Ukuvuthwa kwabazali kubalulekile lapho izingane zingakhula futhi zikhule ngaphandle kwenkinga. Ingane ehlala ekhaya enabazali abangakavuthwa ingabhekana nezinkinga ezinkulu ezingokomzwelo ezizothinta ukwakheka kobuntu bayo.
Kubalulekile futhi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi izinkambiso namagugu atholwa yingane basekelwa ukukhula kwabo ngokwabo.
Isici esingokomzwelo ezinganeni ezinabazali abavuthiwe
Ubaba ongavuthiwe yilowo okuthi, nakuba esemdala, agcine eziphethe njengomuntu osemncane, njengoba kungaba njalo ngo-a intsha. Abenzi ngomthwalo wokuba ngumzali futhi Bahlala bengenanhlonipho futhi benokuziphatha okungafanele iminyaka yabo.
Konke lokhu kuzoba nomthelela omubi esimweni esingokomzwelo sezingane uqobo. Ukungavuthwa kwabazali kusho ukuthi abancane baneqhaza noma iqhaza emndenini okungafanele babe nalo ngenxa yobudala babo. Izingane kwesinye isikhathi kufanele zigqoke imvunulo yabantu abadala nakho konke okubandakanya.
Akuyona into ejwayelekile ukuthi ingane idlale indawo yomuntu omdala nomzali ngoba lokhu kuzosithinta kabi isimo sayo somzwelo. Ubaba kumele abe umuntu omdala futhi abe nochungechunge lwemithwalo yemfanelo ingane yakhe engeke ibe nayo.
Indlela abazali abavuthiwe abaziphatha ngayo
Abazali abavuthiwe banezici eziningi ezibonakalayo:
- Bayenqaba ukuphoqelela uchungechunge lwemithetho ekhaya.
- Baziphatha nezingane zabo njengabangane futhi babeka eceleni indima yabo njengabazali.
- Abanalo noma yiluphi uhlobo lwesibopho endlini futhi angakunaki.
- Abasichithi isikhathi nezingane zabo futhi abazinaki ngokuphelele.
- Abafuni ukubhekana nezinkinga zansuku zonke futhi bakhetha ukuyekelela.
- Ngaphandle kokuhamba kweminyaka, bayaqhubeka nokuziphatha njengezingane.
Izingane ezinabazali abavuthiwe zivame ukungazethembi futhi zingazethembi kakhulu. Lokhu, njengoba sishilo ngaphambili, kuzodala izinkinga ezinkulu ezingokomzwelo enganeni esikhathini esiphakathi nesikhathi eside. Kujwayelekile ukuthi lezi zingane zigcine zihlushwa izifo ezithile zazo zonke izinhlobo.
Amakilasi wabazali angavuthiwe
Ukuziphatha noma ukuziphatha kuzokhombisa izinhlobo zabazali abavuthiwe ukuthi kukhona:
- Abazali abangathatheki yilabo abangacabangi nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ngemiphumela emibi engaba khona ukungavuthwa. Imvamisa ziqondiswa yimizwa futhi azicabangi ngaphambi kokuthatha isenzo esithile.
- Abazali abangenandaba abakhombisi noma yiluphi uphawu lothando nothando ezinganeni zabo nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Ababeki noma yiluphi uhlobo lwemithetho futhi benze sengathi ababona abazali.
- Uhlobo lwesithathu lomzali ongavuthiwe umzali ongenzi lutho. Lolu hlobo lukababa luhlukaniswe ngokuphelele nezingane zakhe ngokomzwelo. Ingane ayinalo uthando lukayise futhi lokhu kunomthelela omubi ekukhuleni kwayo.
- Abazali abanamaphutha bayinhlobo yokugcina yabazali abangavuthiwe laphaya. Laba bazali bathembisa izinto eziningi ekugcineni abazifezi. Bangasungula uchungechunge lwemithetho eguqukayo ngokuya ngezimo noma ngendlela efanele bona.
Ngamafuphi, izingane ezikhulele emndenini lapho abazali bazo bengakakhuli kahle, zithatha uxhaxha lwezibopho ezingafanele ngenxa yobudala bazo. Izingane azikwazi ukuthwala imithwalo yemfanelo engaphezulu kweminyaka yazo futhi zingafuni ukuthi zithathe indima abazali okufanele babe nayo ekhaya. Ukungavuthwa kwabazali kuzoba nemiphumela ekukhuleni okufanele kwezingane. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lezi zingane ziba ngabantu abadala abanezinkinga ezinkulu zokuzethemba futhi uma kukhulunywa ngokuphathelene nabanye.