UJesús Garrido ungumbhali wencwadi esanda kushicilelwa ethi "Respectful Crianza". Olandela umsebenzi wokufinyelela kulo dokotela wezingane ibona ukukhululeka kokudlulisa ulwazi lwabo ngempilo yengane, nangemva kokufunda incwadi engikwethulela yona namhlanje, ngiyafakaza ukuthi kunjalo. Eqinisweni, bengivele ngicabanga ngakho lapho ngithola noma yikuphi okufakiwe okushicilelwe kubhulogi yakhe Udokotela Wezingane Wami Online.
Kulokho kushicilelwa, engikulandelayo ku-twitter, ngifunde izinto ezimbili: ngakolunye uhlangothi zonke izici ezihlobene nokukhulisa izingane, ukondla noma ukulala zingadluliselwa kubazali ngendlela engokwemvelo, ngaphandle kokusebenzisa ulimi lobuchwepheshe (noma ngabe uchwepheshe wezokwelapha); ngakolunye uhlangothi lapho unxenxa ikhono lokunquma ukuthi abazali banalo, kungcono ukungalilinganisi leli khono, uphendukele ezimfundisweni noma ekukhohliseni izinto ngokweqile. Ngeminyaka eyi-12 yokuba ngumama ngemuva kwami, futhi ngikwazi ukufunda kahle, kungaba nzima kimi ukukhomba ukuthi yikuphi ukufunda okungisizile kakhulu noma obekugculisa ngokwengeziwe, ngithanda ukuhlanganisa zonke izinto ezinhle engizitholayo, futhi wenqabe uhlu lwezincomo okunzima ukuzisebenzisa Manje ngizochaza ukuthi kungani ngiyithanda le ncwadi.
"Ukukhulisa Inhlonipho" Ihlelwe ngu-Oberón (weqembu le-Anaya), futhi kungaba umhlahlandlela wokunakekelwa kwengane eminyakeni emibili yokuqala yokuphila, kodwa futhi kuyisibonelo somqondo ovamile ohlose ukwenza omama nobaba bazizwe bephephe ngokwengeziwe esigabeni esiza nezinguquko eziningi kuwo wonke amazinga.
Futhi uma kubalulekile ukwenza ngokuphepha ngokunakekela izidalwa ezinjalo ezisengozini, Kumelana nengcindezi yemvelo, ngoba njengoba uGarrido eqinisekisa “Umdlalo osabalele kakhulu emhlabeni ukuchazela abanye ukuthi bangazikhulisa kanjani izingane; sonke siyazi ukuthi singakwenza kanjani uma kungeyena othintekayo ”. Bengingakakutsheli okwamanje, kepha kulwazi lwakhe lobungcweti kanye nokukhululeka kwakhe ukudlulisa, umbhali uhlanganisa umuzwa wamahlaya esidinga kakhulu ukuziqonda thina kanye nemvelo yethu.
Emasontweni ambalwa edlule, enkulumweni engayethula, umama wakhuluma ngokuthi eminye imindeni ibukeka iphelele kangakanani uma iqhathaniswa neyakhe; kepha lowo ngumbono ongalungile, awu kungukungapheleli kwethu okusisiza sakhe umndeni ophelele, inqobo nje uma sihambisa intshisekelo yezingane neqembu lomndeni uqobo. Futhi ngikutshela lokhu ngoba bengikuthanda kakhulu ukubona lo mbono ubonakala encwadini.
Umbono wokuba ngumzali obonwe kusuka kubhalansi.
Ibhalansi enzima ongayithola kokunye ukushicilelwa: ngandlela thile ngokuthuthuka kobuchwepheshe nokuphazamiseka kwalokho esikwaziyo njenge-web 2.0, bakuphazamisile. Uzobona, Njengoba uJesu echaza, imindeni eminingi ilala ndawonye, noma okungenani izingane zayo zilala ezandleni zomuntu omdala, kepha akulona iqiniso elincane ukuthi zonke izingane zigcina zilala zodwa eminyakeni eyodwa noma kwenye, kungani-ke ama-radicalism? Enye inkinga eyimpikiswano ukuncelisa ibele, uGarrido ungumvikeli oqinile, uhlala eqonda ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi 'izimo ziyala' futhi kukhona abanye omama abathola ngempumelelo ukuncelisa ubisi lwebele.
Kusuka kubhalansi, nasemqondweni ojwayelekile, ngoba yimuphi umzali ofuna ukuthi njengomkhandlu wokuba ngumzali banikeze imihlahlandlela eqinile okungenzeka ukuthi ayihambelani nezidingo nezigqi zomndeni wabo?
Ukuba ngumzali okuhloniphayo kuyindlela yokuqonda impilo yengane, ngokususelwa kokwehluka nokuyihlonipha. J. Garrido
Ingabe ingane yakho ingokwemvelo noma irobhothi?
Kule ncwadi uzothola ukuthi umndeni wakho awuphelele kepha ujabulile (futhi lokhu-ke, kungcono kakhulu kunokuba "ophelele futhi ongajabule"); kanye namathiphu okuqonda noma ukondla umntwana osanda kuzalwa. Ukuncelisa ibele kuphela, ukushintsha kwamaphethini okulala, izinyathelo ezibalulekile ekukhuleni kwezingane ezisukela eminyakeni engu-0 kuye kwengama-24 ubudala. Uzoqonda futhi yonke inqubo yokukhula nobudlelwano bomndeni kusuka kumbono wenoveli osuselwa kuzimbazo ezintathu: Ukudla, Ukulala nokuPhila Ndawonye.a, ngokubaluleka ngamunye wabo anakho.
Futhi into eyodwa eyangidonsela amehlo, futhi ngangifuna ukukutshela, umbono uGarrido asidlulisela wona: kwesinye isikhathi izeluleko ezitholwa ngabazali azinaki iqiniso lezingane, eziguqukayo futhi ezinezigqi ezahlukahlukene kubantu abadala, abadinga ukuhlonishwa. Ngenxa yalokho, laba abancane babonakala sengathi bangamarobhothi, kanti cha; indodana noma indodakazi yakho akudingeki ukuthi ifake izibalo, ihlangabezane nokulindelwe noma ihlangabezane namazinga ... kumane nje kuyingane, lapho unokuningi ongakufunda khona, kepha ngaphezu kwakho konke lapho kuzodingeka uvumelane nezenzo zakho eziningi zansuku zonke.
Umbhali wenza izingane ezihloniphayo, futhi uvumela abazali bathathe izintambo zokukhulisa izingane, ngoba kuhlala kunezinketho, kepha ngaphezu kwakho konke ngoba ingane ngayinye nengane ngayinye yehlukile, futhi inezindlela zayo eziguqukayo. Ukukhulula omama nobaba kusuka 'kokwesaba', cishe okungenakugwemeka (ikakhulukazi ngengane yokuqala) kungenye yezinjongo ezihlangatshezwa ngokufunda i- "Respectful Parenting".
Ngiyithandile le ncwadi, futhi ngikholelwa ngobuqotho ukuthi izokulethela okuningi. Uzokuthola esitolo sakho sezincwadi esijwayelekile, noma ku-Amazon.