Ngikhumbula sengathi bekuyizolo amanye amagama (ahlakaniphe kakhulu kimi) umama awasho kimi ngenkathi nginonyaka wesithathu esikoleni samabanga aphansi: «ndodakazi, noma yimaphi amamaki owatholayo, ungakhohlwa ukuthi ngaphezu kwenombolo oyikho umuntu. Futhi abantu bangaphezu kwebanga lesifundo. Kuleli sonto, othisha banikeza abafundi umbiko ngamamaki ezikole. Isonto okuthi kwabanye lidale ukukhathazeka, ingcindezi, ukwesaba nokwaliwa.
Ingxenye yomphakathi (ngaphezu kwalokho abaningi bethu abangathanda) ikhathazwa yilabo abagunyaziwe nabahlulekile. Ngama-nines nangama-eights. Kunothisha abagxila emabangeni esikole kuphela futhi lokho kuyisisekelo sokusebenzisana kwabo nabafundi. Ngamanye amagama, uma umfundi ethole eziyishumi ungumfundi okhaliphile, kanti umfundi othole ezine nohhafu akakhazimulanga kangako futhi akakufanele ukunakwa kangako.
Kepha yini esingayisho ngokusabela kobaba nomama?
Yebo, njengakho konke empilweni, kukhona konke. Kunemindeni ethukuthela ngoba izingane zayo zifeyilile eyodwa bese ziqhubeka nokuzijezisa "ngamabanga amabi esikole" (okuxakayo ukuthi, ukusabela okubi kwabazali kukaningi okubanga ukukhathazeka, ukungaphatheki kahle nokugcwala kwabafundi). Futhi kunemindeni exoxisana nezingane noma nabantu abasha, abaxhumana nabo ngokuqinile, bayabalalela futhi bazame ukuyiqonda.
Ngokuqondile, kokuthunyelwe kwanamuhla kungifikile kimi ukuthi ngikhulume ngokusabela okungafanele kube nakho lapho ngibona amamaki esikole abafundi nengane uma kuqhathaniswa nalokho obekufanele kube nakho. Ake sikuthathe!
Ukufundisa ngokwesaba akusebenzi
Ngiqonde ukuthini ngalokhu? Hhayi-ke kunabazali nothisha abasabisa ngokuthi "awu, uma ungaziphasanga zonke izifundo, uzowuphinda unyaka." "Yebo, uma uvumela yonke into, uzoba nezipho eziningi" «Hhayi-ke, ngizobona ukuthi ubukade ufunda yini uma uletha amamaki akho esikole» «Hhayi-ke, uma unesifundo esisele, sizokuthukuthelela kakhulu». Lezo zinkulumo ziyizinsongo. Izinsongo ezenza abafundi bafunde ngenkani hhayi ngokuzithandela. Izinsongo zokuthi, njengoba ngishilo phambilini, zidala ukukhathazeka, ukungaphatheki kahle nokugcwala ezinganeni nakubantu abasha.
Kodwa-ke, uma imindeni nothisha bakhohlwa ngalezi zinsongo, singakwazi ukubenza bazithole ukufunda kwabafundi kugeleza ngamandla, ngaphandle kokwesaba futhi ngaphandle kwengcindezi. Imayelana nokweseka abafundi nezingane ohambweni lwabo, hhayi ngokubeka izithiyo eziningi ekwindla kwabo kokuqala.
Ukumemeza nokuthukuthela ngamamaki esikole akusona isisombululo
Kukhona abazali (kanye nothisha) abacasukela abafundi nezingane ngokuba namamaki aphansi esikoleni. Kwenzakalani? Abamemeza futhi bakhulume kabi. Ngale ndlela, abafundi bayakhungatheka, badumale phakathi kwabo, badabuke, futhi bangabaze kakhulu amakhono abo namakhono abo. Okungukuthi, Balahlekelwa ukuzethemba kubo, ukuzethemba kwabo kwehla kanye namandla amahle ababengaba nawo ngaphambili kuyehla kancane kancane.
Uma abazali nothisha begcina ukuxhumana okuqinisekisayo nezingxoxo, isimo esihle nokulalela okusebenzayo, abafundi nezingane bazozizwa bephephile, bekhululekile, bekhululekile futhi bengenakho ukukhathazeka. Isikhathi sokuxhasa abafundi ukuthi bathuthuke futhi bakhuthaze umoya wabo wokwenza ngcono. Ngokwami, ngicabanga ukuthi ngentukuthelo nokumemeza akukho lutho olufezwayo ngaphandle kokudala ukungakhululeki okungadingekile nesimo sezulu esishubile sesikole kanye nomndeni.
