Namuhla wusuku luka-Ephreli Wesiwula, ngokwesiko usuku lwamahlaya, futhi selokhu kwavela lo Mqondo kusukela ngeNkathi Ephakathi. Lokho kuseSpain naseLatin America, okuyizindawo kuphela lapho lolu suku lugujwa khona. Sonke sithole amahlaya, futhi siwadlalile, kodwa amahlaya awafani: kunamahlaya ahlekisayo futhi kukhona anzima. Ngokuqondile ngakho kokubili, ukungafani kwabo, umuzwa wokuhlekisa esifuna ukukhuluma nawe.
Amahlaya kuseyindlela yokuziveza nokuxhumana. Isikhathi esiningi lapho umfana noma intombazane isho ngiyadlala, zama ukuzithethelela, Ufuna ukuthi omunye umuntu, ingane noma umuntu omdala, angathukutheli. Kepha imvamisa ihlaya limboza imizwa noma imicabango efihliwe.
Amahlaya nezingane ezinenkinga yokuzihlanganisa
I-Las Amahlaya anezinhloso ezinhle ayindlela yokuxhumana, ayingxenye yokuzijabulisa. Kodwa-ke, kunezingane okungahlukumezeka noma zingaqondwa amahlaya ahlekisayo, kungaba ngoba bengakavuthwa ukuziqonda, noma ngenxa yokuthi banobunzima ngamakhono omphakathi. Kukhona abafana namantombazane abakuthola kunzima ukwenza abangane, futhi bayakwazi ukubekezelela amahlaya asebenzayo ngoba befuna ukuhlala beyingxenye yeqembu noma bamukeleke.
I-Las Amahlaya angaba nzima ezinganeni ezinobunzima bokuhlanganyela ezingxoxweni ukuze ziqonde noma ukuthola izindlela zokuxhumana nomphakathi. Inselelo enkulu ukwazi ukuthi uzophendula kanjani. Abanye abaqapheli ukuthi ngabe othile ubadlalisa ungahlosile noma uzama ukubanukubeza.
Hay ukugcona lokho kugcina ngokuhlukumeza noma kusondele ekuhlukunyezweni. Kubalulekile ukuchazela izingane ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi kuhlukile kunamahlaya. Lokhu akwenziwa ngenhloso yokwenza ubungani noma ukuzwana nothile. Ngokuphambene nalokho: inhloso ukuphoxa isisulu nokwenza isiqhwaga sibonakale singcono futhi siqinile.
Umonakalo amahlaya awenzayo ezinganeni
Abafana namantombazane banomcabango womlingo, okusho ukuthi emqondweni wabo konke kungenzeka. Ngakho-ke amahlaya ohlobo: uyihlo udliwe yimpisi, noma umama wakho wayohlala kwenye iplanethi, lena yimibono izingane ezincane ezingazithatha njengeziyiqiniso. Lapho ingane icubungula lezi zindaba ezimbi, ayihleki, ayizithandi nakancane, kunalokho, iyakhathazeka.
Ngakho-ke enganeni ayikho into esabekayo njengehlaya ngabazali, okungumthombo wakho omkhulu wokusekelwa nokuvikeleka ngokomzwelo. Kufanele uchaze lokhu ezinganeni zakho, nakubantu abaningi abadala futhi, lapho bekwenza.
Futhi lolu hlobo lwamahlaya lungenza uzizwe unecala. Izwe lezinsana lithanda ukuzicabangela futhi liyazihlonipha, okusho ukuthi kumfana, noma entombazaneni konke kuzungeze yena. Ngakho-ke, uma umuntu omdala noma omunye umfowenu omdala ekutshela ngokuntela ukuthi othile ulimele, ingane kungenzeka izibuze ukuthi ngabe yiphutha labo yini bese igcina ikholelwa ukuthi yikho.
Izingane Nemizwa Yamahlaya
Ingane, iqala ukukopisha amahlaya abazali. Bheka i- Ukwamukelwa komphakathi, yihlaya elingokomphakathi, uphinda ngaphandle kokumisa okuthile ake wakwenza engahlosile nokuthi abantu abadala bakuthole kuhlekisa, noma engazi ukuthi kungani. Okungenani yilokho okushiwo isifundo e-University of New Hampshire.
Ezinyangeni eziyi-12, Izingane sezivele zibonakala zinolwazi olwanele lokuphila ukuze zizenzele izinqumo mayelana namahlaya mayelana nokuthi yini emnandi nokuthi yini engekho. Ukusuka lapho, balandela amaphethini wokukhula ajwayelekile kuzo zonke izingane. Ngokusho kukaMeredith Gattis, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo eCardiff University, iminyaka ebucayi yokuqonda amahlaya yiminyaka emibili. Baqala ukuqonda lapho umuntu enza okuthile okungalungile ngenhloso yokwenza abantu bahleke.
Njengoba izingane zikhula zilahlekelwa ukuzenzela okuthile ngenxa yokwethulwa kwazo kancane kancane emhlabeni wabantu abadala. Kepha, uma abazali behleka kaningi futhi bebhekana nezinkinga ngokumomotheka ezindebeni zabo, izingane cishe zizofunda ukusabela ngendlela efanayo. Futhi uma lokho bekunganele, isifundo esivela eUniversité Paris Ouest Nanterre La Défense, eFrance, sathola ukuthi ukuhlekisa kusiza izingane zifunde kangcono, ngoba ukuhleka kwandisa i-dopamine ezingeni lobuchopho futhi kusebenze uhlelo lokuvuza. Futhi ukuhleka namahlaya kuhlala kuhambisana.