Ngaphambi kokuqala ukuthuthukisa lokhu okuthunyelwe, ngithanda ukukunikeza iso: "ungakhombisi isihloko kumadodakazi akho nakumadodana akho, ngoba mhlawumbe awavumelani"; manje amahlaya angaphandle, afaka ngempela amancane ngoba mancane ekufezekisweni komsebenzi wasendlini, ibasiza ukuba bathole ukuzimela, bathuthukise amakhono ahlukahlukene futhi bakhule ngokuzibophezela.
Ngiyazi ukuthi emindenini eminingi, iqiniso nje lokuphakamisa ukubamba iqhaza lingaholela ezingxabanweni. Mhlawumbe ukungangeni ezimeni eziyinkimbinkimbi kuya ngolimi noma ithoni esiyisebenzisayo; mhlawumbe kusukela ekwenele komsebenzi ohlongozwayo kuze kube seminyakeni yamantombazane noma yabafana, kepha iqiniso ukuthi singasebenza njengoba abagqugquzeli, kepha futhi bakhuthaza ukunganakwa, ngisho nokuhlubuka. Sizophinda futhi sikhulume 'ngendlela yokubenza bamukele kangcono imisebenzi abayabelwe'. Ngikumema ukuthi uqhubeke nokufunda.
Kungani umsebenzi wesikole ulungele izingane?
Lapho uhlala nabantu abaningi endlini (njengasendabeni yomndeni onezingane ezincane), bamba iqhaza ekuhlelweni nasekuhlanzekeni kwekhaya, isiza ukuzizwa ifana nokuthi 'eyakho', futhi ithatha umthwalo maqondana nokunakekelwa nokunakekelwa kwayo.
Kepha futhi kukhulisa ukumelana nokukhungatheka, njengoba kufanele babhekane namakhono okufunda abangawazi kubo ekuqaleni; futhi badela nengxenye (encane, yebo) yesikhathi sabo samahhala. Ukukhungatheka bese kuphenduka amandla, bona ngokwabo abakubonayo.
Izikhalazo ngokuhlanzeka, ukuhleleka noma isimo samakamelo ahlukene endlini, Zincane lapho izingane zinezinyathelo zokuqala futhi zisebenzisana, ngoba zingabahlanganyeli.
Bangakwazi ukuhlela kangcono isikhathi sabo, futhi yize lokhu kungaphawuleki besebancane, kubalulekile ngesikhathi sobusha.
Njengoba ukwazi ukubona, konke kuyizinzuzo, noma kunjalo futhi kufanelekile ukubona ukuthi akulula, ngaphandle kwalapho umkhuba uqala kusukela lapho umncane. Kubalulekile futhi ukuthi umama nobaba babe yisibonelo, hhayi ekwenzeni imisebenzi ngokulingana, kepha balinganise, ngokuya ngamashejuli omsebenzi nemisebenzi yokunakekela izingane.
Ingabe kunzima ngezingane zakho ukwamukela ukuthi kufanele zisebenzisane?
Njengoba ngishilo ekuqaleni, kwabiwa umthwalo wokubamba iqhaza ekhaya, lowo izingane zakho ezinomkhuba ngalowo mqondo, ungowakho.
Amathiphu wokuqonda kangcono izingane ngokucabanga ngezigaba zazo zokukhula.
Ungakukhohlwa lokho abancane baphila ngokushesha, abanakho ukucabanga okungaqondakali futhi izinhloso zabo zisesikhashana futhi zibambekile.
Kunemisebenzi elula kuwe kepha enganeni engaphansi kweminyaka eyi-14 noma eyi-15 ingaba nzima ukuyiphetha; isibonelo ukuqoqa igumbi ngokuphelele, ukuqoqa WONKE amathoyizi asetshenzisiwe, njll.
Bathanda ukuthi izikhala 'zabo' zikhululekile, ngakho-ke bavunyelwe ukuba nazo (ukuhlobisa, ukuhleleka) ngokuya ngokuthanda kwabo.
Amathiphu okuphatha ukuxhumana uma kukhulunywa ngokubandakanyeka okuningi.
- Yiba nomusa futhi ube nobungane lapho ukhuluma.
- Veza bese ubeka amagama ngqo emicabangweni yakho maqondana nokubambisana (nguwe 'obuza', hhayi labo abafuna 'ukwenza').
- Uma kwenzeka befuna ukuphakamisa, ukuthi bafuna ukubhekana nezinselelo ezintsha obungazange uzicabange, vumela lokho (noma ngabe kungamele ukwenziwa komsebenzi).
- Xoxa lapho udinga usizo olwengeziwe, ungaphoqeleli ... ungavumeli nabo bakuphoqelele (lokhu kubalulekile lapho amadodana namadodakazi esevele eseyintsha).
- Basize noma nini lapho beyidinga khona (ubukhona obudingekayo nobenelisekile busiza ukuzimela kamuva)
- Ungamemezi noma ululaze lapho bengazifezile izibopho zangaphambilini.
Ekugcineni masikukhumbule lokho Akukhona ngokususa lonke udoti lokugcina, noma ukuthi 'ingadliwa' phansi, kepha ukuthi indawo enihlala kuyo iyathandeka futhi nginenza nizizwe kahle.