Ukugxila enombolweni eyodwa kuphela kuyiphutha
Amamaki esikole ngokuvamile ahlaziya isici esisodwa futhi amane nje ama-intelligence amabili: ubuhlakani obunengqondo nobunengqondo bezibalo nezilimi. Ezikhungweni zemfundo, uhlangothi lwabafundi olungokomzwelo nolwezenhlalo kufanele lubhekwe kanye nawo wonke ama-intelligence okuqeqesha abafundi ngokuphelele.
Uma ngihambahamba ngezithangami zemfundo noma ngilalela izingxoxo ezivela kwabanye abazali ngihlala ngithola le nkulumo: "awu, uma uthole abayisikhombisa ezibalweni nakane kwezemfundo yobuciko, akwenzeki lutho." Ngale ndlela, ubeka abafundi nezingane esikhwameni sokukhathazeka ngamamaki amahle. Yini enye, ukunika ukubaluleka kwesinye isifundo kunesinye kubonakala kimi njengephutha.
Kodwa-ke, uma abafundi nezingane bekwazi ukwesekwa kwabazali nothisha futhi bazi ukuthi bangabantu hhayi izinombolo zamamaki esikole kuphela, Bazoba nesikhuthazo esengeziwe sokulwela ukwenza kangcono, ukuzethemba kwabo kuzohlala kulinganisiwe, futhi umqondo wabo uqobo ngeke ube mpofu.
Ukufunda okuyisisekelo emabangeni esikole
"Awufundanga lutho ngokuthola ezine!" "Ngiyabona ukuthi uzwisise yonke into ngoba uthole eziyisishiyagalombili!" Ezikhathini eziningi, kuye kwadingeka ngilalele leyo misho. Ngempela, Ukuthola ishumi noma isishiyagalolunye akuqinisekisi abazali nothisha ukuthi abafundi nezingane bafundile kusukela ukubamba ngekhanda nokuphindaphinda kuyinto evamile. Eqinisweni, kunabafundi abambalwa abathi ngemuva kwesonto bayakhohlwa abakufundile.
Into efaneleke kakhulu kungaba ukukhuthaza ukufunda okusebenzayo nokunenjongo ekilasini. Futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukungakholelwa ukuthi ngokuthola ibanga elihle umfundi ukuqonde konke kahle. Abazali nabo akufanele bakhathazeke ngokweqile kakhulu ngalokho abangakuthola kumanothi esikole. Khumbula ukuthi azikho izivivinyo noma amamaki abahlola abafundi ngokuphelele. Ngakho-ke, uma kukhona ukungabaza ekhadini lokubika, ungethuki noma ucasuke. Akufanele sikhohlwe ukuthi izingane kanye nabantu abasha bayafunda futhi isigqi ngasinye sokufunda sehlukile futhi sehlukile.. Kufanele nje uzame ukukuhlonipha lokho.
Sawubona Mel, uqinisile kanjani… Ngicabanga ukuthi sigxila kakhulu emiphumeleni, ngaphandle kokubheka ukuthi inqubo uqobo lwayo iyinkomba yokuthi intombazane noma umfana uqhuba kanjani. Izingane zethu kumele zijabule futhi kufanele zeneliswe yimfundo eziyinikezwayo, futhi uhlelo lwezemfundo okufanele luguqulwe ngezidingo zezingane, hhayi olunye uhlangothi. Uma ngingaziboni izingane zami zijabule, uma ngingaziboni zikhuthazeka ... okuthile kwehluleka.
Kimi imiphumela yezinombolo iyingxenye kuphela, empeleni iyingxenye encane kakhulu, ngoba ekugcineni ungathola ipasi ngokwenza isilinganiso, noma ululame (uma baseSecondary), bese uyaphinda, yize ngiqinisekile ukuthi akusizi kakhulu, akuyona idrama. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ingane edidekile, noma ekhungathekile, noma enezinkinga ezingagadiwe ... leso yisimo esingahlala singamahlalakhona. Ukungasho ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi sifunela u- "Ovelele" futhi singazinaki izimpawu zokudangala, isibonelo.
Noma kunjalo, ngingumama wezingane ezimbili, futhi uma bejabule ngomphumela, nami ngokunjalo, uma behluleka, angiluli izinwele zami noma ngibalwele ... Leyo mpilo yinhle kakhulu ukuthi ingasenza okumunyu; okumele sikwenze ukuthatha uhlangothi lwabo.
Ukwanga, nokubonga.