala ukudideka kubazali abaningi, ikakhulukazi lapho imvelo iqhubeka nokusebenzisa i- isijeziso nezingane zabo noma ngabe bakhetha ukungafuni (ukuqala ngesikole) noma lapho bengazi ukuthi benzeni ukuze bathole abakufunayo ngaphandle kwezinsongo nokuziphindiselela. Kulo mongo, eMhlanganweni Wonyaka we-123 we-American Psychological Association ongoti bachaze ukuthi ukujezisa ingane kuyasebenza, inqobo nje uma kwenziwa ngendlela efanele.
Ngiyaxolisa ukuthi ukuphawula kwami okulandelayo akulungile kwezepolitiki, kepha ngokuqinisekile kwabaningi lokhu akuyona into entsha. Manje, hlobo luni lwesijeziso olusebenzayo ekufundiseni ingane? Njengoba uzobona ngezansi, ochwepheshe babheka abakwaziyo njengesijeziso isikhathi sokulinda. Ake sibone ukuthi ochwepheshe bacabangani.
Isiyalo esifanelekile uma kuqhathaniswa nezikhathi zokulinda
Kwenye yezingqungquthela zomhlangano, umcwaningi wase-Oklahoma State University uRobert Larzelere wachaza ukuthi izindlela zokuziphatha ezinhle ezisetshenziswa ngabazali zingasebenza. Kodwa-ke, njengoba lochwepheshe echaza, Izinhlelo ezixhaswe ngokwesayensi zokukhulisa izingane zithole ukuthi izikhathi zokulinda nezinye izinhlobo zamaqhinga okuqinisekisa zingasebenza uma zilawulwa kahle.
Enkulumweni yakhe, uLarzelere uthe ithimba lakhe labacwaningi laxoxisana nomama abayi-102 abanikeze izincazelo eziningiliziwe ngezikhathi ezinhlanu lapho kwakudingeka baqondise izingane zabo lapho zishaya noma zishaya abanye, zibhikisha, zibaphonsela inselelo, zizama ukuxoxisana, noma zazingalaleli.
Thola ukwehlisa kwakuyindlela ephumelela kunazo zonke yokwenza ngcono isimilo ngokushesha, ngaphandle kohlobo lokuziphatha. Ukubonisana kube yimpendulo elandelayo ephumelela kakhulu lapho omama bebephendula ngobumnene ekuziphatheni okucasulayo, njengokuxoxisana noma ukubhikisha.
I-Los ukujeziswa, njengokuphelelwa yisikhathi noma ukuthatha okuthile, bekusebenza kangcono kunokucabanga uma kukhulunywa ngengane ebisebenza inselele. Kodwa-ke, ukujezisa kwakuyindlela encane esebenzayo lapho kubhekwana nengxoxo yengane nokuklolodela, futhi ukubonisana kwakungaphumeleli uma kusetshenziswa izingane ezidelelayo noma ezithi 'peggy'.
Kepha imiphumela yesikhathi eside iveze iphethini ehlukile. Ngenkathi omama bexoxwa nabo ezinyangeni ezimbili kamuva, labo ababevame ukunikela ngokuvumelana nezingane ezishaya noma ezishaya kakhulu noma ezenza kabi bathi izingane zabo zenza kabi, kusho uLarzelere. Ukubonisana, noma kunjalo, kwakuphumelela kakhulu ngesikhathi salezi zingane, yize kwakuyimpendulo engeyona ephumelelayo ngokushesha. Ukusetshenziswa okulingene kokuphela kwesikhathi nezinye izijeziso (ngaphansi kuka-16% wesikhathi) kuholele ekuziphatheni okwenziwe ngcono kamuva, kepha kuphela kulezi zingane ezidelelayo.
Ukusetshenziswa okulungile kokuphela kwesikhathi
Kwesinye isethulo esithangamini esifanayo, u-Ennio Cipani, waseNational University, ukusho lokho isizathu sokuthi izikhathi zokuphela kwesikhathi zingasebenzi noma zibhekwe kabi ngenxa yokuthi azisetshenziswanga kahle. UCipani nozakwabo bakwazile ukubona, ngesikhathi sangempela, amaphutha angenziwa ngabazali ekusebenziseni isikhathi sokuphuma, kusho uCipani. Isibonelo, abazali akufanele benze izinqumo eziqhutshwa yisikhuthazo sesikhashana sokusebenzisa isikhathi sokuphuma. Esikhundleni salokho, kufanele batshele izingane zabo ngaphambi kwesikhathi ukuthi iziphi izindlela zokuziphatha (isib. Ukushaya, ukuthethisa ezinye izingane) ezingazibambezela futhi ziqhubeke njalo.
"Imiphumela yethu emitholampilo ikhombisile ukuthi isikhathi sokuphuma sisetshenziselwa izindlela ezithile zokuziphatha nezimo, kunciphisa kakhulu izinkinga zokuziphatha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi," Kusho uCipani.
Ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengane
Ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengane nakho kungasiza abazali nezingane ngezingxabano eziqhubekayo.ngokusho kukaDavid Reitman waseNova Southeastern University noMark Roberts waseIdaho State University. URoberts wethule imininingwane ngendlela yeHanf yokuba ngumzali, ngokususelwa emsebenzini kaConstanza Hanf, ovumela isigaba sokuqala sokuziphatha okuhle (okungukuthi, izingane ziklonyeliswa ngokuziphatha okuhle) futhi ekugcineni zingena ezindleleni zokuba ngumzali. .
Ngokusho kukaRoberts, Ukuvumela ingane ithuba lesibili lokuhambisana nemiyalo yabazali ngokunikeza isexwayiso ngokungathobeli kutholakale kuzuzisa. Ngokusho kwalo chwepheshe, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi abazali bafunda ukunikeza imiyalelo nezixwayiso ngempumelelo enkulu, behlisa isidingo sesikhathi sokulinda uma kungalandelwa imithetho.
UReitman uphakamise ukuthi abazali bezingane ezijwayele ukukhula bangabuka ukwelashwa kokuziphatha njengokujezisa nje, kodwa njengento ebaluleke kakhulu ekukhuthazeni ukukhula okuhle kwengane.
UReitman uchaze ukuthi abantu abagxeka okwenziwa ngabelaphi abayiqondi imizamo yabo yokudlulisela kubazali inani lokuxhumana okuhle nengane yabo.. "Abelaphi bangasiza abazali baqonde inkinga, benze ushintsho kwezemvelo, futhi basize izingane zithole amakhono ezidinga ukuthi ziphumelele," wachaza.
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